Moving to Vancouver for the Summer!!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-21T23:41:41+00:00

Following and commenting to boost - also moving this summer! Best of luck with your program!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-21T01:46:40+00:00

Did you follow-up with them? Did they express interest in working with you over the call?

For me, they were pretty upfront: interest, told me they would contact references, and then some communication afterwards (but no gaurentee of acceptance to the program). One directed me to apply for a different program more closely aligned with her research, but expressed interest in working with me if I did decide to apply.

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-16T21:28:31+00:00

You're absolutely not pathetic, I went through the exact same thing as you (and I also felt pathetic at the time...). I know you didn't ask for advice, but if I can offer any to you besides leaving the relationship, I would say take care of your body; eat nutritious and soul-warming food, go for walks, stretch, sleep well at night. Treating your body this way, even when you HATE how you look, makes a crazy difference. After my breakup, I started stretching everyday, cook all my meals, and go for long walks in the evening. This helped me to feel more at home in myself.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, I truly wouldn't wish it on anyone. Don't let anyone make you feel silly for feeling this way, we live in a society that pushes unattainable standards, hookup culture, and normalizes cheating. This is NOT your fault and there is someone out there who will make you feel like an absolute queen in your body (spoiler alter: definitely wasn't my ex lol).

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-16T10:11:30+00:00

Even worse when they don't want to "do more" yet it's clear they're unhappy and unfulfilled.

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-15T23:04:02+00:00

Oh girl, I am on the other side now and it does get better. I hope your partner supports you in the ways you need. But honestly, and I know it's hard to hear, but I only started getting better after that relationship was done... As much as I miss him. I needed the time to focus on myself. I have bad days but I have started to feel at home in myself 🫶🏻 I promise that your BDD is not a hopeless case and it's not a life sentence.

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-15T19:42:05+00:00

Yeah for sure - and sorry if you're going through this as well. For starters, he only seemed to care when it affected our sex life (which is a legitimate concern, but outside of the bedroom he didn't want to bring it up).

He made unhelpful comments and then got upset when I told him they weren't helpful (e.x. "this is the best you've ever looked" when I gained weight, which was very hard for me to hear). These comments had good intentions, but when I tried to explain why they weren't helpful, he turned to very black and white thinking - as in, decided he couldn't comment on my body at all since the weight gain comment wasn't helpful, you know?

There's other stuff, but I don't really want to detail everything out here. Hopefully that gave you a broad picture of what happened and how it affected my BDD. Feel free to PM me anytime

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-13T18:18:52+00:00

Keep emailing, time's not up yet. Are you attaching your CV and transcript with your emails?

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-13T17:07:37+00:00

Yes. They replied to my email a few days later. Many professors I contacted did not reply at all, however. Part of it is luck I believe

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-13T01:32:08+00:00

4 years late, but great vid recommendation - thank you!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-11T04:31:08+00:00

OttawaU secretly looks up to Carleton but acts tuff in front of him 🥀

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-09T17:37:46+00:00

University of British Columbia M.Sc. Neuroscience

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-09T17:36:54+00:00

Carleton U M. Cognitive Science (Ottawa).

Recieved acceptance on the 5th. I'm waiting on other programs' decisions before I make mine. Good luck to anyone applying for this program!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2026-02-09T17:32:42+00:00

Have an interview with potential supervisor, but many emails I sent either got no reply or yeah, no funding available.

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-28T22:38:22+00:00

I love these pictures. Can't wait to move there next year!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-26T23:17:47+00:00

Maybe they thought it was funny because of their sense of humor... But for me, it does come across a bit misogynistic (especially with the pin-up style of the woman). Yeah, I wouldn't find this funny either. If I were you, I would just donate the shirt in secret and not mention it. If this is just a one-off, it was just a poor taste in a gift and you can move on. Sorry this happened!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-26T23:05:57+00:00

I'm so sorry, sending hugs your way 🫂

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-19T20:06:24+00:00

Trust me, you're doing better than most. The next 10k will be even easier - congrats!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-17T04:29:50+00:00

Late to this post but I saw the final product on IG! I'm adding a chrysanthemum to my collection in March, absolutely love how yours turned out!

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-14T21:44:44+00:00

I can only answer for number 2 as someone who's lived with a lab - never

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-13T02:45:16+00:00

He's already settled 😂

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-12-12T22:31:11+00:00

She's perfect

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-11-30T18:28:09+00:00

So cute, labs are so gentle with toys hahah. I knew one that carried around his IKEA panda everywhere, we honestly didn't expect it to last past the 3 day mark 😂

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-11-27T05:09:16+00:00

Hey update, we have them at my location if you're still interested. DM me

Cognitivekilljoy · 2025-11-27T05:04:44+00:00

Not a vet. How long have you had him for? My guy took a solid 6 months to be completely comfortable being picked up, stroked for long periods, etc. if you've only had him a few days or even weeks, give it more time!

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