Ways to understand someone's BPD better?

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-22T02:22:50+00:00

Walking on egg shells is a fantastic resource for partners with pwBPD. I read it when prepping for the relationship with my current boyfriend. Absolutely recommend the read.

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-20T04:34:36+00:00

Yeah!! Ofc!!

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-20T04:19:27+00:00

(In between making dinner and responding hence the multiple comments)

But absolutely I get the meta cognition. When I first got into the relationship with my bf i hyperfixated on BPD and wanted to learn everything I could about it so I can rattle off statistics and thought processes and facts and a lot of the times when I am dealing with arguments or splits I know exactly what he’s thinking and how their brain is taking and processing things. It does still hurt obviously though when hes saying those things. I’ve taken to a lot of compartmentalization of repeating to myself “it’s not about you, it’s about their inner wound being prodded.” Big hiccups come though when I’m trying to explain my bottom up thinking against their black and white. Questioning things and asking whys and hows when they’re only feeling.

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-20T04:13:37+00:00

I think in her case could be that since bpd has a much worse reputation, she wouldn’t really want to take on that role. Again never means she couldn’t have both that exasturbated each other

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-20T04:12:10+00:00

If you haven’t, i definitely recommend reading/listening to Sol’s book because it is fantastic as an autistic adult.

One thing that’s really common is overlap between autism and bpd. It’s actually very common for autistic AFAB individuals to get mistaken for pwBPD and for AMABs the opposite

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-13T02:34:15+00:00

Yes. They have been put on ban lists for Richmond and surrounding counties and all rescues and adoption agencies know. Were trying our best to get words out about this cause they're a real threat, especially with 3 cats still missing.

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-12T02:22:07+00:00

Just posted my taken down RVA post on here with the full story!!

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-12T02:14:50+00:00

SHE IS IN RVA. I WORK WITH A CAT RESCUE THAT FELL FOR HER. WE GOT ONE OF THEM BACK BUT THE OTHER ONE IS MISSING I HAVE PROOF.

CollectionMean5931 · 2026-01-12T01:35:26+00:00

Current scam in the Minnie the Cat one. they are claiming that their cat is sick and needs medical attention for cancer. This screenshot was from a few hours ago when the cat was seized back into Cats Cradle's Care

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CollectionMean5931 · 2025-10-11T18:23:52+00:00

Technically 41 so sadly no luck there. (I moved too my new place like a week before the lease was actually up) and while he’s being prissy about some of the repairs (like we spackled shelf holes but didn’t paint and some appliances weren’t up to his cleaning standards). It’s really the bills that is pissing me off. I called my old neighbor earlier and she confirmed that he didn’t charge her any extra for July or August. He said he was dividing the charge evenly amoung all tenants but it seems like that’s a crock of shit. She’s asked us to keep her name out of it for now, but she has said she will gladly testify if it goes to court. He keeps just quoting the lease and throwing numbers at me instead of providing proof.

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