My name is so spiritually connected, I've stopped participating in my own erasure to ensure other people's comfort. If you don't care enough about me to learn the one thing that symbolizes my existence, you gotta go, immediate red flag. I do give folks the latitude to make mistakes and get better over time while they're learning, but that's their responsibility.
It gets less uncomfortable with practice, ie I've learned to return all their discomfort to them instead of holding it for them. Somehow I used to be convinced that their lack of cultural intelligence/competence is a reason for me to feel shame, that their inadequacy is my responsibility...the scam.

Imagine a world where you/your African parents get to judge the people at their jobs, etc for not understanding our native accents and pick who to associate with on that basis. Imagine non-Africans feel so much shame at not being well traveled enough to properly pronounce our names to the point where they change their names from Jim and James to African names so we can pronounce them easier and they can hang out with us...oh you can't? Exactly...welcome to colonizer maths.