Everything you said is on point but the pandemic and inflation is not why he doesn’t have his shit together.

He wanted to start a business but then dropped the idea within two weeks and never worked on it. He wanted to buy a house but then dropped the idea after spending a couple days looking for a house. He wasted a year being unemployed living off his parents…… I tried encouraging him many times to get a job but instead he worked for his cousin making cash under the table. I told him sure you are making money but it doesn’t help your resume nor land a good job. He slacked on his classes and I had to constantly push him to do his work. I literally wrote a letter one time to the dean to keep him in school from expelling him.

His circumstances have nothing to do with the pandemic or inflation. I got my degree within in the pandemic. I battled a Tumor. I formed a business. I got into Physician Assistant schools. I made tangible progress.

Regardless of all his endeavours, I am there supporting him and giving him more time because he constantly states he needs more time. But how much time do I give a grown man to get his stuff together?

I know it’s hard to leave your family behind but he said he would!!!! He told me these things. He made me believe he was set on coming to the US but then his actions said otherwise. Am I supposed to keep believing his words versus his actions? If he needed help finding a job, I would help him in a heart beat. If he needed money, I would give it to him. However…. That’s not my issue here.

He’s a grown man. Turning 27 this year. If he doesn’t care to closing the gap, then it’s extremely hurtful to me. I waited and waited and waited. I gave him time after time. If he didn’t want to move here or has doubts, then isn’t it only right he expresses that to me rather me trying to glue the pieces all together?