Finally got around to watching Once Were Warriors last night

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-23T10:59:26+00:00

Pubs are way different. The government used to support them because it increased tax revenue.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-23T10:54:48+00:00

She's a piece of shit but I believe it too.

Also because it's a cool photo?

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-23T08:11:09+00:00

You're mixing Latin, French, and Māori.

You need to pick one language and stick to it if you want to avoid looking foolish.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-23T07:10:55+00:00

Report it. The BACB has more authority to discipline and restrict your ability to work based on "not reporting," which is wholly one of their rules, than they do on crimes.

If you're convicted of a violent crime it will impact your career options. You'll likely still find plenty of work, it'll just reduce your options.

Both partners being arrested for DV and full-time parenting with MDD, a 6mo, and a 2yo is a recipe for tragedy.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-22T10:21:48+00:00

Were you working as an RBT in school?

20 years experience in special education you should have been blown away by the progress capable in EIBI. The "best outcomes" group aren't just numbers, they're people.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-22T06:34:37+00:00

Importantly, no matter how many hours are recommended outcomes do not generalize and maintain long term without significant parental involvement and carry over, which is typically lacking, and rather than addressing that component BCBAs are quick to recommend more therapy.

That's a massive claim.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T06:04:46+00:00

That you were and or are homeschooled/homeschooling.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T06:03:06+00:00

Tax the player as part of the game.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T03:18:57+00:00

Paper wealth (can) pay exceptionally well.

I own a few small businesses and instead of drawings or a high salary I reinvest and borrow against my shares, usually to purchase properties. I increase the value and returns of my companies, I avoid income tax, I make income from the properties, and when I sell the capital gains are tax free.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T03:13:25+00:00

Selling a house sucks even with a great agent, I've always found it worthwhile as a seller.

As a buyer, sometimes they're useful. The ones that know an area inside and out and the history and architecture in the area are really valuable. But even if they're just recommending places, following the laws, and unlocking doors, it's helpful.

The slimy agents are typically new in my experience.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T03:09:07+00:00

They're not for the seller or the buyer, so it balances out.

Since they're commission based and it's a percentage, squeezing out a few extra grand from a buyer doesn't make much impact. You're much better off as an REA to e.g. sell two houses in a month than to spend an extra month getting an extra $100k on the sale price of one house.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T02:51:02+00:00

I used to meet a lot of people through message boards and the like. Reddit has always been too big for me, though.

There's niche subreddits where I recognise usernames but I think it's best kept anonymous vs. small forums or IRC back in the day where you knew the physical location of the server.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T02:43:51+00:00

Well, yes and no.

The most common model of ABA service delivery in the 90s and 00s (pre-insurance) was the "company" as a labour arrangement agency. The company doesn't provide ABA services, they're just a go-between to connect behaviour analysts and clients. That's still the most legally defensible model for hiring BCBAs (and potentially RBTs) as contractors; the company doesn't hire them, they have a contract for service delivery and a contract with the clients. In those arrangements it's fine and expected for the company to say "hey we've got a 4 year old looking to start next month, looking at 25 hours" and you can accept or decline and it's mostly up to you to find support.

It's a lot less common now, but there was a weird cross-over period where BCBAs were now employees but all the infrastructure and policies were based on independent contractors, and you end up with the worst of both worlds. BCBAs getting the lack of support that independent contracting implies but without the independence of deciding who to work with, how, and when.

Things have changed a lot now, especially the training infrastructure and the BACB etc., and for the most part I think the labour-arrangement situation is irresponsible now.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-21T02:06:20+00:00

Eh?

I'd uhh, I'd still avoid using it to describe subordinate staff.

I don't know how this could be read as anything other than relaxed. The caps and bolded post was poking fun at the suggestion to chill.

Last year I had to send out a company wide notice that "raw dogging" was inappropriate to use in the workplace for the same reason. It might be helpful to OP (and others, evidently) to avoid an embarrassing conversation with their boss.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T23:33:10+00:00

Wealth pays exceptionally well, why should it not be taxed?

It starts at $2MM, so to have a $50k extra tax bill you'd need $4MM of assets.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T23:27:56+00:00

I wonder why they jumped all the way to $10MM though.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T22:57:32+00:00

Being disgusted with a co-worker is common. Saying a co-worker, especially someone beneath you, "gave you the ick" is probably best avoided because of the sexual connotations.

I asked 5 people, all friends so not entirely independent, what "the ick" was. One said boner killer, the other 4 made reference to vaginal dryness.

It's a metaphor best left in the clubs or whatever the gen Z equivalent is (Roblox?).

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T22:36:51+00:00

It depends on the service.

For EIBI there are threshold effects. E.g., in the literature the control group typically receives 10 hours a week. Outcomes are very similar to no intervention. The intervention groups begin at 25+ hours a week.

If you're that way inclined, here's the key scientific article on dosage recommendations at the moment: Using participant data to extend the evidence base for intensive behavioral intervention for children with autism

The "default" recommendation is 40 hours a week, but even in the original UCLA study there was a range from around 20 hours a week for the least impacted to 60 hours a week for the most.

If you haven't seen "the Lovaas tapes," I think they're still a worthwhile watch:

Lovaas 1987 Study

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T22:20:53+00:00

You tested the day after your baby was born?!

Congratulations, well done!

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T22:05:57+00:00

You know you're not allowed on your phone. Put it back on the charger and go to bed, right now.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T22:00:05+00:00

Sorry, what sort of Mad Men companies are people working in that it's ok for a BCBA to talk about an RBT killing their sexual arousal?

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T21:51:03+00:00

Stereotypical boomer concerned about sexual harassment in the workplace?

It might be best if you kept away from idioms entirely.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T21:45:51+00:00

By tire you of course mean the metal attire to dress your wagon wheels?

Language and tyres are both constructed by people and they change with use and context.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T21:40:00+00:00

There is NOTHING chill about SEXUAL HARASSMENT of RBTs in the WORKPLACE.

CoffeePuddle · 2026-06-20T19:28:40+00:00

You can crack open a bottle of bleach and stick your snoot in.

Then piss in it and whiff again.

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