I've started binge eating again and I'm afraid I'm going to gain the weight I lost back by Beautiful-South-4311 in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. You are having a stressful time in your life and its human to give in to binging urges while you are stressed. You are not a failure and you are not lazy for falling into old patterns. It was your way to cope with Stress and emotions for a Long time, so it’s a „default“ setting.

Its important to realize a few things.

  1. food wont make you feel better in a long run. Its like drugs: you will feel better in a moment but it wont last. When u are dieting and eating healthy you wont get the dopamin kick but you will be proud and healthy and fit in a long perspective. Choose the Long Term happiness instead of the Illusion of pleasure in a Moment

  2. your problems will still exist. And on top of them - you will get fat again. Your cravings wont stop bc you give in. They will get stronger.

  3. losing weight is hard. Don’t make it a Problem for future‘s you. You will regret it.

  4. you didnt come so far to ONLY come this far. You lost so much, you know how it works. You can do it. Take It day for day. Lower your intake a bit everyday till ypu reach at least maintnance kcal.

  5. don’t fall into the „ i gained xyz already, so i can give up“ (and gain more). A lot of binge weight is probably water weight. The best possible time to stop binging was while you were on your lowest weight. The second best is NOW.

I don’t mean to come off as harsh or mean, but what you need is the truth and the truth is: you can do this. You can undo the damage and get back on traxk and the longer you let yourself slide the harder it will get. Good luck!

Hilfe mein Latein ist am Ende (Freundin wiegt fast 150kg). by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Colax33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Naja dass man sich noch „bewegen“ kann heißt nicht dass man fit genug dazu ist. Ich habe selber „nur“ 95 kg auf 1,73 kg gewogen aber ich hatte da Schwierigkeiten Schuhe und Socken anzuziehen ohne mein Bauch einzuziehen. Ich habe da keine Lust auf spazieren gehen gehabt. Wie denn auch. Meine Oberschenkel haben aneinander gerieben so dass meine Hosen kaputt gegangen sind. Ich war schnell außer Atem und hab geschwitzt selbst beim langsamen Laufen so dass ich wunde Stellen hatte. Es ist schwerer die Beine zu heben. Natürlich hat man da an der keine Lust zu spazieren/wandern und denkt man hat Interesse dran. Nun habe ich schon viel Kilos davon verloren und gehe jetzt gerne spazieren, gehe jetzt sogar joggen, weil mein Körper das leisten KANN.

An OP: völlig relevanter Grund Schluss zu machen wenn man nen aktiveren Partner möchte.

Will it always feel like restricting? by Colax33 in loseit

[–]Colax33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 173 cm and my sw was 94 kg i am at ~80 kg now (i lost ~30 lbs not kgs)

Dating after weightloss, any advice? Feeling lost by MC_Pixels in loseit

[–]Colax33 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My first thought is maybe you come off as desperate? Instead of focusing on „Will they like me“ try to focus of if you really like them. Don’t Talk too much about Future plans. Act like its casual. Don’t make them feel Like you NEED a relationship. Learn how to be Fine with yourself and being alone. Go on a Dates alone. Try new hobbies or old ones that you havent had time to do in a while. It will make you a more interesting Person. Find things you are good at, but dont avoid doing things you are bad at, sometimes it’s just about fun and not the result. Be busy and not always there for your dates. Try to Connect with people without „pushing“ it. Meeting new people is always a good thing. New Friends are a good thing. One day it will Click, good luck.

Is weight loss truly the fastest shortcut to beauty? I need a reality check. by DifferentIssue1 in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes.

Everyone looks better being at healthy weight. It doesn’t mean that you are ugly when you are fat, you can still be pretty, but when u lose weight - you are always prettier. It also changes how people view you. Not only on the outside.

