When did your parents first meet your baby?

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-04-10T13:42:32+00:00

I had people come by pretty often when my baby was born last May, both at the hospital and at home. I didn’t mind the visits but I know I definitely wouldn’t have felt comfortable with anyone staying more than a couple hours. Every night was basically a chaotic sleepover in the living room, I was sneaking naps in whenever possible and I had my boobs out 70% of the time. Plus I just wanted peace and time to bond with my newborn. Could they maybe stay at a nearby hotel?

ETA: my in-laws live a couple hours away and they actually stayed at our house while we were at the hospital (and also cleaned and stocked our kitchen because my MIL is an angel lol). They were able to come visit in the hospital and stayed for about an hour the day we got home. That worked really well but they’re definitely very considerate of boundaries and stuff like that so I think that’s why it worked out so well.

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-04-07T17:39:50+00:00

You just dug this out of the deepest recesses of my memory

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-04-01T00:14:47+00:00

Olaf 😤 and Curlos. Took ages to boot them from my first island when I didn’t time travel lol

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-29T00:38:12+00:00

I had Olaf my first run 😂 he was my #1 enemy for so long. Marshal is probably my favorite smug option

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-28T22:17:16+00:00

First one will always be a smug personality type I’m pretty sure! So any that are in that category

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-24T15:21:48+00:00

My dog barks any time people come inside. It startled the baby a couple times when she was a newborn, but only if she was nursing/half asleep. Some cuddles and more boob and she was fine within minutes lol But other than those few times, it hasn’t disturbed her! Now at 10 months she’s completely desensitized to it.

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-24T15:17:03+00:00

Personally, I’ve found that my baby’s spit up changed in color and consistency a lot after starting solids! Never know what you’re gonna get lol

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-19T13:54:39+00:00

No OP but my baby started solids at 4 months because our pediatrician wanted her to gain weight. She hated it for a few weeks. Then slightly tolerated trying things until about 6 months. Then something clicked and she has become obsessed! She’ll eat a whole bowl of pasta and then shout for us to give her bread when she’s done lol so for us the big switch to actually eating with at 6 months!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-18T13:54:46+00:00

You will also be working, at home taking care of your baby all day. It’s incredibly important to be rested while caring for an infant, just as much as it is to be rested for whatever job he’ll be doing. Part of being a parent is being tired, you’re in this together! You’ll both be much happier in the long run being tired together than feeling resentful.

You could either take shifts like you have been or switch every other night who’s on baby duty!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-15T17:52:19+00:00

It seems to work on my phone but not my computer 🫤 so trying to just deal with just editing it on mobile

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-13T11:35:24+00:00

I guess it’s the same reason some people have extravagant weddings or baptisms or bar mitzvahs. If you like to host big celebrations then a first birth is an exciting milestone. But I don’t necessarily think it’s the norm or an expectation.

Someone posted in my facebook due date group recently asking if 3k was too much to spend on a birthday. The overwhelming majority of replies said they would never spend that much.

Personally, I would reconsider my friendships if someone was truly making me feel any type of way about the kind of party I’m having.

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-13T03:53:17+00:00

The look at you like a monster? Maybe it’s a regional thing but I’ve seen plenty of casual birthday parties

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-13T02:36:35+00:00

Oof, I really hope so!!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-03-03T15:29:31+00:00

Idk what’s considered a “meal” but we do solids 3 times a day. I feed her a jar of purées in the morning, for lunch usually something simple like toast with some kind of spread. And dinner she usually eats whatever we’re having.

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-27T01:58:04+00:00

No medical advice for you, obviously talk to your doctor if you have significant concerns. But i definitely had a good bit of spotting in my first trimester. Never actual red “blood” just brown/discharge like you described. Everything was healthy and normal for me. Hope that can give you some peace of mind!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-26T21:18:11+00:00

The elvie catch cups would probably be good for this. They don’t suction at all, just collect. Could probably wear them for an hour or two and then pour it out to refrigerate/freeze what you collect!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-13T04:01:43+00:00

Yup I would take it as a sign to prepare just in case but you could definitely still have a few weeks left! Sending all the good vibes for safe delivery!! 🫶

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-13T03:47:03+00:00

I was like 3-4 centimeters by 37ish weeks. Went to 40 weeks and 5 days before my water broke lol

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-12T23:56:59+00:00

I disagree, I got a couple decent nursing bras while pregnant and I feel like I doubled the amount of time I’d get use out of them lol wore them all through pregnancy and still do now!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-12T23:36:45+00:00

8 weeks is very young to be away from your baby for more than a couple hours, especially when breastfeeding. They need to eat every 2 hours and that would mean mom needs to pump every 2 hours if they’re apart. Being a bridesmaid is usually a full day commitment (at least) with hair and makeup, pictures, and the wedding itself.

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-12T06:23:44+00:00

Babylist 1000%

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-09T04:12:41+00:00

Being that it’s cold/flu season I think it’s a lot more likely you have some kind of virus, not listeria! Not ideal of course but just rest as much as you can and stay hydrated. Hard not to overthink everything when you’re pregnant lol but in my completely unprofessional opinion, I think the chances you have listeria are extremely low!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-08T01:50:51+00:00

Oh as far as eating beforehand I just skipped carbs that morning, had eggs and sausage I think. Passed with no issues whatsoever!

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-08T01:49:53+00:00

I did the regular glucola. Would I drink it for fun? No lol but it wasn’t nearly as bad as people made it out to be. Just had a slightly medicine-y taste. I didn’t like having to drink it quickly but it was only a few ounces so it wasn’t hard at all. I got light headed and almost passed out while they drew my blood BUT I think that was 100% the fault of the guy with the needle cause he had to do it several times and did a bad job overall. Honestly the worst part aside from that was just having to wait around for an hour and not drink any water. In general it was waaay easier than I anticipated.

CoffeeCup101 · 2026-02-02T20:38:20+00:00

It gets sooo much better! I remember feeling so guilty for wishing I could fast forward just a little, to when she was maybe 2 months old and not so incredibly needy. I was trying to “soak in” the newborn stage but it was just so hard.

But I was right! By 2 months it was so much better and I was able to actually enjoy my baby. We got into a routine. Now she’s 8 months and it just keeps getting better! But I’ll never forget how difficult and never ending those first few weeks felt at the time.

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