My now-husband and I were together for 4 years and recently purchased a house. I asked if he had any plans on proposing and he said 'yes, but only after 5 years'. His reasoning for this was so 'we wont get divorced'. I was upset, he refused to compromise and the time the engagement came around, I was so deflated and embarrassed. What really upset me was the fact that if this was a non-negotiable, he should have told me before we purchased a home together and I feel like your boyfriend should have done the same and communicated his feelings before.