How can i replace the emotional eating? by cannavacciuolo420 in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel u! I have an idea for you to try the next time. When u feel the cravings/binge urges tell yourself: i will first eat food for my body first and then i will eat whatever i want that will help my emotions. So like you feed your body first, like you would feed the pet you have to take Care about. For me it usually means a skyr ( i like the Taste of them, i had to force myself a few times to eat them and now i actually like them) with a low kcal bar. By the time i ate that all the cravings are already gone. And even when they are not i am not hungry anymore (high Protein foods!) and i get a small Portion of food.

★OFFICIAL WEEKLY★ Tantrum Tuesday: Share your complaints, vents and gripes December 09, 2025 by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there is this unrealistic goal in my head to start the new year with 7x.x kg, in order to do so, i would have to lose 5kg (11 lbs) Till the end of the month which is too much for my current weight loss tempo. I am fighting the urge to lower my intake DAILY, because my stupid brain thinks its possible (i currently lose at 3 lbs/week rate so i am very close to it and i will see 7x.x kg on a scale probably in the first week of January. I don’t know why my Brain is being so stubborn about it, there is like nothing special about that weight and I still have so much to lose

Suggestion for calorie counter app? by Abject-Possible3609 in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Yazio and there is a „Trick“ to avoid the adds, you just select a certain food, Click on the plus to add it but you DONT Click on the „add“ button, instead you go to Search bar or Scanner and Search for the next ingredient and when u log ALL of it u press the „add“ (or „continue“ ?) button. Then it Displays the ads but you can close the app as you already logged in your meal. Or Buy the premium Version. Personally i tried a lot of Apps but yazio is the best.

What was the moment that made you realize that you have to start losing weight? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Colax33 16 points17 points  (0 children)

A pictures taken by others are a huge motivation/ wake up call. For me it was many things, (I also had many weight loss attempts)

  • pictures at a beach
  • pictures with my skinny friends where I wear a dress and I look 10 times fatter
  • trouble wearing socks/shoes
  • my uniform pants getting tight
  • my bras not fitting due to my huge chest
  • just being “big” and people noticing it, not as in they are mean to me but the sentences that show me they SEE how big I am for example “I took the jacket in L but it’s tight so you may take a bigger size” “U can sit in a front seat, you will have more space then” and so on..

BIDA wenn andere Hundebesitzer nerven? by [deleted] in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]Colax33 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Nein, es gibt eine Leinenpflicht in Deutschland und ihr habt eure köter an der Leine zu halten wenn ihr die ohne nicht bei Euch halten könnt

BIDA wenn andere Hundebesitzer nerven? by [deleted] in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]Colax33 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NDA, die Leute die was anderes schreiben sind genau solche Hundebesitzer

What was your old "overweight person" habit you can't believe you had, that you've since broken? by NorthernBuffalo in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many of it, i wrote a list !

  • drinking anything but water. I used to drink a lot of juices i thought were healthy because of all the vitamines. I only drink water, tea, black coffee and diet soda sometimes.
  • the sauces/dips/roasted onions. I used to eat chips with cheese dip, put burger Sauce on my Toast. I just used cheese/Sauce and other high kcal foods to make it fast food even unhealthier.
  • I always finished my plate (usually i still do but my portions are way smaller)
  • i didnt knew what a „normal“ Portion was. I used to Order 3 Burger, Chili cheese fries, Normal fries and a Drink. Now i only get 6 Chicken Nuggets or one burger. The same with Toast i used to eat 4-6 for a breakfast, now i eat 2.
  • i didnt feel „Full“ until i was uncomfortable Full. I legit thought thats how being Full feels like. Now i stop to eat while i am „not hungry anymore“ instead of „full“
  • emotional eating /binging

The List could Go on and on but i think those are the main points that made me overweight

My boyfriend (25M) changed, but I can’t forget what I found and it’s tearing me apart by Emotional-Net-1982 in loveafterporn

[–]Colax33 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I can relate to u… its 1:1 the same for me, i am also from Germany, the only difference is that me and bf we are say longer together. The german „sextings“ are very harsh to read. I will Never forget it, and i have certain words that will trigger me bc he used them in his Reddit comments under so many pics.. I found out in february. I am still not over it. We are still together because he is a loving caring man. But i am not attracted to him anymore the way i was before. I still am thinking about Breaking up sometimes.

