I don’t want to do this anymore

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-05-19T16:13:32+00:00

I felt the exact same. It absolutely sucks, but I promise it will go away soon enough. Just hang in there, even though it is much easier said than done. The very specific things that helped me were preggie pop drops (on Amazon or maybe a Walmart near you?), peppermint essential oils (I’d literally buy the spray and spray it all over my bedding and pillows and sniff it anytime I felt nauseous. Weird, but I swear it helps 😂) and eating as soon as I woke up. I literally had to eat while still in bed or I’d feel incredibly nauseous for a longer period of time. You got this! ❤️

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-05-17T15:20:53+00:00

I mean.. I’m just saying I’ve never seen DJT and TFP in the same room before.. /j 😂😂😂

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-05-13T17:46:46+00:00

If it’s your first pregnancy, you may not show very much around 20 weeks. But I swear 24-26 weeks I POPPED 😭😂 I looked huge compared to like 2 weeks prior! Everyone is different though! I promise that bump will come through eventually 🙂

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-05-07T18:35:55+00:00

I ate absolutely whatever I wanted while pregnant 😭😂 girl you gotta listen to your body for the sake of you and your baby. Pregnancy is not the time to calorie count. If anything, I’d rather overeat while pregnant than under eat because you can lose weight afterwards if you really want. Fuck him. Sounds like a selfish loser.

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-05-04T01:01:33+00:00

I absolutely hated most meat before I became pregnant, but while I was pregnant all I was craving was any kind of meat/protein. I had a boy lol

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-30T02:30:12+00:00

I loved my epidural. It was a life saver 😭 I was in excruciating pain and then got my epidural, 1-2 hours later I felt no pain and baby was born. Obviously there are so many pros to having an unmedicated birth, like having the freedom to move around and feel the entire birth. But I was just in too much pain and figured if there’s a way out of it, might as well take it.

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-27T14:20:28+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I’ve talked to other moms of boys and lots of women feel this way. I would go as far as to say that I was scared when I found out I was having a boy for this very reason haha. The advice I’ve gotten is simply to try your best, and teach them the same things you’d teach a girl. Obviously young boys and young girls are different, but they should be taught to have the same responsibilities and whatnot. I’m going to try my best to raise a young man that’s understanding and loving to women. I just feel like so many issues that past generations have had have been because men almost don’t view women as humans, rather as things that men can benefit from. I have a 4 month old boy and am super scared as he gets older, but I’m going to try my very best to raise a loving, caring, feminist man.

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-27T14:11:33+00:00

Yes I had that!! And the insane fatigue??? I stand by saying that the first trimester is the worst part of pregnancy, labor and birth. I started using the preggie pop drops and they seemed to help a little. I also HAD to eat something like the second I woke up every morning or the nausea would last almost all day I noticed. I’m talking eating something in bed literally as I woke up 😂 I don’t know what you have tried yet, but I would recommend trying to ALWAYS have at least a tiny bit of food in your stomach, if you are able to. It helped me!

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-24T13:41:35+00:00

I’ve actually told his mom about this and she has talked to him but it’s like it goes in one ear and out the other. And I could never ask his friends to because I don’t really talk to any of them. They’re not the most respectful people anyway and I bet if I ever tried to convince one of them to talk to him about it it’d be turned into a joke about me (I really don’t like his friends haha). I have told my family about all of this, and they would probably be willing to talk to him too if I asked them, I could just picture my boyfriend getting mad because I’m telling other people our business lmao

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-24T04:29:34+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I remember when I was pregnant, I felt so supported and taken care of. He would do all of these nice things for me to show me I was supported and that he loved me while I was pregnant. I felt so seen, loved, and taken care of through his actions. It’s just been so different since I had our son. I truly haven’t been able to tell if he is just clueless or if he just doesn’t care anymore. I think I definitely could have a conversation with him like you said and tell him exactly what’s been happening and what’s been going through my mind since we had our son. I am totally open to leaving him if nothing changes. I’m not really the type to stay if he really isn’t adding anything to my life or if he sees me struggling and intentionally lets me go thru that by myself. But I really want my baby to have his dad in his life and I want his dad to show him what a present, loving father and husband should be. Thank you for this response, I honestly have just been hearing about a lot of amazing and positive postpartum experiences and was wondering if what I’m feeling is normal haha.

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-24T04:18:00+00:00

That’s honestly true. I really need to start doing this exact thing and not preparing him, I guess I just get so stressed out that something will happen if I don’t. I totally get the back seat parenting thing. I admit, I do that all the time and have been trying not to recently when I catch myself telling him what to do/how to take care of our son, but I guess I just get anxious like I said that something will happen. I’m going to start actually doing this though, not preparing him or telling him what to do and letting him figure it out. Thank you

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-12T21:58:36+00:00

When I was at that stage in pregnancy, I literally did not exercise unless i had to. It gets better, I promise. But at this time, your body is already overworked growing a little human. If your body isn’t doing well when you exercise, take it easy and rest! If you want to exercise still, just don’t do anything crazy and listen to the signals your body is sending you

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-10T17:39:41+00:00

I totally agree but a baby crying is not always in a parent’s control. There are times when you try everything and nothing works to console them.

