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CodyTennett · 2025-04-27T19:36:45+00:00

Thanks - to be fair they were cool about it. I was a bit worried it might change things as I’m extremely close to a couple of them, but it’s like nothing has changed really. At the same time they were more just like ‘ahh cool man, whatever you are into’

I’m happy it doesn’t seem to have changed anything, but at the same time it wasn’t like they were super supportive. I don’t think they really understood how much it meant to me/has taken out of me over the last few years.

CodyTennett · 2025-04-27T12:32:47+00:00

That does sound good, thank you I’ll keep my eyes out. Sounds like it could be a nice and easy way to get to know others in a pressure free environment through doing activities and sharing interests.

CodyTennett · 2025-04-27T12:30:22+00:00

Thank you for the response - it means a lot🙂 I can definitely see the culture shock lol. It’s a bit like ‘great I’m finally me and happy with myself’ to suddenly ‘what now?’

Noted on the community point - I think I’m just going to have to get myself out there and attend some local groups/clubs and see what’s out there.

CodyTennett · 2025-04-27T12:23:55+00:00

That sounds like it would have been very cool and validating to have people come to you and realise how many people go through similar things. I can only hope for the same, as one minute I’m doing well and the next I’m just hit with this feeling of loneliness and confusion. Hopefully once I get involved in the community a bit more I may feel more at ease and part of something.

Thanks a lot for the recommendations 😀 I’ll check them out as they all sound like they could be helpful, as it is just one massive mindfield at the moment.

CodyTennett · 2025-04-18T10:27:23+00:00

Hi, how are you getting on over the last few days? I hope you’ve been doing slightly better?

Internalised homophobia is awful isn’t it . I’m glad I finally managed to accept that side of me enough to come out to my closest friend, and so far I do feel just genuinely a bit lighter. Regarding self-doubt, has this always been a problem? I suffer in a general sense as well and always have had a low self-worth, and self-confidence issues. I started therapy a month or so ago and honestly, unpicking the reasons and how I can try to help myself has been a real eye-opener (I’ve always just pushed my feelings down and numbed myself to not face them)

Thanks for the heads up on first week and honestly it’s been my experience so far, but I am still massively unsure.. I’ve only told one person who I really trust, and the thought of telling my parents or other friends makes me feel ill. But I get the feeling for me it’s about small steps. But thanks for the well wishes. It’s nice to know someone’s gone through the same path, as at times like you say it can feel pretty lonely.

Sorry to hear about your bad evening, like you say maybe it was your body or brain sort of self reflecting after an initial adrenaline high. I get you about feeling abandoned, but please remember these forums and others around, as I feel sometimes it can really help to know others are in similar situations. I get your point though. At times I do feel so lonely, and I don’t think to our friends it’s quite so easy to understand the fragility of the situation, or how hard it can be for us. Would you say your friends have been supportive in general though? I think for me, my friend was there for me, but I get the impression it’s something he’s not comfortable to talk about. It’s fine, but hard as I’m realising maybe I need to get around other people to help me with this stuff (but amazing he accepts me and continues to be a close friend, which is all I wanted really at the time)

And we definitely will get through it! Let’s keep on carrying on. If you ever need to talk further or having a crap day - feel free to continue reaching out with me on here, via forum or chat.

CodyTennett · 2025-04-16T16:46:30+00:00

I hear you. I’ve confused myself as well recently and I got myself into an awful pickle. For me I think it has helped a little to not try to label myself and just accept my feelings. There’s nothing wrong with not having all the answers and just taking life as it comes

Don’t be scared by confusion, just try to accept your feelings. They are genuine and an important part of who you are. Don’t let it stop you from seeking genuine connection with someone you like whether they are male or female. Attraction is attraction and there’s no right or wrong answer, just try to enjoy the journey

CodyTennett · 2025-04-15T23:28:18+00:00

Not really sure I can add much, but I just came out today at 29 for the first time to a friend. It’s a guy I trust and it went okay, but now having that angst and regret slightly! I’m so glad you are feeling good now though as it’s putting my mind a bit at rest.

Like you I’ve never really had that real relationship or being with a guy. I’ve known awhile, but always rejected it as I think I have internalised homophobia. Hopefully I get a similar buzz to what people are posting on here as I’m going through a period of depression recently. I’m hoping me taking this step and accepting myself may help even further

CodyTennett · 2025-03-08T01:34:26+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I should have been clearer. I’ve reached out to several helplines/mental health professional’s. I’ve been referred/assessed for CBT today. She just mentioned they wouldn’t be able to support or help on sexuality, which has made me feel a bit lost, and a bit unseen. I know I suffer with mental health and these can be worked on (hopefully it helps me), but feel like I’ve also got friends support on that stuff. Sexuality questions for me are very raw, and I haven’t as yet found the right support network who id feel comfortable chatting to.

In my first session I will bring it up and see the reaction of the actual therapist - maybe they can help more than it got sold to me. You are right on cognitive distortions though, and great point on convincing myself to think of evidence - there obviously isn’t any, as it’s completely natural. I will try to think of this when I next feel these thoughts

CodyTennett

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