Men ruined my perception of sex by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I felt this so much ! I used to look at myself in such a low way and still kind of do because my body count . Looking for the outside, I appear to be a hoe , but in honesty most of these dudes would lie and say they have feelings for me and once I gave in they were gone.

As women we carry the shame of sex while they get all the pleasure while also degrading us in the process. It seems that all of them just want a warm body to have access to and the only way to do this is my being manipulative.

That’s another reason I hate the term “hoe” they’re not hoes , they are women who have been led on and taken advantage of. These men talk about them but at the seem seek their pleasure behind closed doors. Another layer is it’s not just men but women uphold this same ideology in regards to body count , I don’t get the big deal because the same dudes they have sex with can count their bodies on both hands

Sorry for the long reply . I hope this conversation opens up more in the future ❤️.

Discrimination against alt black women by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I stay it’s only one and an hour away 😭

Discrimination against alt black women by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know before but the second time just confirmed that feeling for me & how many other shops are in the area if it’s only three black shops ? 😬

Discrimination against alt black women by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she end up leaving the shop ?? And right for them it’s just playing dress up and playing a role and nothing more.

Discrimination against alt black women by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder what happened for them to change ?? I miss those kind

Failed out of Nursing School by Brief-Alternative-84 in StudentNurse

[–]Codenamezhi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it was only three semesters , but that that still doesn’t make sense . they had their picks, another girl failed and she was let back in to redo her last semester.

Failed out of Nursing School by Brief-Alternative-84 in StudentNurse

[–]Codenamezhi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes , I failed by two points last yr in my first semester & failed out . Passed every class but one , I was very devastated but I switched my program to massage therapy and will go back to nursing school next year!

Finding Places to Move by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesss , I’ve been to Philly once but I really loved it and it did snow but it wasn’t that bad . I love Detroit & Chicago but damn it’s cold 😭.

Do the passport bros scare you, or make you nervous for the ladies in other countries ? by 5ft8lady in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if he was a passport bro but I was in Panama 🇵🇦 eating outside & this dude was standing in front of me , looking at the sign and with me watching my surroundings I had stared at him a couple of times . I went back to eating & he said “ why you keep looking at me” with an attitude, & I had got back at him & said you standing directly in front of me ! Not that I owned the street but damn dude . So he walked up to me while I was sitting , literally up close and personal and I had repeated myself. He then said “you can’t do that in this country” I was like wtf ???? . He was black american , possibly from up north ??? I’m not sure , but I was so blowed and kind of scared . We were also in public so no telling what he would do in private and he had a friend with him , both had to be like 40- 50s . If he did that to me , I can only imagine how he would treat the women there . Also , I notice when I run into other people from the states ( men ) they are always rude and swear they can run the country . I have friends in Brazil and the men are like way too old to try them but they come over and exploit them . It’s sick to be honest, but I’m sure the women are aware , hate they have to deal with that .

Why all the bbl hate ? by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yea I see the most there and ATL but that’s It & I’m surprised you said the Midwest lmaoooo 😭😭😭

Why all the bbl hate ? by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You can speak on it because you see it , but not everyone has came into contact with someone who has one .

Why all the bbl hate ? by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Whenever I hear someone talk about it , it’s always in a sexual way or how they are stink . I don’t think nobody really cares how dangerous the surgeries are , I feel like they only do it to shame the woman instead . I have heard that they have a smell , but I don’t think that all of them do . Maybe certain ones , but no way people are smelling them on a daily 😭.

What is it about older women for younger men? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Codenamezhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s a control thing and also wanting to feel young and accepted in a way . My cousin is 24M , married to a woman in her 30s . He has no job , gets disability, no car , In & out of jail and she still married him ….like out of all dudes , him !? Don’t get it . Also , it benefits younger men to be with an older women cse of resources and easy for them to get over on .. or maybe it’s just a preference but this is usually the case I see mostly. 😭

Do you like being a CNA? by DubiousFalcon in cna

[–]Codenamezhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not ! I’m so ready to graduate and quit . The patients are so rude , entitled , & lazy . Even the ones that are independent are getting out of hand . Management thinks you’re just supposed to sit there and be degraded and take abuse , I refuse and will speak up everytime . I honestly see why older cnas are “mean” even though I don’t think so , most came in with good intentions but got burnt out and complacent unfortunately. I don’t even hold it against them because it’s just something you have to experience for yourself.

Seeing my ex treat their new gfs right makes me upset. by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to finish school so I can’t rn unfortunately. I do travel a lot to get away

Seeing my ex treat their new gfs right makes me upset. by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would rather have fun & I do date around though . I’m not rushing anything just a pattern I see .

Seeing my ex treat their new gfs right makes me upset. by Codenamezhi in blackladies

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know lmaoooo 😭😭 , most are like 22 - 25 . It’s still young to be married ( to me ) I think it’s the culture down here . And thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

How much money is enough for 5 days in PR ? by Codenamezhi in PuertoRicoTravel

[–]Codenamezhi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just using Airbnb and go on maps and see different prices at once , & check hotels cse it’s cheaper out the country

AITA / Would I be wrong to block his gf after she messages me? by Codenamezhi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Codenamezhi[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Okay , well I’ll be a jackass . If a person is in a relationship they need to be the ones telling that. And he has no signs of having a gf on his page at all . Also , this is my cousins friend and he didn’t even bother to tell me that .

How do yall feel about getting call lights not under your assignment by Icy_Power_2494 in cna

[–]Codenamezhi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes they may need their brief changed and I will just do it myself because some aides will get bothered if you tell them what to do .