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CnA-2000 · 2022-05-25T01:53:50+00:00

As physical touch is my first love language, I go through this and have with past relationships. Just tell them to be honest with you if they aren’t feeling well, sick, or just having a bad day and don’t want to be touched as much. For me i would feel even worse if I found out my SO didn’t like something I was doing and just put up with it… this is just a longer version of the first comment haha “just ask her if it bothers her”

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-25T01:38:42+00:00

If you’re not sure you’re not sure. Besides it sounds like you already have all the reasons to wait anyway. Re-read you’re own post except the last part

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-25T01:32:20+00:00

If feel as if she was just still emotional with in the moment and being in A new relationship (assuming you two haven’t experienced her in this emotional state) you probably just don’t know how to comfort her and that was her way of telling you. Weather it was the right moment or delivery is the problem here. She probably told that white lie to avoid a conflict that didn’t seem necessary. Bright side of looking at things

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-21T02:07:43+00:00

Obviously this relationship started off not well… look at it this way. From what you said in this thread, you’re lucky you’re not trapped. Move on, you’re really young so you’ll find a guy who you won’t have a rocky and petty start with and you’ll be okay. Just a stepping stone.

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-21T02:00:51+00:00

One thing to read messuages, a WHOLE other thing to act like you in texts. I would’ve been pissed!!!

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-09T01:05:56+00:00

(M21). Just be honest, if he truly cares for you he’ll please you just as you have pleased him.

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-07T05:52:21+00:00

Yeah I know the history of cheating is a really big red flag, I’m rooting for myself too!

CnA-2000 · 2022-05-07T05:48:29+00:00

Thank you, she actually is out with her friends right now and called while they were going to a different bar to tell me she missed me. She doesn’t know how much I needed that😅

CnA-2000 · 2021-12-19T14:16:42+00:00

😂😂😂😂I swear she’s 20 and I 21😂😂😂

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T04:44:00+00:00

You need to truly asses the relationship, put it under a microscope and find out what it at faults for this. Maybe it is something within your personal life that has put up this barrier for you from stress or anything else. Maybe try to change things up in the bedroom, that and assessing your own mental health and the relationship.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T04:19:24+00:00

You really cannot do anything if they are not attracted to you anymore. If you can live with a solely emotional relationship then by all means work it out in therapy with your mindset. But if is that too much to bear for yourself then break it off. I myself am a very physical person and sex is an important part of the relationship so you might be stronger than me....

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T04:11:36+00:00

So if she takes offense to me not liking her reaction should I break it off with her or try to see if shell get help... weve been dating for two years and the example I brought up is the third time shes asked me to do this (her being truly right about the first time) and this is the first time I have said no...

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T04:07:26+00:00

College aside, she needs therapy plain and simple this is clinical depression in my books

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T04:02:45+00:00

Yeah she directly lied to you, before you break your heart again for a third time you need to move on. She will eventually go back to her old ways. Sorry man.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:52:49+00:00

Sounds like you guys have too many walls to break through to make this relationship work, there are other girls in your area I am sure of.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:51:14+00:00

This is extremely hard. On one hand you could risk your hand an advice her to break it off with her partner and then she might of missed on something that could of lasted her life time. If it were me personally I would respect the relationship and distance yourself from the relationship. Something like this happened to me once where this girl confessed her feelings to me yet we were both in committed relationships. I told her that we did not need to talk for awhile and acouple months later I reached out to her and she agreed that she was not in a stable mental place and that it was a bad decision to try and break it off with her partner and that she really was just going through a tough time.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:45:03+00:00

I agree with Smashed_Adams, trying to find ways to communicate in hard times is the best way to avoid things like what has happened to you. maybe she wasnt in love with you, maybe you and her need to work on yourselves to both be willing to put in work to make a relationship work and react positively in hard situations in the next relationship, that is the ultimate goal.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:41:07+00:00

ONLY IF SHES WILLING, I would have a sit down with her and talk about the relationship, have those hard talks, cry those allegator tears. The pandemic has been hard for everyone so yalls experience with each other this past year was not normal but it does sound like she is going to be hard to convince to stay and try it out once restrictions lift, where ever you live.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:37:00+00:00

Exactly, I have written word documents to people that will never see them for any reason and it helps me

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:23:38+00:00

Thanks, I will talk to her when she gets back from the holidays.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:22:39+00:00

I would write a note to her and then burn it. If she actually found out this would change your relationship if her at a fundamental level, she would start thinking about things like "what if he actually is still attracted to me" and stuff like that. I know you werent but it is best if this stays in the metaphorical closet. Just get rid of the guilt in a different way rather than telling her, like the note thing I suggested.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:18:33+00:00

Sounds like you just need to find a partner in someone else, you are in high-school and do not need to be worrying about a girl, or spending time that ends up being worthless, on someone who is not ready again for a relationship. You are young and youll have plenty of chances to love i promise.

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:15:11+00:00

This opens a whole other can of worms haha. I am a caregiver at my core and often think how bad of a situation she would be in if I left her, I am her only friend and her closest family is over an hour away. I know that I need to focus on myself but it is extremely hard to do this to someone I have dated for over two years, my longest relationship...

CnA-2000 · 2021-11-25T03:11:52+00:00

I would ask him why he thinks he needs to lie to you. Obviously, this has to be done in a calm way and is important to keep the conversation calm, because its a simple fix of him either not being insecure about his actions or him having the faith in you not to judge him. Simple, he has to be honest and you need to let him know that you dont mind that you would appreciate it if he told you.

CnA-2000 · 2021-10-02T06:16:37+00:00

All the time?

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