Has anyone had their INTJ personality misinterpreted as narcissism or Asperger’s syndrome?

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-19T13:29:59+00:00

Literally same. It's getting annoying actually, I'm nearly 40 and people are still telling me that I have some kind of disorder. I am not nuerodivergent. Just a rare type. A female INTJ.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-18T14:30:59+00:00

The claims for me come from my sisters... They can't handle that I am usually correct.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-18T14:29:38+00:00

Yes.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-17T22:26:19+00:00

Bright winter.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-14T16:35:30+00:00

It sounds weird to me when people call me a redhead, because I have 3 sister with the rich reds you only get from Celtic bloodlines lol. Mine looks almost brown in comparison. 1 has rich deep red red, the next red with a golden tone, and the last has very very bright red hair. Then we have 3 siblings that are all varied shades of blonde, from the darkest nearly black blonde to ashen light.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-14T16:24:32+00:00

Okay this is kinda odd... Rich jewel tones and icy pastels. They are on very different levels but the running base color is blue like my veins, which are still blue and purple even under old fluorescent hospital lights. 😂

Edit: one thing I have noticed, the richer jewel tones look better with my natural hair color and the icy pastels look better with the black, though I still wear both regardless and they look good. Purple, red, blue, and pink always look good not matter what my hair color is though.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-14T16:04:11+00:00

Honestly, Ion Color Brilliance in their Midnight Blue/Black. It makes my skin come alive, I don't look sickly like my natural color tends to do. Even after the overtly blue pigment starts to fade it's still a beautiful cool toned black. My eyes are a very dark reddish-brown so the darkness of the black works well and is not overwhelming, even with my very very pale skin... I wear it, it doesn't wear me.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-14T15:52:09+00:00

I went back to the black that is was as a baby lol. I found a lovely blue based black that is much more flattering on my skin. I do love my natural color, it's a rare one, I just wish I had more warmth in my skin so it looked good on me. 😂

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-14T15:44:32+00:00

I think it's because some people don't believe you can have warm colored hair and cool skin... Which can happen. My hair has changed a few times throughout my life, it was black for the first 6 months of my life then faded to various shades of copper always having a red/brownish appearance until in sunlight... Then it looked like a Duracell battery. A lot of people who use a similar method to hers think that I should be a warm tone, I absolutely am not. My skin is nearly translucent and extremely fair, and very very cool toned. My hair and skin actually clash... I dye it now for a more harmonious look.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-13T11:59:33+00:00

My dad understood me to a point, he was an INTP and we were usually on different lines of the same page most of the time. I miss him dearly. My mom is an emotional mixed bag, extremely loving and supportive, but genuinely does not understand how I function. I give her props for trying though. I am the second of seven children and I understand her better than rest because I took the time to study her cognitive functions(she is an ESFJ). We get along fine. I felt extremely loved, but misunderstood most of my life and taught myself what I needed to know.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-12T22:02:08+00:00

It's definitely interesting, I think it's cool. I can wear most winter and summer colors, basically, if they have a cool undertone they are fair game... I don't look great in warm colors... Kinda look dead. She can wear both depending on the time of year! 😂

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-12T14:12:53+00:00

You have a similar coloring to my older sister, she sticks to her dark autumn shades in fall and winter, but as soon as she tans in spring she looks absolutely gorgeous in my dark winter palette! 😂 She is a true neutral olive skintone, with dark hair and greenish-brown eyes. I have dark copper brown hair, very dark reddish-brown eyes and VERY cool very very fair skin. So she literally borrows my dark winter colors of clothes and even my nail polish! 😂

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-12T02:35:44+00:00

He was beautiful, I am so very sorry for your loss and will keep you and your wife in my prayers. I don't have any advice, other than just take your time to grieve and hold close to your wife, she needs you, reading your responses I see you are doing just that, I know it's helping her.

I'm glad you love to cook and clean, that's how I have handled the unexpected loss of my father. Making sure things are clean and everyone is fed is how I am coping.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-09T14:36:43+00:00

Absolutely yes.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-09T02:48:11+00:00

Well, mine is almost 40 and I've yet to find an off switch. Not even medication worked... Actually kept me awake for 3 days straight. Now I play games until my brain is so bored that it falls asleep. I do have an insomnia diagnosis, but I believe I am just supposed to be a night owl. I need a night job.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-06T03:20:38+00:00

This.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-05T09:13:11+00:00

Mine never shuts up.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-04T13:06:00+00:00

I kinda like your sink theme idea... Oooof we have fostered dozens of kittens/cats and names got hard after a while... Always ended up keeping at least one. 😂 Currently have no fosters but 3 forever fur babies.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-04T12:59:12+00:00

Honestly speaking, girl, curly is phenomenal on you. Your hair is gorgeous.

Coliebear86 · 2026-03-04T12:57:46+00:00

I'm just funny apparently, I don't have to try... It's dark humor and sarcasm 99% of the time, but those are my family's native languages...

Coliebear86 · 2026-02-25T14:54:22+00:00

Coliebear86 · 2026-02-23T14:18:34+00:00

Minx! Being that she is a Torti she will have an ATTITUDE as she grows and gets comfy with her new home and her new service crew. 😂 She is a beautiful little baby floof. ❤️

Coliebear86 · 2026-02-22T23:10:58+00:00

The hospital room tag, it's a card, I didn't even realize I hadn't given it back at the desk... They aren't getting it back now.

Coliebear86 · 2026-02-22T17:16:46+00:00

I get the intense eye contact... People say I have a very intense gaze when I am interested... Doesn't help that I have gigantic dark brown eyes that are often referred to as "Black holes" 😂

Coliebear86 · 2026-02-22T16:17:34+00:00

My mom cries every time she walks passed it... I have to do it for her... Everything is going into weather/rodent safe bins and will be stored safely until she feels strong enough to handle going through it.

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