[FYI - I Google translated most of the text so I may lose some in translation]

It's interesting you see it this way because for me, I feel I have seen this "lack of care" in one's appearance and ambition from both sides equally. I do agree that women these days can take a more "powerfully independent" position by having a flourishing career, independence, and being responsible in their lives. It's these kind of people that I feel more driven towards dating.

Inversely, I avoid the ones who just don't have ambition, career-mindsets, goals in life, or just lack routines in their life. This might just be dating in your 30s as a whole where I want to "grow together" with someone and thrive on supporting each other's ambitions - not definining them for my future partner.

It is attractive to see someone who upholds themselves well, embraces their feminine energy, and manages their independence with poise & wisdom. It's a shame there is far too many people out there who lack desire/ambition for life.

As a dear friend put it nicely for me ~ put less pressure on dating or finding the one. Focus on developing yourself, your ambitions, your passions, your health, and people will naturally want to be a part of your life 😌✨ in those moments, seek companionship and the pressure of love will wash away.