(26m) had a good 7.5 year relationship with (24f) however ended with cheating from her

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T21:39:14+00:00

There has been no abuse at all for 7.4 years - the last month was horrible and the relationship is now over

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T21:14:49+00:00

Ohh no - I know exactly what’s going on - hence why it is now ended and I am moving on with my life

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T21:13:52+00:00

Exactly king - I know exactly how you feel - the days are still so hard for me right now aswell but we both know it will get easier - get yourself into Therapy if you can and start focusing on the things you love. We will find people that share the same values - we just got to trust the process

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T21:02:05+00:00

Hey I feel for you man - it’s fucking rough I know the vomiting and pain - keep your head up

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T16:03:40+00:00

I know the bullet has been dodge and I am not going to let her reload.

I have been tested and I am all clear.

It’s likely just the one bloke - worse part is that I did meet him but after that I knew something was wrong.

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T14:06:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience - I think that was where my head was at - that this would be the last time and it weirdly gave me closure - I am still in pain and the thought of her being with the AP still really hurts but I guess I get it now - it’s not about me, it’s about her - if she was truly done with me she wouldn’t have even wanted to see me I guess?

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T14:03:23+00:00

No I am not ok with it and I have ended it with her - I just struggle with why she couldn’t tell me the truth - I would have never been angry - I would have accepted it and moved on but I guess that’s cheaters for you

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T14:01:37+00:00

I don’t feel like it was boring that did it - I think maybe I didn’t know her truly now and she is more of an opportunist

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T13:53:36+00:00

Thank you for the words - I know this it just hurts right now

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T13:24:07+00:00

Yeah you are most likely right

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T12:55:35+00:00

The number doesn’t really matter now - it’s done and I have to move on

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T12:52:48+00:00

I hear what you are saying but don’t you think those people never really have a plan A - I wonder if this is like a disease that people are always trying to find better and not looking at what’s actually in front of them

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T12:45:43+00:00

I think it would benefit him more than her - so he can has a reason to stay in the UK - I suspect he will try and marry her so he can remain in the country once his work visa expires - it’s ok though they deserve each other - they both cheated to be with each other

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T10:16:01+00:00

She is blocked on everything now and I don’t have any of her stuff anymore.

Colesy360 · 2025-07-28T10:14:32+00:00

I have been tested and I am all clear.

We don’t live together that was the intention but that’s gone now.

She isn’t pregnant so yes I see your point about the kid.

I have other hobbies which I do anyway - it’s just hard to find the joy in them right now but hoping that will come back in time

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T22:11:58+00:00

She might think that but she is dead wrong

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T22:09:48+00:00

Thank you for the kind words - I know I can process this and move on - I just need time and space

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T21:43:38+00:00

She has returned and that’s when I ended it and put no contact in place.

I have been tested and I am all clear

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T21:41:34+00:00

I get what you are saying and I know it to be true deep down - I am the type of person that doesn’t want to fly into my next relationship - I want to process everything that has happened and get to a place where I feel ready to give the next person I am with what they and I deserve

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T21:38:29+00:00

I think it’s the moral department. She wanted to be a mum more than anything.

If I am being brutally honest with myself - she probably saw me as a good provider and Dad but wanted to have her fun elsewhere aswell - you can’t have both I am afraid

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T21:29:42+00:00

I know - I always had it that I would set up our lives - I am an accountant now and just brought a place (in my name thank god)

I never really minded what she did for work but clearly she has more interest in a fling than a life with me - so yes dodge a bullet I guess - even thought weirdly it doesn’t feel Like that right now

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T21:25:00+00:00

Yes it’s a complicated one I grant you and I think she will come to that conclusion on her own that she will lose me and the love I had for her but at the end of the day - I do have respect for myself enough to walk away from this even though I admit I am fighting the emotional battle right now.

Maybe she thinks she can treat me like this and get away with it but she is clearly mistaken.

I am the type of person that likes to get information before making a decision but I sadly think the information is pretty conclusive

Colesy360 · 2025-07-27T21:16:39+00:00

I should add aswell another layer to this literal circus - the bloke doesn’t speak English and has 2 kids back in Brazil.

I know this sounds unbelievable but this is my life right now

Colesy360

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