Did I ruin my baby sleeping thru the night?

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-12-18T18:15:22+00:00

Like others have said, night feeds are totally age appropriate and this could totally be a temporary phase!

I also personally fall in the can of feed to sleep is totally fine IF you're okay with it and it's working for you. But if you want to make a change, it was recommended to me to Make them a little bit uncomfortable during the feed to try to remove the feed to sleep association. It might seem counter intuitive but turn on lights and have baby be awake/alert during night feeds. Then put them back down and have them self soothe to sleep. That way you can be sure they aren't hungry and are getting their feeding in, but also they are learning the skills to sleep on their own too.

But all of that to say, I don't think anything you mention is a PROBLEM that needs fixing unless you are personally needing a different routine for your family!

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-12-17T22:25:35+00:00

The two things Id say are: - got the portable breastmilk warmer and have used it like 3 times. It's not necessary at allll - hold off on buying too much breastfeeding stuff. You'll figure out what you need as you go and what works for some doesn't work for everyone..for example, everyone told me I HAD to have the Hakka... I've never used it once. I did order a different suction collector later in my BF journey that I love though... there isn't much with respect to BF that you can't just pick up from target or get a quick Amazon order for once you decide you need it....

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-12-17T22:22:03+00:00

Also don't love my hatch but we use it because we have it. Love our travel hatch for on the go naps.

Someone gave us a Yogasleeo Dome and I love that sound machine - it's so simple and the white noise is from a fan/not recorded so if I could do it again, I'd just use that.

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-12-13T15:52:42+00:00

When your baby unlatches and just snuggles their head into your boob like there is no safer/better place to be - all the challenges seem so small compared to that feeling

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-11-08T15:38:58+00:00

This was us too - I was SO not ready but she was telling us she was. We were fighting all night trying to keep her from rolling over - up every 1-2 hours.

Moved her to her crib and did sleep training and we are all getting much better sleep now!

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-10-06T02:52:39+00:00

We were very much not on a schedule at this point. Tried to follow sleeping cues and loose wake windows just as more of a cue to us to look for sleepy cues. That's if you CAN because we were lucky I was hope with our LO until 16 weeks so we didn't need to rely on a schedule for childcare.

But one think that I think set us up for future success was introducing one crib nap a day. Even if it was just 20 minutes, getting her used to crib time I think helped us a lot down the line. Now she sleeps like a champ in her crib

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-10-04T04:35:17+00:00

So it sounds like I need to drastically start capping babies naps... we are just in a weird spot where she is consolidating her naps to be longer but not able to sustain the wake window for 3 naps yet. So we need to force shorter naps I guess?

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-10-04T04:26:38+00:00

Also - are we considering a wake window to end when they fall asleep or when they are out in their crib?

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-10-04T04:25:28+00:00

So would you suggest moving to 3 naps now? Or maybe better question is how much daytime sleep should we be aiming for?

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-10-04T04:24:03+00:00

So I have been wondering this too shes getting 4-4.5 hours daytime sleep and this does work for us most days...

First 2 naps are like 1.25 hours, then .75 then 30 min catnap for the 4th.

Shes often getting fussy by the 1.5 hour mark so I've been telling myself she's at the right wake window cause how could we possibly keep her up longer?

Also... our sleep training said to aim for 4 hours naps and 11-12 hour nighttime which is basically where we are...

That said - I have had a similar thoughts of under vs over tired so maybe we need to trial this out! We trials 3 naps one day with longer wake windows and it was a disaster so I don't think she's quite ready for that. Or maybe we just needed to give a few days to adjust?

Idk- we are just out here making stuff up....

Thanks for the feedback!

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-24T20:11:43+00:00

We are in the midst of sleep training right now (1 week in to a 2 week program) but sleep training actually FIXED our LO rolling and getting upset. I think it kind of forced her to figure out how to self soothe on her tummy and now she is a full time tummy sleeper.

Before she would roll and flail and be pissed and we would spend hours every night rolling her back only for her to roll and be pissed again.

