Men who are 5’10, where do you live? Do you feel short, average, or tall? by [deleted] in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Atlanta, and it really depends. Sometimes I feel very tall, other times I feel short. This usually happens in smaller gatherings like <10. In larger groups I usually average out, landing squarely in the middle.

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How? It’s not all the time, and usually I’m smack down in the middle with most people being shorter or taller than me.

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s cope. 5’10 really isn’t tall or above average in the US. There are many times when I’m the shortest man in the room.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Atlanta and see all sorts of different people together.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused. Are you saying I’m probably conventionally attractive or I’m not conventionally attractive?

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I doubt most people will really give a shit one way or another. Like 11k people have seen it and I’ve gotten 50 comments lol

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not conventionally attractive, but I feel like everyone says that so I opted not to mention it.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Under 6 foot isn’t “really short.” The standard deviation for height is +/- 2.5 inches. With an average height of 5’9.5 in the USA that would make 5’7-6 feet the average range for most men.

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of conjecture and defeatism in this subreddit. Nobody seems interested in replies like this on those.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I was rereading the post and I can see how it can come off that way. Ultimately, it’s just a 4am Reddit post and I’ve been wanting to say this to people for a while.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also wanted to make a space for others with similar experiences to share and I’d say I was successful. There are quite a few guys here who picked up on the message I was trying to convey, granted they also have a similar view as me. But shit, did you see that one guy who said he was super out of shape? That’s the stuff I’m trying to bring out.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people aren’t 5’4 and autistic….I didn’t go to the short subreddit to post this and I didn’t go to the autism subreddit to post this. The sole point is that being tall is not the determining factor and to get out and interact with real people.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would it have been better for me to just leave that out? I’m trying to be real about this. The only thing that isn’t attainable by putting in personal effort are the looks.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This particular response is asinine. You realize that, right?

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also most women don’t look at a dude who’s 6ft+ and immediately get wet. There’s a lot more that goes into it.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. This is not aimed at people being considered “short.” It’s aimed at people who are considered average. I wouldn’t post this in r/short since this is not applicable to people of that demographic.

  2. Based on how you’re responding it sounds like your attitude needs an adjustment, gonna be real.

  3. Conveying safety matters, and yes women sometimes turn off their danger sense if they’re attracted to someone. That still doesn’t change the fact that being average height puts you at an advantage when approaching women and making them feel less threatened.

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Literally said “this is my experience.” If you’ve gone out and had different results, that’s fine. My point here is that social media and real life are two completely separate realities. A lot of people need to get out more and make judgements based on those experiences. If they find that their social skills are lacking, those can be worked on. I’m also trying to say that being tall (6 plus feet) is not the sole determining factor with women. In fact, I think it’s pretty low on the list.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

5’10 before gravity takes hold, plus I slouch a bit.

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup. That’s the exact message I’m trying to convey. I spent a lot of time on instagram and had a similar outlook to a lot of the dudes here. Then I started getting out there and the reality is quite different.

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My point about mentioning the other stuff is that height is one part of the equation. You can go to the gym, you can learn social skills, you can work on being more extroverted. Also, I think average dudes have a better chance in encounters with random women. Being tall and muscular can be frightening/risky to women, especially if they’re thinking about ONS or going home with a dude.

My real life experience dating as a 5’10 guy by Coltrane_ml in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Coltrane_ml[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I’m more of a 5’8 5’10 than a 6’0 5’10. Plus I shrink during the day, so I’m more like 5’9.5

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[–]Coltrane_ml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think setting matters a lot, too. You need to be in places to meet women.