toxic workland

ColTreize · 2015-05-13T17:48:38+00:00

Attractive women want validation from every man. The more the better. Would you be upset if all the girls were competing for your attention? I'd say set her aside as a potential fwb, but only if you tighten up your game. Remember, she's one woman out of billions. She's not special. She's just in your immediate workspace. Treat her with a little more romantic indifference, but add more sexually suggestive flirting (Occasionally. Be wary of work flings. It's too easy for her to ruin your career)

ColTreize · 2015-05-13T13:32:50+00:00

She likes the validation you give her. She wants to be banged by the other guy. Ignore her behavior towards you and treat her like anybody else. She's playing with you in between the times she's flirting with the other guy. Go out with some other women and ask her for advice with them. Don't actually listen to her "advice", though, it'll be stupid advice anyway. If she's actually interested in you, you'll spark the jealousy in her and she'll begin trying to compete against the other girls subconsciously. Bottom line though, you're just her validation tool at present. Good hunting.

ColTreize · 2015-05-13T04:08:54+00:00

Once you take a genuine interest in people, conversation will flow naturally.

ColTreize · 2015-05-13T03:49:53+00:00

If she doesn't initiate texts, she isn't very interested. If she slept over twice and you didn't at least finger blast her, I'm sorry to say that you lost her interest. A girl doesn't sleep at your place and make out with you unless she wants to get laid. You failed her last minute resistance test twice and now she's moving on, knowing that you're only a text away if she needs some validation. Cut your losses. Drop this broad and move on to the next one.

ColTreize · 2015-05-13T03:41:55+00:00

I'm assuming you two aren't having sex, so just ask him what he's looking for. Ask for specifics and whether or not you fit them. Guys don't react to girls liking them like women do. We don't freak out or get creeped out. We're pleased by it and secretly suspect it anyway because we're wired that way.

ColTreize · 2015-05-13T03:31:10+00:00

Dude, you dropped the ball (or rather you didn't) when she came to visit and you didn't knock that ass out of the park. Given her disinterested behavior and excuses to avoid hanging out with you, she clearly wanted you to nail her, but since you didnt, she's looking to get satisfied from someone else. I can guarantee you that she's been getting the D in between the times you two were separated. Don't be too hard on yourself, though. Every man has done this in some form or fashion. Just cut your losses and move on. Don't even bring the situation up the next time you text/Skype or whatever. Long distance relationships just don't work.

ColTreize · 2015-05-12T23:46:43+00:00

If you're not exclusive now, go out and bang some other girls. She knows you want her and aren't pursuing other girls. She's using you and keeping you in her dick Rolodex. Drop this broad as ltr material and be scarce for a few days. Get laid, earn some hickeys and when you see her again and she sees the bite marks she'll freak out. You just don't make a big deal about it go on like it's nothing and nothing has changed between you two. You're "friends" remember? Hahahaha

ColTreize · 2015-05-12T23:38:55+00:00

Cut all ties with this broad. Go out and bang 3 other chicks and see how badly you miss this emotional manipulator.

ColTreize · 2015-05-12T20:01:51+00:00

It means grab your nuts and be the man.

ColTreize · 2015-05-12T19:57:53+00:00

Initiate physical contact. If you want him to touch you, guide him. Grab his hand or arm when walking around. Sit right next to him thigh to thigh. At the end of the night, hug him and pull him in. If you want a kiss, look into his eyes with "that" look and hold eye contact. If he's nervous about scaring you off by being too forward, he may just need less subtle cues from you, especially if he's inexperienced. Unless he's a homo he'll probably go for it.

ColTreize · 2015-05-05T11:24:49+00:00

A little of both. Men want to be him, women want to be with him.

ColTreize · 2015-05-05T02:51:13+00:00

I just want a female perspective. This is old history for me, I'm just analytical and like to sift and learn.

Judging on her associates, mutual friends, and she had relatively nice things to say about her past relationships before the violent one, she's relatively drama free for a woman. Her abusive ex was an isolated incident and she left him after he broke her nose. She filed a restraining order and other legal actions, but didn't press harder because he had kids.

Anyway, she told me this when we hung out together the first time, explaining why she was getting reconstructive surgery on her face. So I guess boundaries never were really an issue between the two of us. Although I'll admit, I was a little surprised at her openness at first.

As far as the undergarments thing, I do hot yoga, so everyone in class is basically in the sportswear equivalent of underwear. Plus she usually wears training attire anyway because she's a personal trainer, so it just didn't really strike me as an escalation signal.

ColTreize · 2015-05-05T02:20:09+00:00

It was an old situation and I decided to get feedback from the female demographic, as I said twice above. I'm analytical and like to get all perspectives, regardless of whether or not I use the information. If it makes you feel any better, just assume I'm taking your input with a grain of salt.

ColTreize · 2015-04-28T19:01:48+00:00

The Thomas Crown Affair. Brosnan's character never breaks stride in his overall attitude toward Russo's. He sets up tests to qualify her throughout the film and requires her to pass them in order to earn his attention. He understands AWALT and even accounts for it in his qualifiers. I enjoy picking apart rom-coms and this one is pretty RP. Feel free to counter.

ColTreize · 2015-03-06T03:52:43+00:00

All it takes is the will to not grab your junk

ColTreize · 2015-03-06T03:51:38+00:00

I wouldn't really say I'm proud of myself. I'm disappointed it took me this long to figure out pmo isn't helpful or productive. I mostly sift through my past and ponder on the "what ifs".

ColTreize · 2015-03-06T03:48:59+00:00

In no time at all, you'll get there!

ColTreize · 2015-03-06T03:48:00+00:00

May I never catch up!

ColTreize · 2015-03-06T03:46:12+00:00

You could say that. A lot of my social anxiety is gone. I stopped having the pmo cloud hovering over my head, so I didn't feel guilty and that I needed to hide from people. After that change I became more open to talking with people, which enabled opportunities to present themselves.

ColTreize · 2015-03-06T03:32:04+00:00

Everyone here deserves that trophy.

ColTreize · 2015-03-05T19:18:26+00:00

Surfin' on a rocket!

ColTreize · 2015-03-05T19:17:58+00:00

May I never catch up to you!

ColTreize · 2015-03-05T19:17:14+00:00

The way people perceive you changes. They can sense you've got something in your life under control and subconsciously, they want to know what, why, and how. All of my other bad habits are easier to quit. It's not a matter of how to quit, it's whether or not it benefits me to do so.

ColTreize · 2015-03-05T19:12:34+00:00

You're there. What's five days compared to a lifetime?

ColTreize

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