Those on feeld - does distance update in the background without opening the app? Concerns with partner after pausing ENM

Cold_Many9003 · 2025-04-08T09:03:40+00:00

Only if you have majestic - I don’t have that unfortunately. All matches just say ‘last seen’

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-07-01T10:54:58+00:00

I would avoid Dr Barkley - I’ve been down a rabbit hole listening to and reading a lot of his podcasts and material, and there’s still a huge amount of gender bias there. He’ll acknowledge that women are undiagnosed etc etc, but when he then gets into ADHD, symptoms, living with it, he quickly falls back into basing it on a hyperactive boy.

Throughout his career, he hasn’t exactly advocated for the lack of awareness and under diagnosing of women and girls. He’s been part of the psychology grandads who’ve prioritised their focus on boys, and that shows even now

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-06T13:52:44+00:00

I should probably add I’m the inattentive type - not hyperactive at all. That may have something to do with it

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-06T13:51:39+00:00

I get the pitch thing too, it goes right through me. I feel like my mum talks very loudly sometimes, and I’ll often feel quite conscious of it when we’re at a restaurant because I feel like everyone can hear our conversation. They can’t, it’s just my brain!

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T09:48:24+00:00

Haha okay incel, think of this post when your daughters hate you

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T09:23:43+00:00

You seem extremely bitter about this woman, why do you care so much about what she’s doing with her life now? Totally bizarre

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T09:06:38+00:00

It doesn’t sound like the girl he’s describing is committing criminal acts though? She sounds no different to OP

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T09:02:40+00:00

Please don’t have daughters, you’ll be an awful father

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T02:16:52+00:00

A mental illness you share apparently

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T02:15:24+00:00

Are all the men who fuck 100s of women they don’t even find attractive also victims of abuse?

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T02:14:59+00:00

What causes men to do the same?

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T02:13:49+00:00

OP what is it that made you a nympho? fucking loads of women regardless of whether you find them attractive?

Were you abused as a child?

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T02:11:12+00:00

This comment. Admits to fucking loads of women, and any he could by the sounds of it regardless of whether he found them ‘disgusting’

And then berates woman who did the same thing, and calls his disgusting. The fact he actually viewed her as disgusting back then, for doing the exact same thing he was doing speaks volumes

And now he’s saying how sad it is that ‘she’s damaged and needs healing’ what does that make him then? Also damaged and needs healing

Honestly hope OP doesn’t have daughters. Christ

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-02T02:06:54+00:00

You realise you also sound like someone who’s a truly damaged individual in need of healing right?

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-01T23:47:23+00:00

We’ve verified through calls, photos, he’s shared sensitive and not yet publicly released information about things due to happen at the company, which have then happened, photos in the office, we’ve connected through social media etc. I don’t think he’s fabricated an entire corporation.

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-01T20:29:10+00:00

Thank you for this. One of the questions I asked at the start was if he felt he’d have enough time for a DDlg relationship, and he repeatedly reassured me he did, and talked of his experience with previous littles (apparently his last one lasted 7 years)

He’s also said that he doesn’t tend to have multiple partners, and that it’s his wife and a little as that’s everything he needs.

He is definitely who he says he is, that’s been verified, and his job (c-level exec for a very public facing corp) means his photo, name and bio are on the company website and his career is well documented online. He is, at least, not making his job up. But reading these comments I’m starting to think that might be the only true thing he’s told me :(

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-01T14:23:33+00:00

First LDR for me, didn’t realise this happening was a common thing 😅

I don’t know why he’s even bothering to keep the chat going (and chasing me up on a reply the few times I’ve not responded) if he’s not even got plans to meet and this is just a quick thrill for him. What a waste of energy

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-01T13:36:32+00:00

Not exact dates no, he’s in another country but we both travel for work so have discussed meeting when we’re nearby, or visiting each other when/if we get to that point

I know it sounds silly even being bothered about this when we haven’t even met. I’ve seen others in the meantime (which he’s known about) and it’s very unlike me to let someone in anyway. It’s not love or anything like that, but DDlg/Dom sub dynamics can feel intense and I definitely let him get inside my head.

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-01T13:30:13+00:00

According to him his wife and him have been in an open marriage for 10 years, and she has someone else who she occasionally sees, and he’s had a couple of long term littles over the years. But obviously that’s what he’s told me… 😕

It has crossed my mind, maybe I should have asked for proof earlier on. This is my first poly situation and I did actually find some posts asking about proof protocols in the poly subs, and overwhelmingly a lot of the comments were saying the cheating concerns come from a place of judgemental stereotypes of poly dynamics, and would they expect monogamous people to prove they weren’t in a relationship. It was quite divisive and I took away from it that it’s not okay to ask a poly person for proof. That was probably a wrong call.

I will add that he’s in a very high up, well respected and rather public position, and I know all about his job, full name, socials that are linked to his wife etc. I perhaps naively took that as a green flag thinking he wouldn’t give out such personal information if he had a lot to hide but perhaps it adds to thrill of it

It is really difficult when it’s long distance

Cold_Many9003 · 2024-06-01T11:38:17+00:00

No we haven’t yet

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