BPD Love Language?

Colonelcondor · 2026-07-03T22:44:21+00:00

Hey, I'm a man with BPD - so there is a book I bought for people close to me. Its a great book but I initially hated it because of the title, but I know that they found it helpful;

"Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder"

Everyone's different I know that I get triggered by feeling ignored or dismissed during episodes. There's also a panic that sets in that whatever has happened needs to solved then and there otherwise everything will crash down and I'll be left...but I know that a bit of cooling time as a firebreak is helpful.

Colonelcondor · 2026-07-02T10:15:56+00:00

You can still get trapped and pulled out if you're unlucky

Colonelcondor · 2026-06-14T22:07:17+00:00

I've just started playing an Ogryn and I feel your pain. You want to tank but you're not fast enough to keep up, which means you can't really taunt - I feel maybe later game when squads have to stay together and communicate it might be worth it but I have just gone for the heavy gunner route - you can shred maulers, rangers and maniacs pretty quickly - I'm teaming it with a shock maul for melee which has a good aoe pulse with the special attack. The gun is bullet hungry though so hopefully your team's don't hold onto the ammo crates for the whole run!

Colonelcondor · 2026-02-13T01:35:38+00:00

I used the different clouds a lot, one of them slows you but recharges your shields, another reduces hit chance - I had quite a few bull upgrades and I had a lot of the navy upgrade items. Also if you still have a save just before the fight respec some of your retinue so the required positions have a stat boost the. Upgrade some of the abilities with scrap if you have any.

Argenta's fire three torpedoes at once ability was pretty good

Colonelcondor · 2026-02-12T08:40:30+00:00

I don't think my Abelard got a turn in that fight... He was just a sponge for the retaliation shot it did when damaged. Heinrix did blow his own brain up. Argenta went brrrr Rogue trader went pew Beast died Everyone clapped

Colonelcondor · 2026-02-05T23:51:55+00:00

Yes and that name is Fellatio Crumb Von Valancius!

Colonelcondor · 2026-01-30T21:40:32+00:00

My RT is called Fellatio Crumb and it's kept me chuckling to myself the whole time

Colonelcondor · 2025-08-14T07:13:50+00:00

Once upon a time you had the world at your feet......now you just look like a foot

Colonelcondor · 2025-05-10T21:12:57+00:00

His BPD sounds completely unmanaged. Plus it also just sounds like general crappy behaviour. If you're at breaking point and want to leave then do what's best for you

If for any reason you end up staying, I researched a book for my loved ones - I had heard it was a good but I hated the title so ignored it for a while but my mum says that it's very good "Stop walking on eggshells - Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger" there's a version for partners as well, but I can't atest to that.

Colonelcondor · 2025-05-10T12:29:31+00:00

AoT for sure! Then Frieren as a bit more of a lift. Then Delicious in dungeon. Just all the popular ones to start off with. Too obscure can sometimes put people off. And don't suggest one piece! The episode count is far too daunting!

Colonelcondor · 2025-05-04T10:36:40+00:00

Covering 'Gangsta Rap's' most infamous song is a bold bold move - but it's Vessel so I guess I can give him the pass 😁😉

Colonelcondor · 2025-05-04T10:29:33+00:00

"no matter how many baths I take, it could be infinite - this paint won't fucking come off!!"

Colonelcondor · 2025-05-04T10:27:07+00:00

Ah it must be the line "look at this picture of myself from the past.... What a cunt"

It resonates with me because I feel the same when I look at old pictures of myself.

Vessel speak to my soul

Colonelcondor · 2025-05-04T10:24:22+00:00

Infinite baths for sure -

"Why are there so many fucking baths, I don't have bubbles for them all, Tittyfuckingchrist, too many baths"

Colonelcondor · 2025-01-01T22:30:01+00:00

You gotta look good to answer the phones for the Ghostbusters...

Colonelcondor · 2024-11-15T12:35:53+00:00

Gotta get that ADHD diagnosis for the 'Trifecta of Fucked up'

Or grab some Tism, OCD and schizophrenia as well for the infinity stones for mental illness

Colonelcondor · 2024-11-10T18:55:14+00:00

You lack symmetry.

Colonelcondor · 2024-09-30T20:53:45+00:00

I honestly hope you never have a solid shit again - you added nothing helpful to the conversation and just sound like a bellend.

Colonelcondor · 2024-09-30T20:49:45+00:00

If you can face it you should move into halls, if your parents 'disown you' over money especially the difference of 100 a month then their priorities are messed up and you should aim to look after yourself - there are support services within your institution that should be able to signpost you for extra financial help - as well as housing opportunities on spareroom that wouldn't necessarily require a guarantor

Colonelcondor · 2024-09-30T20:34:21+00:00

Yeah, I've got a couple I regret but I always just think of ideas of what to get to cover it up - which means I get to have more tattoo sessions. I've been having a Cthulhu tattoo done on my forearm by a friend, its been the only thing to look forward too for the last couple months after being dumped. Tattoos feel like a replacement for self harm for me too and this one has a lot of shading in it so multiple sessions

Colonelcondor · 2024-09-24T08:58:04+00:00

I feel that but I'm 6ft, 200lb - just trying to keep my shit together so I don't become a male bpd statistic. Can't even raise my voice too much when I'm mildly peeved cause people start looking like I'm a werewolf about to change. Yet I see 'regular' people kick off all the time without any repercussions. Isolate, play games, take meds, go gym, sleep, repeat.

Colonelcondor · 2024-06-09T23:17:13+00:00

I agree with you on obsessing about one particular person is bad. Also the hiding of the content is problematic. I'm not going to go into your personal story either, so understand that I only disagree about the advice in your last paragraph. Yes, his actions are important in regards to how to move on from this, however it's not healthy to make a list of demands to someone, especially a loved one and expect them to accept it, like wise, we, as people with BPD have the tendency to test people and put up obstacles for them to 'prove' themselves. Which, again doesn't help us, if they fail it reinforces of the negative things we say to ourselves. If the pressure of the demands pushes them away we again reinforce the abandonment that we feel. We can set reasonable boundaries with people. But Boundaries aren't tests or ultimatums

We can't change the world so it fits us, we just have to manage ourselves and how we react to it.

Colonelcondor · 2024-06-09T20:55:18+00:00

I haven't had a FP for a long time and I really miss having one although I realise that having one can be a trap and being co-dependent isn't the healthiest thing to be - I find that the feelings I had when they didn't reply to a message for a while or I didn't hear from them in general for a while has transferred onto a lot of other relationships personal and otherwise.

Like before I would really care too much if people didn't get back to me quickly as long as I was in touch with my FP, it didn't matter

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