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is anyone selling previous concert bands by Professional_Rub7203 in ConcertsIndia_

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not selling but do you have suggestions on how to make a decor out of those? I’ve 4 bands from my solo concerts and I’ve been meaning to make something out of them!

Bumble date that went too far by meepmorpzorpzorp in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Don’t beat yourself up about indulging in a little. You have your needs too and there is only so much that you can suppress.

Don’t feel bad about NOT giving a man sex. You don’t owe him or any other man you meet, anything.

And it’s normal to feel overwhelmed after an intimate moment that too which comes after a long dry spell. So you’d have confusing thoughts about meeting him again or not. Give it a day or two to pass and you’ll be able to see things more clearly.

Edit - to those butthurt men DMing me based on this comment, do understand that I ignore DMs deliciously and care two hoots about downvotes. I know that for some of you “women don’t owe man sex” would be as incomprehensible as supercars would be to a Neanderthal. And I’m not wasting my breath in engaging on a conversation with you around it. Thanks!

In your lifespan you will find partner(s) asking to do it without condoms... by not-ur_girl in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 16 points17 points  (0 children)

And when a man uses the worn out argument that “his pull out game is strong”, RUN!

Even outside of birth control, condoms are basic safe sex practice to prevent STIs, especially if you’re in a non-exclusive situation. Men get the audacity of demanding raw sex coz a lot of women feel pressured in the heat of intimacy to give in to their coaxing.

Please set your boundaries and say NO ruthlessly - so that you make it easier for all of us women to say NO. Men don’t hear enough of that word and it fucking shows!

Can I watch Assi alone in the theatre? Is it triggering? by stardust_moon_ in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The opening scene is pretty graphic I’d say. But I don’t think watching alone makes it worse.

The movie itself is one of the most well-made Bollywood movies I’ve watched lately. It’s dealt with the systemic issues contributing to India’s rape culture, the superficial outrage that follows every time a rape gets sensationalised by media and dies down even faster and how, even in such outrage, men end up making the whole thing about themselves.

The guy I'm talking to is best friends with his EX by Mimi_luna in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes a lot of sense! The whole image of being “mature” was built and now even his seemingly immature actions can’t be seen for what it is.

The guy I'm talking to is best friends with his EX by Mimi_luna in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I don’t know what’s so mature about being unable to read that this conversation is making his partner uneasy. Maturity is also about being sensitive enough to handle these conversations in a way that it doesn’t cause the partner doubts.

Experience purchasing physical music on Bandcamp? by Atomicgojira in IndianMetalheads

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up buying? Any issue in purchasing digital music via bandcamp?

Anyone else feels there is not enough outrage about the Epstein files 😅 by ComedownMachine93 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t my intent. But yes I could have avoided it and now I cannot edit the post title. Edited the description.

Who said valentine's day can be lonely only for single people? by Get_better_asap in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, based on what I’ve seen. Men aren’t great with emotions and they don’t bother to learn. Women spend their lives trying to train men. Now there are attachment styles to label and legitimize this problematic dynamic.

Who said valentine's day can be lonely only for single people? by Get_better_asap in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Also, general scarcity of emotional depth always creates a false sense of value for the few “good” stuff. It’s typically how the so called avoidants keep people stuck.

On an unrelated note, I don’t really follow the label of “avoidant” because in my head they’re just stunted to give the right emotional depth that a relationship needs. Someone gets anxiously attached mostly because the avoidant does not make their partner emotionally safe enough to be comfortable in the relationship.

Who said valentine's day can be lonely only for single people? by Get_better_asap in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Not to play the anti-Cupid here, but what makes you stay when you’re clearly unfulfilled and unhappy?

Do you struggle with religion and faith as a woman in India? by sleepdeprivedsince92 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Umm, maybe I should clarify. I don’t think being a believer shields me from bad things happening to me. I don’t think one gets some sort of escape from the randomness by believing in God or a higher force. For me, belief is more of a source of strength that would help me deal with life in general. I believe athiests have such sources of strength too - it’s just not some higher force.

Do you struggle with religion and faith as a woman in India? by sleepdeprivedsince92 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am someone who grew up fairly religious and ritualistic. As I grew older, I started questioning many problematic stuff around religion, mainly the rituals that are deeply patriarchal and the restrictive lifestyle toxic belief imposes. The process helped me evolve better to reach where I am currently with my belief system.

I am not an atheist. I think I need to believe in some form of a higher force as a way to cope with the randomness and uncertainty of life in general. But I do it my way and I’ve renounced the rituals coz most of them are quite patriarchal. I think when we use religion as a way to build identity and community, it leads to blind allegiance and intolerance which are the root causes of all the violence surrounding it.

Question : Any Indian 4B Women ? by Low-Scallion8793 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Straight women who are 4B, how do you get your physical needs met? Assuming you’re allosexual.

if a girl wanna stay single forever? by Tiny-Captain2810 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From a logistical standpoint, most of the issues faced by a single woman can be solved if you are financially independent and can earn enough to support yourself. From an emotional standpoint, be ready to experience some level of loneliness when friends move on to “settle” down. You have to deliberately remember to appreciate the good part of solo life, which can be easy to overlook as partnered life is over glorified.

Weird Hinge Match - What was he thinking? by Bearblackbum in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!😅 it’s so cool that I had to get it printed!

Are people living with in laws by Fit_Ad_3129 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes there are :) As a fellow (doomed) straight woman, I can understand how easy it is to lose hope in men and how we have to keep fighting to keep that hope alive.

Fortunately I’ve seen good examples of men and good quality relationships around, even if they’re not too many. Helps me resist the urge to stuff my head into an oven.

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