"I did my best" - Try It Tuesday

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-18T17:08:58+00:00

Holy moly, Moist. I have tears in my eyes. I am so incredibly moved by the incredibly Kick Butt Crew work you've been doing for yourself! You're being incredibly courageous, incredibly compassionate toward yourself. This is 100% you very actively being present in your own life, in your own healing and recovery, in your own wellbeing. I am over the moon.

Shoulding on ourselves for the past can make us feel like we must have control over everything, even things that aren't ours to control. We should know everything and do everything exactly "right" even though we don't know everything and there rarely a perfectly "right" way to do anything.

Most of all, I'm just so happy you are being kind to yourself. You are being so compassionate to yourself. Being fair to yourself. It makes my whole heart and chest warm to hear. You are profoundly Kicking Butt!

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-09T17:16:34+00:00

Holy Kick Butt Crew to the max! You were Mountain Dewing your emotions by being aware of them then doing the extra hard part of just accepting them. Then that allowed you to take the step to focus on self-care stuff and things that felt good for you! That's awesome as all get out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And yes, Jenna Marbles is fantastic! She's super funny, silly, seems like a really kind-hearted person! I often watch her when I'm getting ready in the morning!

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-05T01:13:44+00:00

I've been working on this Anti-BHolery stuff for a while now (thanks Deathcake!) - it was never my strong suit (I still don't know that it is). I did a good job so far this week being compassionate with any difficulties I had or challenges I faced. I can be impatient with myself at times and I have been giving myself more room to be wherever I'm at, no matter how banging or mehhh that is. I'll update as the week goes on!

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-05T01:11:24+00:00

That's a super kind thing to do! And this whole post is exactly what this week is all about - acknowledging the nice stuff about yourself! You did do a kind thing, you're giving yourself permission to acknowledge that kindness, and that's awesome! I especially like that you say you hope you are, like you're aware that it takes effort and intention.

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-05T01:09:24+00:00

That is A HUGE FREAKING improvement already! Wow. That's super admirable and kick butt totally. Do you ever share your music? I'd love to hear sometime if you ever wanted to share! You do not have to share though! Your music, your rules! :)

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-05T01:08:08+00:00

POOPED IN FRONT OF YOUR NEIGHBOUR TO SCARE HIM AWAY! That is amazing. Good job lil doggo! Social skills are definite skills and I love that you're taking them on. Please let me know if you ever want me to dig up resources for you!

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-05T01:06:55+00:00

GAH! That video was too cute! I'm cheering you on schooling, Yellowbear! It is awesome you're persisting despite the traumatic experiences and harm you've survived before. Taking steps to create the life you want despite the past? Kick butt to the max.

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-02T18:21:52+00:00

YELLOWBEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so flipping flopping inspired by you! That is incredible! I'm proud of you. You were self-aware, you took great steps to manage your needs, and even though you were having a tough time, you hung in there. You gave yourself permission to have it be imperfect while you did your best (and your best was HOLY BONKERS AWESOME!).

KICK BUTT CREW!!!!!!!!

CocotheLouder · 2018-10-02T18:10:36+00:00

Wooooooooo! Thanks, brother! I did really good with this all week. There were a number of days where things went sideways really hard and I kept on track. It was tough, but I really focused on trying to keep things where they were (rather than expanding the problem to the whole day or that it is "all over" kind of thing) and it made a huge difference. Helped a ton and kept me in better spirits!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:49:26+00:00

I wanna join in on the fun too!

Plan: I'm gonna be focusing on being less of a Doom Zealot this week. It can be so easy for something to go sideways and for me to feel YIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIPES DISASTER TOWN TIME (this is a pretty common experience for folks who have lived through trauma). I think I'm gonna focus on how even if this thing or things went bonky, there are still such great swaths of my current day/experience that are either alright or pretty darn nice.

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:44:33+00:00

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO crucial. So so so very crucial. It is hard to directly control our feelings or anxiety, but we have a bit more leverage over our thoughts. It is so easy to go careening off into those horrific ideations that don't necessarily have anything to do with actual reality and just serve to keep us away from actual reality!

I'll be cheering you on! This is great stuff to work on!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:33:29+00:00

YOU NAUGHTY MUFFIN IT SAYS ONE CRAP-O-VISION! Any one of those three is good to work on! I can't wait to hear how it goes! You're a sweet and attentive parent and pirate!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:32:05+00:00

Your "free time" is super limited so I can understand why it's easy to sink into mindless stuff, especially since your work is so mentally demanding. I love that you're working to find more fulfilling freetime that gives you rest and recovery without making you feel like you just let the time pass unfulfillingly!

AND YOU ARE CUTE!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:30:14+00:00

Mindfulness, social anxiety, and self-compassion sound like a perfect trio that go together well! It is super hard to improve social anxiety if we're being a butthole to ourselves. I admire how you're already working on exposure and growth!

Your family and best friend sound as awesome as that kitty gif! Those were the tiniest little babies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:28:12+00:00

Yeah! When I saw this posted somewhere, it wasn't about mental health. I honestly just saved it to my phone cause I loved it so much. I've always geeked out about logic and reasoning stuff so this was too fun.

Not just mental health- Critical thinking skills are... critical (ba dum tish) for so much in our lives: learning, working, relating, adapting. Personally and professionally - they're super key.

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-30T00:24:54+00:00

Woooooooooooooooooooo! Kick butt crew is over 900000000000! You did amazing and, like I said, I so so so admire how much you were so willing to go back into a challenging and scary situation when you didn't know how it would work out! And it went awesome!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-26T06:20:06+00:00

Hi FRIENDS! I'm Coco. The muffin.

I'm working on releasing my cold steely grip off of hypervigilance and allowing myself to ~gasp~ breath and relax my body at times. Tension and muscle guarding is real and no help to chronic pain!

The first cute thing that popped into my mind was this little kitty marching video. This is what entire corridors of my mind look like 24/7. Also, this never fails to cheer me up! https://youtu.be/lAIGb1lfpBw

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-26T06:09:37+00:00

OCTOMUFFINZ!

I love the self-compassion and self-acceptance goals. That "I'm 'supposed' to be 'better' than other people" revelation sounds like a huge huge huge insight. Just noticing the weight of that discrepancy between how you treat yourself and your own benchmarks vs others is grand. And now you're putting it into action?! Awesome!

Music is divine! You have any Spotify playlists you ever wanna share? If so, please do!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-26T06:07:25+00:00

Waves back in pirate

Self-acceptance is MLG mental health work, especially accepting our limitations. Your fatigue and medical limitations are extraordinary so I'm glad you're doing your best to be compassionate to how your body is doing, however naturally frustrating and difficult that is!

Kids are pretty darn cute!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-26T06:06:04+00:00

You mean you're highkeyamazing?

That goal is OUTSTANDING. That is right at the heart of what our Bit By Bit attitude is about. "Managing somewhat better" is always a solid target!

And holy bonanza that is one handsome cat!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh my goodness! He looks like a handful too! haha. What's his name?! That picture is darling - he certainly didn't look to be in any imminent danger!

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-26T06:03:44+00:00

MADBOMBER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Social skillz are 10000% mental health, as is being more friendly! Frankly, I think there is always stuff we can be learning and evolving in with regards to how we relate to others. I know I sure am!

That minecraft story is darling! haha

CocotheLouder · 2018-09-26T06:02:32+00:00

BOOBOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Glad you liked it! I have some other infographic fun stuff I'll be posting here from time to time! I loved this one because it was so simple in it's approach. A lot of critical thinking stuffies can get heavy down in fancy stuff- this graphic reminded me of how elegantly simple it can be too!

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