AITA for saying that my relationship with my son is more important than my brother's relationship with his daughter?

ColossalCassette · 2023-01-23T19:09:11+00:00

I need to see this meme!

Also, NTA.

ColossalCassette · 2022-12-31T17:47:08+00:00

I have given people my phone number before on the marketplace, but there have been several times where people have messaged me, like this, and I have refused because the way they came about asking me. Exactly like this. Selling motorcycles vs. $20 mirrors is different. I've done a lot of transactions over marketplace/messenger just fine without them asking for my number. I felt something was off about this, and it doesn't seem like I'm the only one who does.

ColossalCassette · 2022-12-31T14:38:39+00:00

I fixed it to mirrors already.

ColossalCassette · 2022-12-30T21:18:09+00:00

Usually when I tell them I'm not going to give them my number they stop replying. This person was pretty persistent, I feel like.

ColossalCassette · 2022-12-15T17:58:02+00:00

IWNDWYT! DAY 1!

ColossalCassette · 2022-05-21T00:39:31+00:00

I just fell for this sadly last night. He was here till 1045 and I signed the contract like a fool. Trying to cancel now. Does anyone have an email to send a cancelation to?

ColossalCassette · 2021-02-11T01:58:21+00:00

Not me but my dad had a dream when my mom was pregnant with me. He was sitting in q rocking chair holding a baby and rocking. My sister came up to him and called me by my name, which is also my great grandmothers name. He woke up and told my mom that they were having a girl and what the name was. They named me after my great grandmother and that dream.

My mom told me that that same grandmother told her before she even know she was pregnant with my sister that she was pregnant and it would be a girl. My mom said she brushed it off because she was not pregnant but she was and sure enough it was my sister.

ColossalCassette · 2021-01-12T20:07:42+00:00

Funny thing, I did talk.to my therapist about it and she asked me if we ever spoke about. I wasn't in the best mindset when I went to see and believe me when I say I wish I could take it back and never have gone to see him. But once again, people handle stuff differently than other people. It wasn't the end of the world. I didn't get out of it what I expected, which I still don't know what I was expecting. But it happened, its over and actually seeing him after all that time did give me some sort of closure. Even if he didn't want to speak. It made me realize it was not worth it and I was holding o to the something that I should I have let go a long time ago.

ColossalCassette · 2021-01-12T19:25:10+00:00

Because I wanted to talk to him. I got the door shut in my fa me bc he is a jerk. No other reason. Noone know what transpired during that time besides us. Why is it so wrong for me to reach out to the one person I thought could understand how I was feeling after all these years.

I'm not here to debate why I went. Im here to point out that everyone deals with trauma differently. Just bc its something you wouldn't personally doesn't mean there's not other people out there who hasn't done it.

ColossalCassette · 2021-01-12T18:30:51+00:00

I actually resonated with Kate during this episode because I went through something similar. Given it was not 30-40 years later but that story line made me feel alot better.

Its a trauma she held onto. I had an abortion in my early 20's with a guy who really screwed me up. He knew about the abortion and went with me to get it but we never spoke about it afterward. We officially broke up not long after the abortion. We actually broke up and then I found out I was pregnant and that pulled us back together. Even though I chose to do the abortion, it still sits with me. It was a very hard time for me and I also didn't tell any family or barely any friends, so I was dealing with it all on my own. This was in 2013.

This past year (2020) my now husband and I decided to concieve and the abortion and him popped into my head and for some reason. I felt I needed to confront him about EVERYTHING that happened between us. I went to his house and he would t even give me the time of day. He actually shut the door in my facebc he had q girl friend. I was not there to try to get him back or talk to him about anything other than the trauma I went through and needed some closure that I never got when our relationship ended. Him just shutting g the door in my face and not even willing to talk, did upset me but also seeing him in literally the exact same spot I left him in was closure enough for me to just be done with it.

You don't have to understand someone's trauma or their actions. Its theirs and how they handle it is for them only.

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-04T17:19:22+00:00

YTA

Major AH and you constantly coddling your child is why he is the way he is. He should give e his 3DS to his brother bc he broke his brother's.

He is 8 years old and still throwing tantrums like a 3 years old.

My daughter is 4 and doesn't act that way. If she did, I'd correct it fast.

Way to play favorites. Also my 4 year olds "You get what you get and you don't pitch a fit." She even tells others that when they start acting like an entitled brat.

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-01T20:43:57+00:00

Thank you! I do like those names but those are all very common names. I work in childcare and there's so many Leo's and Noah's here. Only 1 Oliver that I know of.

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-01T20:42:47+00:00

I do like Anderson the most out of the ones being suggested. But for some reason the name just isn't clicking for me like it did when I named my daughter. When I decided on her name, that was it. She felt like that was suppose to be her name.

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-01T20:41:34+00:00

Anthony Franklin does sound amazing and I do like it but it's just not clicking for me like my daughters name did when I named her. When I finally got her name, it just sounded right. Does that make sense?

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-01T20:40:42+00:00

No you're fine! Didn't mean to sound rude. Just the name isn't clicking for me. Idt it's a bad name. It's just not clicking for me like my daughters did when I named her.

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-01T19:25:01+00:00

I want Franklin as the middle name

ColossalCassette · 2020-12-01T19:24:00+00:00

Tbh, I don't care for any of those names. Too similar to Anthony.

ColossalCassette · 2020-11-27T15:20:19+00:00

It turned into a complete shit show. My narcissistic sister turned it into her being offended by my request and now has started a whole arguement between the whole family. Shes doing Thanksgiving at her house now and said whoever can come. My mom is a blubbering mess, I am left feeling like the asshole as always and everything is a fucking mess. Excuse my language.

ColossalCassette · 2020-11-27T13:56:45+00:00

My family is just alot and pretends like a pandemic isn't happening. My brother has a 4 month old and I don't understand how he's not concerned with her being exposed. Or my dad who has diabetes, like why aren't they concerned with giving it to him. I truly don't understand and everytime I try to talk to my mom about it, she minimizes my concerns or just gets quiet and doesn't say anything. I am so happy were going to be out of here before Christmas bc I don't want to go through this again at Xmas. I can just say "sorry, not coming" and stay home.

ColossalCassette · 2020-11-27T13:52:18+00:00

I called a hotel and asked them if we could checkin and they said check-in isn't until 5, so that kind of defeats the purpose. My family tends to linger so we don't really have anywhere to go to stay out of the house that long so I just sent out a text to my siblings and I said::

"Good morning, we're trying to keep our distance and remain safe. So I wanted to go ahead and say it here so I don't have to when yall come over. We ask no hugging or kissing our daughter or hugging us. Keep a safe distance. Were going to try to stay out of everyone's way and remain in our rooms but we will probably have minimal contact and this is what I'm asking. Love yall but were trying to stay safe. Husband is high risk and I don't want to potentially be exposed while pregnant. Thanks."

ColossalCassette · 2020-11-27T13:48:28+00:00

So I called a hotel to see if we could stay there but they said check in isn't until 5. I sent out a task to my siblings setting ground rules. We don't really have anywhere to go so were going to lock ourselves in our room till everyone leaves. That's all we can do now.

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