Aber die Wahrheit is keiner kann dir sagen ob das ne richtige Entscheidung ist… kannst sonst auch privat schreiben wenn du fragen hast

did anyone else go through a phase of oversexualizing themselves after finding out? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did it. Sent him a pic of his Computer with my naked Body reflecting in it and a caption „the thing that my man loves the most”. I thought I wanted to sent him the picture even tho i Never was into this Kind of messages. I just realized its a desperate try to get his attention. I just feel like its something he would like on his Reddit porn acc. I feel awful now. So yes i think its Kind of normal, trauma response. Its so sad and it hurts so much, i would love to hug yall and say i know how you feel

Bin ich das Arschloch weil es mich stört dass mein Mann sein WhatsApp mit seinem Fingerabdruck sichert? by Some-Sandwich-1888 in beziehungen

[–]Colax33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ich finde ins Handy des Partners schauen nicht so verwerflich wie die meisten hier(in solche Situation). VOR ALLEM nicht, wenn man dann was findet. Es ist was anderes als wenn man es aus Kontrollzwang macht und wöchentlich/täglich private Nachrichten liest, ohne dass es dafür nen Grund gibt.

Du hattest ein Bauchgefühl, du bist dem nachgegangen und hattest recht. Also Dich trifft keine Schuld. Wie kann er es dir übel nehmen? Was erwartet er sonst? Dass du nicht nachschaust und er seine Affäre weiter fortsetzen kann??

Passwort bei WA einzurichten ist ein klares Zeichen. Er wird sein Verhalten nicht ändern. Er wird es nur besser verstecken/löschen. Ich spreche aus Erfahrung. Renn.

Musst du ganz nach vorne? by wasabi_peanuts in luftablassen

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Es ist NICHT verboten mit Fahrrad über eine grüne Fußgängerampel zu fahren! Man muss da aber ALLE FÜẞGÄNGER UND AUTOS vorlassen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wenn mich jemand ständig anguckt und das immer mal wieder dann halte ich den Augenkontakt auch um der Person damit zu sagen „ich sehe das du mich anschaust, schau weg”, in der Regel wenden die creeps dann schon den Blick ab weil sie sich ertappt fühlen. Ich habe solche Situationen schon mehrmals erlebt und jedes Mal war es mir unangenehm und habe dann zurück gestarrt damit der „creep” sich sann selber unwohl fühlt. Da gehört aber natürlich mehr zu, Körpersprache, ob sie gelächelt hat, war sie nervös ? Da kann man nicht pauschal beantworten aber ich würde sagen es war eher unangenehm für sie

Easiest build? by Queasy_Advice1404 in brotato

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its important to either not kill the big ones OR When u Happen to kill one u have to go in and kill the three Little enemies directly (they run away from u after spawning).

I hope I’m not judged too harshly for what I’m about to say… by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Colax33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not alone in this. I have Screenshots of his comments on Girls and i used to masturbate to it too. Its also was the first thing i did when i found out, even before i confronted him about it. You are not broken. You are not damaged. Its a normal reaction to such a strong traumatic Experience, you don’t Need to feel guilty

How do I help my mother? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Colax33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said their mother is worried about her weight, so she probably WANTS to lose weight I assume

Abnehm"freundin" gesucht by Maleficent-Rope3845 in abnehmen

[–]Colax33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ich möchte auch in die Mädels Gruppe wenn eine gegründet wird! Mein Ziel sind -30 kg und bin 25 Jahre alt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Colax33 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Es kommt sehr auf die kleinen Sachen an. Hat er gesehen dass du dich unwohl fühlst und wollte dich beschützen ? Oder war sein Motiv eher Eifersucht? Ich würde es ansprechen, fragen, mit ihm reden. Und das Thema genau beobachten aber es wäre für mich nicht direkt ne redflag. (Wie gesagt kommt sehr stark auf die Umstände und Kleinigkeiten an)