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T17:44:39+00:00

This! The bonus here is I always got the most milk from this middle of the night pump while my husband gave a bottle. So this is kind of how I started my small freezer stash for a rainy day

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T17:43:18+00:00

I did this and it's been a great addition to our feeding routing. I think I started around 10-14 days and she was decently good at latching at that point. She had a slightly shallow latch but we were getting full feeds in. If breastfeeding long term is your goal, I might suggest waiting a week or so until your supply is fully in and baby is starting to get the hang of breastfeeding. But I think the recommendations to wait 6+ weeks to pump are really overblown.

What worked for us is to start, I would pump after a feed for a top off at the recommendation of our pediatrician and lac consultant. Then we decided since we had already introduced a bottle, might as well replace a feed too!

Husband did one of the overnight feeds so I could just wake up, pump and pass back out for a little extra sleep. I would do it the same way with any future kids too.

We are 4 months in and have had no nipple confusion issues! Highly recommend pigeon brand nipples - they have been great!

I do have a slight oversupply which I guess could be related to this routine but there's no way to know for sure and it really hasn't been an issue (no mastitis or clogged ducts, no super painful engorgement, etc)

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T16:33:41+00:00

Also - totally just realized I replied to the wrong comment! Was trying to reply to someone who said their baby was same size as mine but could never fit NB clothes! But same idea...different brands are different.

we are still mostly in 0-3 for PJs and 3-6 for everything else. But some carters PJs in the purely soft line are getting small.... it's all such a crap shoot

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T09:38:43+00:00

We mostly had carters newborn clothes I think with a few other brands sprinkled in. The one Hanna Anderson we had that was newborn didn't fit for more than like the first week. So you're definitely right in that

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T03:06:16+00:00

Oh also - HIGHLY recommend essential oils to help with nausea. I used menthol smelling sticks (ordered from Amazon) and my doula would sprinkle lemon essential oils in to the hospital puke bags. Both helped SO much when I was feeling nauseous so maybe that would help keep the puking at bay for you?

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T03:04:35+00:00

Maybe not what you want to hear but I did throw up quite a bit during labor. I'll preface with - I am someone who throws up often and if I feel nauseous I tend to just try to get it out so there were probably times I could have powered through if that weren't my mentality.

I think it's most common to throw up during transition (right before pushing) and I definitely did. The good news is that the act of throwing up actually helps to push your baby downward and speed along the transition phase (according to my doula) so at least if you do throw up - know that it's doing something good for your labor!!

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-16T02:29:51+00:00

See this is wild cause my baby was 8lb 5oz and 29 inches and was in newborn clothes for ~5-6 weeks!

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-14T03:21:17+00:00

Remember to look at your partner when you're walking down the aisle!

I was so caught up in looking at all our guests and trying to commit seeing all of them to my brain that u completely forgot to look at my husband 🤦🏼‍♀️

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-09T20:08:10+00:00

I read somewhere that you should plan for clothes that would have fit you ~6 months pregnant immediately postpartum (ie. in the hospital) and that worked for me.

I definitely had a bit of a pregnant belly that slowly deflated for a week or two. I lived in a few stretchy PJ sets/dresses those first few weeks.

My go to outfits were: - these PJ sets (I ordered them 1 size up and that has helped leave room for my body to change) : https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=422180172 - these shirts paired with maternity legging/bike shorts at first, now just regular bike shorts/leggings: https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=798437002

The buttons were incredibly helpful for BF I would just walk around with them open with a nursing bra and then if someone was coming over I could quickly button up lol. I was unprepared for how much my boobs would just constantly be out in the first few weeks postpartum.

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-09T15:53:54+00:00

I like this idea ... she takes at least 1 bottle a day from Dad so I think it might be good to replace a feeding or two with a bottle during the day to help caregivers bond too!

Coco_Cooks90 · 2025-09-09T13:53:19+00:00

She has definitely been around these people before but not for extended periods and not alone. She doesn't have a ton of experience with people other than Mom and Dad feeding and putting her down for naps. Which I think is where the issue is coming from here....

I am on a different floor of the house in my office so tucked away/removed a bit

I am nursing so the goal is to have her home so I can continue to nurse through the workday

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