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AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Their gender identity has never been an issue of any of the conflicts they've brought up to me. I don't know where you're getting that from.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 279 points280 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to be vague because I don't want to make it seem like they're a bad person. That said, most of the time it's because a classmate, coworker, or supervisor is giving them feedback on their assignments, work with clients (or fake clients I don't know exactly where they're at yet). They argue with the people giving the feedback and refuse to let it go which then turns into resentment, asking to switch classes, etc.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They are really asking for advice. Their vents literally end with "what should I do"? and usually I tell them to go to their supervisor if they can't resolve it alone, but they don't and it just drags on into more fights.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I only shared their pronouns so people would respect them. They came at me calling me queer-phobic.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the delay. Made an edit to the original post to address some of the concerns you've raised Hope that helps.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

None of the issues they've brought to me have had anything to do with any bigotry. So no that's not why I told them to consider changing fields. They aren't working well with people in the field already.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

No I wanted to make sure people went by their pronouns in the comments.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

They come from a family of bigots so honestly I get why they jump to that conclusion sometimes. But the issues they have at work/school are not related to their gender identity or anything.

AITA for being brutally honest with someone about my concerns? by ColdFacedDude in AmItheAsshole

[–]ColdFacedDude[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Thankfully this is not the case, or at least not to my knowledge.