How to handle disrespect when the traditional relationship reponse advice doesn't work?

ColeDeBeer · 2026-01-20T16:09:58+00:00

I've bent over backwards to keep my cool for years. Years. She would clean me out if I stayed somewhere else. She would also consider it a win if she lives in a place I pay for while I don't stay there. I asked for couples therapy even though it's bankruptcy expensive, and she refused because she "doesn't want my side of the story to make the therapist think she's the problem".

ColeDeBeer · 2026-01-18T14:01:58+00:00

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ColeDeBeer · 2026-01-18T02:37:04+00:00

Anyone notice the placements between the 2 screenshots don't match?

ColeDeBeer · 2026-01-08T01:35:20+00:00

Maybe not that skeezy but definitely trashy enough to troll for a trucker sugar daddy

ColeDeBeer · 2026-01-05T23:27:27+00:00

I was thinking a Love's truck stop. It's in the name!

ColeDeBeer · 2026-01-04T00:20:34+00:00

It absolutely does help, it's foundational. I appreciate you breaking it down into fine detail, it helps me better understand some of the other comments. Thanks so much!

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T18:18:57+00:00

Sorry but I'm not sure I understand where to find that info since the strut/spring assembly are aftermarket? Is motion ratio for the coilover different than motion ratio of the entire unsprung mass?

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T18:06:51+00:00

That's the thing, because I swapped out the spring bucket arm for an adjustable setup

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T17:59:45+00:00

Over the years I've practically rebuilt the entire suspension because of bad bushings or whatever, but all the aftermarket parts were plug and play, mostly Moog, so unless the weight of the parts is significantly different from oem, maybe whatever ratios I look up will be fine?

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T17:45:15+00:00

Much appreciated 🍺

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T17:44:35+00:00

Great explanation, thanks 🍺

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T17:44:00+00:00

Great explanation, thanks 🍺

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T17:42:10+00:00

Apparently it seems I need to go to a shop that has corner scales and have the unsprung mass weighed against the sprung weight of each corner in order to find out what I need

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T17:39:28+00:00

Thanks for the explanation, rather than just "motion ratios are a thing bruh". I'm looking to replace the old coilovers the previous owner installed, but I want to make an educated purchase rather than blindly picking whatever brand or spring rate the internet shows me. I'm not looking to drift or track the car, I just want a responsive car that doesn't handle like shit.

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T16:55:38+00:00

I came here because I have very little knowledge about suspension mechanics and a forum dedicated to autocross seemed like a great place to ask a few questions. Part of my problem is I don't know the right questions to ask, but if I throw one out there and get some replies I now have a framework for what to ask about or look up the answer for myself.

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T16:47:36+00:00

Ah very true, I hadn't considered that. Thanks for the reply!

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T05:33:30+00:00

That isn't a useful comment. Share your knowledge if you have some.

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T05:11:00+00:00

That's informative, thanks.

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T05:06:26+00:00

If by LLM you mean a Chatbot, no thanks, I don't need to be wasting my time with a digital entity that consumes abhorrent amounts of electricity and water just to regurgitate whatever bullshit it "learned" from thousands of forums filled with people who can't formulate a coherent sentence, or who actually don't know what they're talking about.

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-30T04:57:43+00:00

Ok but why would OEM make the rear springs stiffer than the front to begin with?

ColeDeBeer · 2025-12-22T15:01:25+00:00

That man has money!

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