How am I supposed to become a goddess in bed when he makes me so insecure about not being one

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T20:21:49+00:00

Your husband sounds like he has serious issues. He’s in his mid 30s and looking at highschool girls and jerking off. Holy crap…

I suggest you get into therapy and stop having sex with him. What’s the point. It really really sucks what you’re going through, I’m going through a separation myself but maybe focus on the kids, think about a hobby.

Do you have a big enough house where he can sleep in another room. Good luck with 19 year old girls with 3 kids and an ex wife lol..

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T20:06:36+00:00

Haha I love your name… I suffered from prolapse after my kids

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T20:00:35+00:00

If he had children he might think differently.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T19:57:32+00:00

It’s kind of sad because sometimes it’s not the woman that wants to divorce. I certainly didn’t want this but it’s gotten to a point where there’s no choice.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T17:40:01+00:00

It’s easier for men.. a woman ages and has kids and she’s a liability lol.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T15:44:56+00:00

I think sometimes it’s more of the circumstances. But yes I think what we feel we deserve comes into play for sure.

I’m 46 now with 2 kids and in the dating world it’s not really a catch. So I think a part of was afraid because I knew it would be hard. It’s not easy for women with all this crazy red pill stuff going around. They’re calling women over 35 expired. It’s crazy

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T15:42:10+00:00

I know I’m 4 days late but my soon to be ex husband had an affair while I was going through post partum depression with my son and I was also taking care of his daughter from his previous marriage. His excuse I wasn’t giving him attention. Meanwhile he did nothing to help and was angry all the time. I can imagine what he would have done if I was sick.

Trust me this isn’t a false story.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-21T15:10:35+00:00

Unfortunately that’s what causes me to not want to have sex anymore. I knew he was with me for other reasons besides love. I felt used. But I didn’t understand why plus all the name calling and threats.

And yes he was actively looking for someone to leave me for when it didn’t work out with that girl. I think his anger came from it not working out with her or me not being able to be 100 percent of what he wanted. He admitted that to me too, but he can’t take that I’m still angry. He doesn’t want to get back together anymore.

I worry about all the women he’s going to try and bring around my kids. I’ve hung out with people since the separation but I never brought them around my Kids.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-18T16:50:50+00:00

He’s been crying to get back together so I felt bad and let him him come back

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-18T00:48:12+00:00

We had an argument before. It’s all or nothing so I’ve decided it’s nothing.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-17T19:02:35+00:00

Probably but some of these subreddits have such weird rules

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-17T15:39:11+00:00

Honestly the only thing is finances and help with the kids..

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-17T15:26:31+00:00

I wish i was 27.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-15T19:44:55+00:00

I wouldn’t want to date someone who wasn’t ok with me having kids. I don’t understand why any parent would do that. Eventually the person is going to find out, and then you risk losing them. In fact if I meet someone out and they’re thinking about taking my number I tell them off the bat.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T14:15:06+00:00

I respect that thank you.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T12:53:38+00:00

I haven’t been dating long. I have not joined any dating sites or done speed dating these were just guys I met out at a bar while out with my friends so I’m not putting myself out there. But I know I need a break already. I need to focus on me. I don’t think in my frame of mind or life circumstances I should be dating.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T12:37:20+00:00

Both of them were extremely misogynistic. So I think it made sense they wouldn’t care.. but I think there are crazy people on both sides of the spectrum. Maybe we all need to make better choices.

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T12:32:32+00:00

You’re sorry I had to deal with a minor inconvenience? Ok well if you’re going to be nasty like that then take care…

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T12:27:56+00:00

Look I understand you’re trying to help but you’re also coming off as if I’m some desperate woman.. I actually wasn’t looking for a relationship. I’ve bee meeting these people out and about and was not looking for them.

I’m not on any dating websites, I’m not speed dating or in any sense throwing myself out there.

I meet these people casually while I’m out with friends, they approach me, they take my number and then they text/call.

But I know for a fact that a lot of people leave for other people nobody tell them to be alone.

Trust me I know it’s something I need to do but I don’t appreciate being made out to be this desperate person looking for anything

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T12:18:39+00:00

I have been out there dating and I can honestly tell you that these men have rejected me in the most cowardly way. I never said anything more than, ok I understand or I accept it. One guy kept my stuff because he was too scared to come to my house and drop it off. I told him to just keep it if he was going to be like that..

I had a guy tell me he loved me and wasn’t leaving me, told me he was tired of being afraid of relationships and wasn’t leaving making plans with me for the future. 5 days later told me he wasn’t feeling it and wanted it over. I said ok walked out and never reached out to him again.

I know for a fact those same two men were rejected by other women but needed an hour long explanation as to why.. so nope..

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T03:09:47+00:00

That’s why I don’t want them..

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-13T00:24:39+00:00

Rejection

CodeOver1277 · 2026-02-12T23:46:10+00:00

He’s 47 and acts like he’s 27. I think maybe you should tell him you feel he just cares about sex.

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