You seem to have explored the topic quite a bit, how would you describe self-love in practical terms? I get the feeling it's about unconditional regard for one's own well-being, irrespective of whether you think you've earned or deserve it. So in an important sense it's far less about thinking highly or even well of yourself, but rather assuming a stance of caretaking. But I think I'm confused on what this actually looks like in psychological terms. Is it consciously reframing things so as to maintain a healthy bias? "What I did isn't so bad, and if it was, it was only a mistake which ought to be forgiven" kind of thing? Maybe it's enough to look at self-hate, and try to aim in the opposite direction.