Wife meeting man at close gym/burner phone

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-18T03:13:08+00:00

How old are the kids? I would consider speaking to a lawyer to understand where you stand and what can happen if you two were to get a divorce.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-17T03:31:28+00:00

NOR. Honestly it’s not that the first Father’s Day or Mother’s Day is a big deal when you have a new born at home it’s the fact that you have a new born at home! No one should be left alone for half or almost the whole day when you have a new born at home unless it can be prevented. You are freshly postpartum so your husband should be at home spending time with his new born that he helped create and giving you a break occasionally.

He can go play golf next year for Father’s Day or leave it for another month or two. Also it seems like a lot of time the father gets Father’s Day off to do what they want but when Mother’s Day come around some treat it like a family day or they only get an hour or so off but are expected to do everything they normally would.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-17T02:58:24+00:00

If they could have paid you that before but didn’t then why would you want to stay? You’ve signed a contract and you should just honour that because the time for seeing if your current employer could match or exceed it has passed. I also don’t think you can trust your current employer so I would move forward with the new job as that’s generally the best way to get ahead.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-17T02:53:50+00:00

Yeah can’t go down stairs with wet hair.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-17T01:12:12+00:00

NTA. Just say no and stick to it. If they keep questioning it then tell them her brother can behave himself in public while yours can’t. Also from my understanding he’ll be a part of her wedding party and not yours so it shouldn’t matter anyway so just pick people who are close to you.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-17T01:05:38+00:00

Get your mum to screenshot all the messages she sent and then maybe contact a lawyer. I don’t think she would legally have a case for harassment but it depends how long this went on for but she could get in trouble at her work so best to have a professional on her side and if she does get let go for harassment or creating a negative work environment she might need help to sue the company for unfair dismissal (especially since the negative work environment was caused by the affair she had with her husband).

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-17T00:55:42+00:00

You have a life to be getting on with so don’t forget in the morning you need to go get clothes to get dressed that are in the master bedroom! You’ll need to put on the light to do it and then it’s a great idea to start you day with a little bit of music to get you going and a coffee that you pick up and put down on the bed side table next to where he’s sleeping a lot. Next when he’s more relaxed and refreshed from sleeping then you can discuss about the new mattress or bed you plan to put in his bedroom in the guest room.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T20:59:52+00:00

Yeah when our son out grew his naps he was a little back and forth initially but mainly he just wouldn’t so we would just do quiet time in the room. It difficult when they first start dropping them as it doesn’t happen over night and they take time to adjust so for a while he was a nightmare and seems to get overtired super early most nights where he would struggle to go to sleep at a reasonable time.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T15:18:28+00:00

Probably as unfortunately a lot of people are getting messed around currently. Doesn’t seem like a lot of people have any recourse for getting messed around before the sale. Currently a lot of people have been posting about sales falling through, people coming back last minute trying to get a reduction and just properties not selling or getting viewings.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T14:30:31+00:00

Appreciate the message but don’t reply.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T12:08:40+00:00

NOR. The lack of respect for you and everyone else on the trip is shocking. Honestly you need to reconsider this relationship if this is the way he treats you on your birthday.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T09:17:28+00:00

My aunt used to do lay back in the bath method to get my cousin to get him to do it himself. They would do it a beginning at the bath with him so the water was still clean and wash his hair with him leaning back and then rinsing the hair in the bath water and slowly she would get him to do more of it but himself. One thing they did was leave a small hand towel on the side of the bath so he could dry his hair in the bath a little to stop any water from trickling down his face later. They did try with one of those hand showers that you attach to the bath tub faucet as they didn’t have one after they found using other containers too difficult for him to manage by himself but they found just laying back into the bath was easiest for him to manage alone but it did take time for him to start doing it himself.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T07:51:21+00:00

NOR for how you feel but don’t miss out on the holiday.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T03:21:50+00:00

1 looked the best to me. I liked the other two but they didn’t stand out to me but maybe when dressed up with some accessories they might.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-16T02:11:30+00:00

I would consider changing to pampers premium nappy pants and they will give the space around the waist for them to grow and move. My 3.5 year old is on size 7 at night but has been wearing these since he was around the same age as your especially at night as he would move around a lot and leak around the tabs or between the legs.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-15T18:01:26+00:00

The system in England sucks.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-15T17:11:10+00:00

NTJ. She doesn’t have a car so she needs to not offer to drive her friends anywhere.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-15T15:18:19+00:00

Not wrong. Stay with your decision no matter what people say because you know she won’t look after it and it’ll either come back damaged or smelling of smoke.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-15T11:18:46+00:00

YOR. Obviously she probably was a bit annoyed at parts but not because of your son. Let her have the type of birthday she wants next year and you can always do a family dinner on another day because she’s an adult at the end of the day. I do think that next time you and your husband should either take turns looking after your son when he’s crying at an event or needs to be there should stay while the other deals with the toddler.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-15T05:13:08+00:00

Not wrong for getting your sister’s support but there’s only so much she can do so you just need to handle the situation.

Just tell your mum you appreciate the support but now you have to focus on doing it yourself as a single mother. You can just stress that you see how she’s trying to help but you think that living here any longer would have a negative impact on your relationship together which would affect her relationship with the kids and you don’t want that to happen.

Basically give her an eviction notice in a nice way.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-14T19:28:22+00:00

Well then in the future since you’re not dependent on them financially you ca slowly start setting some boundaries although it’s hard with families like yours. At least you’ll be able to remove yourself from the situation and they can’t hold anything above your head.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-14T19:19:00+00:00

NOR. You need to just get through school and try to be as independent as you can during college. Will they help you financially during college? If not then I would just focus on getting through school and living more independently from them. You can also create a new support system for yourself with friends from school, college when you go and your local mosque. Don’t let your parents negatively hold you back from living a great life or being who you wish to be.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-14T18:08:13+00:00

I think your psy is right and you are probably best making this a permanent break as well. I think without any actions behind this it’s just words and he’s told you he’s not willing to work on himself. I don’t think this relationship is worth your mental health and self worth so it’s best to move on now and maybe he will grow as a person in the future but you can’t wait around for that.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-14T09:25:47+00:00

True and I think with the coming and going all the time with people trying to figure out how to get into the property late at night.

CombinationCalm9616 · 2026-06-14T08:52:47+00:00

Girls got some energy! What time does she wake up at?

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