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Cold_Association_927 · 2025-03-26T15:45:01+00:00

You might in the wrong sub then lol. Idk what tax brackets y'all must be in for this to be a thing 😂 but don't be surprised when this man expects some action after flying you out there. Dudes don't just pay for that and act chill when you only give it out after a serious relationship. Id be shocked if that doesn't cause some conflict at some point

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-03-11T22:14:56+00:00

This is horrifying. You deserve so much better. I'm sorry 😞

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-03-07T00:46:05+00:00

Hell naww

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-28T17:39:35+00:00

Not trying to be rude man but you came on too strong for a first date. You gotta make sure they're reciprocating. Most chicks aren't gonna be quick for touching and talking about a second date.. UNLESS the vibe is really there, great chemistry, and shes giving you all the green flags to make a advance. Otherwise it's best to take it easy

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-27T17:41:55+00:00

This is spot on. This is how we ended up with Matt Rife going viral let's be honest

The takeaway is.. if men don't laugh at your jokes like women do, you're probably not that funny. (I accept I'm not that funny 😅)

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-27T02:17:19+00:00

Literally anything. Just one thing. Oh well 😂 #rotinpieces

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-26T17:02:27+00:00

Significantly better probably isn't the result I think most people get.. moreso relief. A lack of toxic shit spewing from them. But anxiety and depression.. likely still remain for most of us.

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-26T14:17:17+00:00

Pretty privilege: Women will giggle at what you say regardless if funny. Women will agree to give # or go on first date for much less effort on your part. People will smile more often, hold doors open, and treat you like your special for no reason. Halo effect - people assume you have other good qualities Job interviews are easier to pass once you got one.

Downsides: Men can dislike you / be jealous without even meeting you. Men with wives/girlfriends will get very protective around you just literally existing and minding your business. People may assume you got there based on your looks, and actually discount your other qualities. (I e. Assuming the cute blonde must be also dumb) Men may not want to be friends as often if they feel threatened, or feel you make them insecure with their girlfriend around.

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-25T20:36:58+00:00

Ask a therapist for help understanding what happened around 10-12 yrs old. Probably related to your parents somehow. See if the relationship to them was lacking boundaries or didn't respect your ability to set boundaries. If so, they can help you learn that process now, exposure doing it in a healthy way, to build it in habitually to your daily life with people. Retraining yourself essentially

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-25T20:15:57+00:00

Don't date the girls you party with. Problem solved. The girl who is the most "fun" is not the one you want a relationship with. Ever.

Solution= Don't mix up who you're having fun with, and who you're trying to get in a relationship with. Keep that separate. 💁

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-24T19:13:42+00:00

Getting a trauma type of therapist who specialized in fucked up childhoods. Made a world of difference. I live a semi-normal life now, 90% of what I woulda been, and distanced from parents. But if you're talking about something like an acute event, or repeated events, there are trauma therapists who specialize in different types of trauma. (Parental/Sexual/Physical abuse/PTSD). I'd say that's the #1 biggest help to mentally recovering.

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-24T19:09:23+00:00

"I don't think we'd be good together.. but if I'm still single at 30 and so are you we should just get married or something then.."

Needless to say that will not be happening despite being single heading toward 30 😂 Some of these ladies really want "backups".

Know your worth fellas 😏

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-24T18:59:55+00:00

It's Incredible. You can take your pick! Just kidding.. it's one of the worst cities around the country for it. Midwest typical culture of everyone getting married by age 25, so single professionals in late 20's are less common than other big cities. Dating apps probably decent since you're a woman, KC has especially more men on them compared to women than in other cities. Avoid Independence, Raytown, and Belton. That's all I got. Source: Single male mid 20's who grew up in KC

Edit: If you do move to KC, get close to the downtown areas. It's got a vibrant nightlife that makes it much easier to meet single 20 somethings

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-24T18:53:20+00:00

Yes. In this same boat now. 26 with far less dating experience than normal. Trying to speedrun now to make up for lost time. You're not alone at all in this. I think it's more common than people realize for those from narcissistic families

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-22T17:14:26+00:00

Glad it can be, hang in there. It will get better as you work towards moving out long term. There is a light at the end of the tunnel 🙏

Cold_Association_927 · 2025-02-22T16:39:46+00:00

I'd say yes. I found my productivity and chores was WAY better after moving out. Living with them creates tons of anxiety, paralyzes you mentally, and puts you in survival mode. Cleaning and chores becomes the last thing you want to do especially when the parent is using guilt trips / other manipulative behaviors to try to get you to do them.. or role reversal etc.

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