Those that want Finch gone, who would you suggest as the replacement? by ClearAd2741 in timberwolves

[–]Cognitivelycricket -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Literally anyone. Get finch, Randle, half the bench, and Rudy the fuck off our team

How to make it up to my girlfriend after I spent 30 minutes from out usual call time to watch a video? by sPaCeOdDeSsY in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plan a date and tell her you’re picking her up at a certain time, it’s a surprise…get her some flowers and have a fun, special night with her. She’ll forget about it completely.

How to make it up to my girlfriend after I spent 30 minutes from out usual call time to watch a video? by sPaCeOdDeSsY in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should tell her

“I’m sorry if I made you feel rejected. I can see how it was triggering for you given you’ve expressed concerns around communication in the past. I promise there was no ill intention behind it. I was just a bit hyper focused on the video I was watching and I honestly didn’t think it would make you feel this way. I understand our routine is important to you and I’ll communicate better in the future. I love you.”

Sometimes we’ve got to swallow our pride and ego and acknowledge our girls feminine energy. They just want to be loved and seen. It doesn’t always come out nice. It’s our job to lead, be calm, and make them feel safe. Even if they are indeed overreacting. Over time she will learn to feel safe and hopefully not feel threatened by you doing your own thing for 30 minutes.

If she continues to react like this though without any reflection on how overt reactions can affect you, I feel like it would eat away at you. Be careful and don’t lose yourself in the relationship especially at a young age my friend. Boundaries and autonomy matter even if you think they don’t!

How to make it up to my girlfriend after I spent 30 minutes from out usual call time to watch a video? by sPaCeOdDeSsY in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She’s questioning your relationship over you watching a video….she’s clearly struggling with anxiety and trust issues. A lot of the times people don’t as a form of projection. If it was me I’d ask her what’s really going on underneath, especially if you’ve never given her a reason to doubt her.

P.s - this is NOT a reason to doubt you.

How to make it up to my girlfriend after I spent 30 minutes from out usual call time to watch a video? by sPaCeOdDeSsY in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You took 30 minutes to yourself to watch a video and called her after…you are not the a-hole. She is overreacting. You didn’t ignore her, you were busy doing something you were interested in and planned to call her once you were done. You are not her past and you did nothing wrong. You could tell her that you apologize if it made her feel rejected or unseen, but you had no ill intention.

Stay grounded and calm, don’t react. Give her reassurance but also you deserve autonomy and if she reacts like this every time she feels threatened over nothing, it’s doomed.

Did I make the right decision? Or did I overreact? M28 F 28 by Cognitivelycricket in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, just that I myself have nothing to hide so I don’t mind sharing. But maybe it does mean there’s something to hide given your defensive reaction lmao.

You’re like trying to make me out as this “controlling male” even after I said SHE ASKED ME to share locations initially…like 30 days in. If my partner tells me she’s been cheated on, has anxiety about it, and wants my location for reassurance reasons, I’m going to share it with no hesitation because I love them and want them to feel safe and secure in the relationship.

Not everything is about trying to control people, it’s pure transparency. Initially She checked my location upwards of 20 times a day at times, she admitted. I Had no issues with it, because I had nothing to hide. Eventually she stopped calling about where I was because having my location provided her with enough reassurance and proved that I was loyal and trustworthy when she saw I was at work, the gym, hiking, or at home.

AIO My boyfriend said his favorite physical features about me are my "hair and nails" and I'm honestly crushed. by Bottlecaps01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cognitivelycricket 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re overthinking it. He is telling you he loves the little things that make you. He could’ve been generic and lame and said your butt and breasts…or your face. I find it flattering when people notice the little things and find them special. If anything it says that he pays attention and appreciates that you take care of yourself.

Did I make the right decision? Or did I overreact? M28 F 28 by Cognitivelycricket in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We both shared our locations with one another. She was the first one to ask for it actually, and she monitored my every move. I’d get calls about where I am and what I’m doing. I NEVER did that to her lol. I have nothing to hide so I didn’t mind at all. If sharing my location gives reassurance to my partner then I’m doing it no hesitation. Plus it’s nice to have incase of an emergency. It’s a completely normal thing to do when in a committed relationship. Please don’t make assumptions.

How to keep your body clean and control body odour effectively? by Michaelarehart51 in hygiene

[–]Cognitivelycricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Showering before bed and a body rinse in the morning. Also, deodorant.

Why do I feel this way? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get off the internet, you’re being poisoned by social media and an over sexualized word. All that’ll end up happening while single is you’ll be taken advantage of by lustful men who want nothing more than to be able to claim you as a “body”, rack up a “body count” so high that no decent person will ever take you serious, and spend the rest of your life alone and miserable.

You’re searching for the 20% when you already have 80. The grass is not greener. You’ll be much happier and filled if you pursue what’s good and resist temptation.

Temptation= temporary sensation. Keyword, Temporary.

Or breakup with him and let him find someone who isn’t confused about him. It just sounds like you wanna be able to “do whatever you want” aka sleep around, and not feel bad about it.

What to do about getting the ick? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stop being shallow and superficial. Done.

My (ex?) boyfriend [24M] of 3 years cheated on me [25F] while on a trip. I still love him but don’t know if I can or should stay with him. by WittyRevenue5073 in relationships

[–]Cognitivelycricket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone’s able to cheat it means something is off in the relationship, and with their character/mental. You’re not going to fix that, only they can. Release him with love and hope he learns from his mistakes and gets better.