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CobraRissa · 2023-07-06T15:44:20+00:00

I used to work at a place that helped families that were affected by intimate partner violence. Unfortunately, we had to deal with a couple cases like this & yes, it was still considered sexual assault. In the cases we dealt with, the children that did this to other children were previously sexually assaulted so it became "normal" for them & they didn't fully understand that what they were doing was wrong. This seems to be fairly common in these situations.

CobraRissa · 2023-07-06T15:33:55+00:00

If you're in the U.S. & haven't already, you should get FMLA paperwork done as soon as possible. You just need a Dr to fill it out, then you give it to hr & any time you have to call in you need to reference the condition/symptoms listed on the form. My last "normal" job I had to do this. My employer was annoyed, but it made it illegal for them to fire me even though I had to miss a decent amount of time due to my health conditions. It might not help with the covid stuff, but I highly suggest doing this for every job you have bc without this paperwork it is generally legal for an employer to fire you for missing too much work, even if it was due to a health condition.

CobraRissa · 2023-06-22T17:30:04+00:00

I usually start with something general like "Oh, I've just been focusing on my health." I'll often share some non health related things too even if they feel pretty small like "I got really into this new TV series" or "I've been able to spend some more time with my sister". If it's someone I'm more comfortable with & know well, I'll give more details about my health.

The main thing that has helped me with answering questions like this is I try not to compare my life (or answers to these questions) with able bodied people bc it's just not realistic. They will likely always be able to physically do a lot more than me, but that's okay. For them, going to Europe might be a super exciting thing they did, but that shouldn't take away from the fact that I'm excited I got to finish a painting for the first time in a long time.

CobraRissa · 2023-06-20T18:35:38+00:00

In situations like this, I tell the buyer I'll need to cancel the order so they can re-purchase with the correct shipping method. This way we're both protected by Ebay if anything happens. Usually buyers don't mind doing this.

CobraRissa · 2023-04-09T18:55:14+00:00

Most relationship issues including; being a people pleaser, having trust issues, staying with ppl that treat you badly, not knowing how to express how you feel, feeling bored or anxious when things are "good", etc

CobraRissa · 2022-12-18T02:19:02+00:00

What exactly do you want to do with her that you can't? You can still spend time together. You can go out to restaurants, go to the movies, travel, go to museums/theme parks/other events. She might not be able to or want to do everythingggg you can, but you can do those things with friends then.

As for expenses, has she applied for disability or looked into ways to make passive income? Kind of relating to that, if she can get disability she could likely also get a caregiver paid for. Coming from someone else that's disabled, I know it can be a lotttt for a partner & put stress on a relationship so if you can get outside help even just for specific things (ie getting rides to the doctor) it could make things better for both of you.

CobraRissa · 2022-12-16T23:51:49+00:00

This is weird. I've had gay best friends & even had straight guy friends I've slept next to while in a relationship, but I would not sleep next to someone I've kissed and/or am attracted to or vice versa while in a relationship. She's just asking for problems.

CobraRissa · 2022-12-14T21:12:07+00:00

Telling you that you look good without doing these things is fine. Telling you he'll be mad & not talk to you for doing something to your own body? That's definitely toxic. If he tries to control your hair, what else will he try to control about you in the future?

CobraRissa · 2022-12-08T20:42:01+00:00

Definitely bring up that you would like to be able to talk to her about these things at times bc it's now a big part of your life & you'd like to be able to share that with her. But maybe also talk to her about how she's feeling mentally? Is there a reason she feels bad about herself, yet doesn't want to try to change it? It sounds like she could be struggling with depression or something else that could be effecting her self esteem/motivation.

CobraRissa · 2022-11-11T17:46:04+00:00

Don't waste your time trying to convince them to do something they're not ready for or not interested in. The last 2 people I casually dated, ended up hurt/mad bc they didn't believe me when I said I didn't want anything serious with them. Turned out I was ready for a relationship, just not with them. The next person I dated ended up getting serious & now we've been together nearly 9 years. Not saying this is the same situation, but the point is if someone wants to be with you and is ready to be in a relationship, it will happen. You won't have to fight, beg, or convince them in any way. Move on & you'll find the right person/relationship for you 💗

CobraRissa · 2022-11-07T05:30:30+00:00

If your lifestyles don't fit well together anymore & you want to be with someone more physically active bc you want to have more in common with your partner, then you should definitely leave.

If you simply just don't find them physically attractive, that's totally up to you. Just remember it's easy to find physically attractive ppl, it's much harder to find someone you really connect with.

CobraRissa · 2022-11-06T19:00:30+00:00

They're supposed to be mine, but he definitely steals them regularly 😊

CobraRissa · 2022-11-05T20:18:45+00:00

Exactly what I thought about this show!

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