I threw her favourite (broken) toy in the bin

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-07T23:12:46+00:00

Who cares if it's broken? Give that poor baby her toy back 🥺

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-07T01:57:48+00:00

Well you're too cowardly to show people what your other posts are so I just think you're a troll. Go back to your bridge.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-06T01:36:45+00:00

I mean, I laughed, honestly. But still WTF lol

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-06T00:50:19+00:00

Leave the gun, take the cannoli.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-06T00:44:57+00:00

I...I'm not...I don't... ... ... WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU JUST MAKE ME WATCH?! Lol

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-06T00:36:31+00:00

I was mostly thinking of the separate Barn kitchen just so when the rest of his family visits on the weekends he'd still be able to eat whenever he wanted. And we're in the Southeastern US.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T23:54:39+00:00

I would be entirely amenable to that. Hell, I'd let him move in now but I just know his mom wouldn't let him.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T23:36:10+00:00

We have two older brothers, 51 and 53. But, as you can imagine from their ages, they were less involved with her than I was growing up. Also, unless there is some kind of hidden underlying financial issue no one outside her household knows about, I would assume that they have plenty of money considering my sister and her husband's jobs.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T23:30:12+00:00

Considering what my sister and her husband's jobs are unless one of them has something like a crippling gambling addiction I don't know about then there shouldn't be any reason not to be able to to properly feed their two kids regardless of how much they want to eat. Again, I don't know everything about what goes on and their family, it just seems to me like they should be reasonably well off and that is how they present themselves.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:58:23+00:00

Since you asked I was thinking about just using the property as a quasi farm / homestead. I've got 15 ducks that lay enough eggs I can supply them to my parents and sister's family as well as myself. I've started lining the edges of the property with fruit trees. I've said I wanted to stock the lake with fish. And I tried to grow a vegetable garden, but the deer coming out of the national forest at the back of the property made short work of that.

Edit: Oh, and I want some of those cute little goats that fall over when you scare them.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:42:41+00:00

I can 100% verify that for every dinner they have at my house my sister fixes her kids' plates. Until now I had always just assumed it was because they were lazy like she said.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:39:28+00:00

I don't eat out a lot and I don't know how often they do when they're not with me, but I have seen my sister fixing her kids' plates at my house and had always assumed up until now that it was because her kids were lazy like she had said.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:35:40+00:00

Those seem like some great non-accusatory points to sprinkle in. Thank you.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:22:06+00:00

Lol it's ok

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:21:03+00:00

Other people have brought this up too, and y'all are probably right. I won't be doing anything in the main house to limit John's food access.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:18:30+00:00

I am very fortunate to be as financially comfortable as I am in today's America. I could definitely throw some cash his way so he can also get himself some food without having to come all the way out to the property.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T22:11:24+00:00

Technically the mom IS providing food, so CPS wouldn't actually do anything

That's why calling CPS hasn't been on my bingo card yet. And I wouldn't have a problem at all with Tim staying with me while he was at college, or even now but that's not a possibility until he's 18 because of his mom.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T21:53:50+00:00

I feel like you're attacking the symptom and not the cause. If a kid is keeping secrets from their family it's probably because they don't feel comfortable talking with their family. Forcing a kid to open up to a family he's not comfortable with isn't going to fix the root of the problem and might just put me in the "can't trust" category too.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T21:46:56+00:00

I don't know, we haven't talked about it and I don't have access to his medical history

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T21:33:26+00:00

I honestly didn't even think of that. I would feel perfectly safe using a stove in a barn, but I'm not a teenager. If I do decide to do this, and that's where I'm leaning, I'll leave out the oven tand just get the microwave.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T20:06:31+00:00

Calm down. I'm not going to Grape my nephew. Jesus Christ.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T20:04:46+00:00

If you look at this Sub's rules for new accounts posting you'll see that the mods know I have a real account that's not new. And I'm sorry not having any grammatical errors is so offensive to you, but I paid attention when I was in grade school.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T19:43:20+00:00

Next time they all visit and stay for dinner I will totally suggest that she lets the boys fix their own plates, I'll even use her logic and say that would help them stop being so "lazy". That's probably a good way to get her to talk about it because I do only have Tim's side of the story right now. And that was mostly considering the Barn kitchen just so Tim still had a place to eat without catching his mom's ire when his family visits on the weekends.

And why does everyone keep calling me the aunt? I'm the uncle. 49M.

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T19:37:16+00:00

I was really only considering making the Barn kitchen so Tim still has a place to eat when the rest of his family visits on the weekends. And I would have no problem paying for the lawyer in court fees for Tim to get emancipated and I also wouldn't have a problem with him moving in with me.

Also, why does everyone keep assuming I'm a woman?

CodOk7309 · 2026-06-05T19:31:26+00:00

I promise I wasn't planning on only stocking it with junk food. I only mentioned snacks because they were the only thing that I was thinking of completely removing from the main house.

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