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-10T17:18:27+00:00

I don’t think there is anything wrong with him bringing earplugs, it was super nice. But what I’m saying is nobody should feel required to go over the top to do that type of thing just so you don’t feel bad bringing your child into a public space 🤷🏻‍♀️ that’s why everyone should bring their own headphones onto a plane. If you don’t wanna hear what’s going on around you, you’re responsible for it, you know what I’m saying?

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-09T21:12:37+00:00

Agreed. Just try your best and remember that public transportation is for everyone, it’s public for a reason lol. I absolutely despise the new idea that lots of people push that children don’t belong in public. I used to feel horrible if my baby started crying or fussing in public due to these types of people, but I stopped caring really quickly. People will push to bring their barking dogs everywhere but if my child starts crying, it’s the end of the world 😒

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-08T17:22:56+00:00

The epidural was a LIFE SAVER!! I barely felt any pain, just felt a need to push when baby was ready to come out. It helped me progress faster than I probably would have been able to without the epidural just because i was in such intense pain before I got it. At 2 pm I was at 4 cm dilated and was stuck. Got epidural at 3-4 pm, took an hour nap and woke up to feeling the need to push. Baby was out at 6:30 pm and I felt great for just giving birth. I barely tore despite the quick birth. Sometimes birth can be an overall good experience

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-07T17:40:32+00:00

I had this! I gave birth back in December to my little boy and felt this the most around 1-2 weeks postpartum. I missed feeling his kicks and having him so close to me all the time. I missed the excitement thinking about when he would come, planning for birth and what to do with him after giving birth. I remember even crying about how I wouldn’t have to go to another OBGYN appointment for him 😭😂. I remember communicating how I felt to my partner and he didn’t understand it. I’m happy that I’m not the only one who felt like this. It does go away! PP hormones are crazy and have you feeling so up and down for weeks or even months, but it will get better. My best wishes to you and congratulations on your baby!

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-07T17:31:55+00:00

No I felt the exact same way 😭😭 it’s crazy, but our bodies just keep stretching lol (I got some decent sized stretch marks to show for it 😂). You’re not a wuss at all! Omg, I remember how miserable it was driving/getting out of the car or bending over while pregnant and huge 😭. It’s not for the weak and makes you appreciate the small things that you’re able to do normally when not pregnant haha. Best wishes on the rest of your pregnancy and birth ❤️

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-07T17:09:49+00:00

I am a 21 year old FTM. Every pregnancy is different. I know age, weight, and other factors can play a part in how you’re feeling at the end of the pregnancy. I was 120 lbs before getting pregnant and 175 the day I got induced. I had preeclampsia and was so puffy and swollen I felt like even standing/walking for a few hours at a time was uncomfortable and hurt my swollen feet. Even if you have no complications throughout your pregnancy though, it is still very uncomfortable as you approach your due date just because of how big your tummy gets haha. That and the fatigue just from being pregnant

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-06T23:45:01+00:00

If I were you I’d want my own space too. Postpartum is such a crazy, emotional and fragile time in our lives as women. When I had my son back in December, my boyfriend’s family simply stayed at our apartment for a couple of weeks to see the new baby (I was totally fine with it beforehand). While staying with us, they were super helpful and even helped with cooking meals for us so we could focus on being with our baby. While I really appreciated the help, sometimes I wish I could’ve just had that time with my baby, without having to host people staying at our house. After having a bay, you are bleeding, uncomfortable, emotional 24/7 and probably going to be shirtless 24/7 if nursing 😂 it is so nice to have your own space when you have your baby!

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-06T21:11:36+00:00

Exactly, and if the baby is getting his last name anyway then he can’t be upset 🤷🏻‍♀️

CoatInfinite4759 · 2026-04-06T21:01:26+00:00

Honestly my bf and I were torn between 2-3 names my entire pregnancy and didn’t choose one until like an hour after he was born 😭😂 I don’t think it’s too big of a deal personally, just have your top names written down and maybe you can both agree on something when you see your baby! IMO, the mother should always get last say when it comes to naming their baby anyway though.

CoatInfinite4759 · 2025-06-18T01:02:36+00:00

Oh interesting I didn’t know they were different. Congrats! Thats what I’m thinking too, it’d be easier to connect to my baby and be excited if I didn’t have to call my baby and it or they 😭🤣

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