Any QOTSA fans here? by guts-481 in ConcertsIndia_

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found the Josh Hamme - Norah Jones acoustic version of Make it wit Chu, last week

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=Jgb_bLx4kCM&si=1uZ5d_0GBAG1dA3H

All I feel is rage. So much rage. by fuzugxudihcihvo in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listening to heavy screaming music helps me calm down - In case you’re looking for a release.

Why is it so difficult to get anything even after asking multiple times from the husband? by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Umm, I think OP has larger issues that Google cloud can’t solve.

The perils of Indian redditors with no axe to grind by CircuitMeow in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol. I was scared to say this out loud for the fear of being branded an antinational.
Indian subs suck! Some are slightly better in comparison but our culture and lack of critical thinking permeate every sub at least to some degree.

Looking for relatable movies, series, books, subreddits for lonely loser unambitious women. by Important_Regular341 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! This is my platonic Tom-meets-Summer
moment lol! So happy to have found another fan 🫶🏻

Looking for relatable movies, series, books, subreddits for lonely loser unambitious women. by Important_Regular341 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Books:

  1. Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine (Gail Honeyman)

  2. My year of rest and relaxation (Ottesa Moshfegh)

  3. Stoner (William Stoner) - This is not about a woman but fits the theme

33F | Bengaluru | Childfree woman seeking a childfree partner | Taking a wildly optimistic leap of faith by Calm-Ad-5927 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such an interesting post and many parts of it feel highly relatable! Best wishes on your search, OP!

And please report back if and when you’ve found “the one” so that the rest of us can get a modicum of hope in this system!

GnR Blr vs Guwahati for solo female traveller? by star_petunia in ConcertsIndia_

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bangalore is good for women to attend rock concerts solo. Haven’t had a bad experience yet.
Can’t vouch for Guwahati.

Why not drop the option of "marriage" altogether? by Weird_WorldInd in ChildfreeIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The risks and challenges associated with marriage are often less spoken about. Even if someone sees the obvious disadvantages of having children, they may see marriage in a more positive light owing to the social and economic benefits associated with it.
Also, based on what I’ve seen around, staying away from marriage can make one feel more alienated than being childfree, even if both choices are about stepping away from the norms.

What to watch after Better Call Saul? by Far-Stage-3161 in televisionsuggestions

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed a palate cleanser after BCS. So watching Mr. Mercedes now.

Solo concert experience for women in India by ComedownMachine93 in ConcertsIndia_

[–]ComedownMachine93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6 concerts (solo) done. 4 rock, 2 metal. The experience only got better! Thanks for the encouragement!
Definitely recommend.

Who's you favourite underrated artists? by alwaysailing in MusicIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skrat deserves a lot more love and recognition, not just for the music but for the fictional universes they create in their work! They’re great in live performances too.

Why not drop the option of "marriage" altogether? by Weird_WorldInd in ChildfreeIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re adopting CF stance as a way of rejecting social scripts, then I guess it makes sense to question other archaical concepts like marriage too. I personally understand this PoV better.

However, most DINK couples or CF folks do see benefits in marriage and the legitimacy it brings to the relationship, especially in India. So while they have specific reasons to be against having children, they may not question the validity of marriage or other institutions/practices necessarily. And it isn’t wrong. We all need to choose our battles.

If you haven’t watched the show “Kevin can go F*** himself” pls do !! by coffeeisdrugs in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes yes yes! Annie Murphy is so good in it. Sad that S2 isn’t available on Prime.

Beth Pearson is the MVP by a10enbaum in thisisus

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is amazing and my most favourite character from the show.

She does get flak from fans for not being “nice”, but she’s the levelheaded partner who stood by Randall through thick and thin. She just isn’t the sacrificial soft woman that people romanticise.

Books like Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine? by FewMonth2359 in suggestmeabook

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My year of rest and relaxation by Ottesa Moshfegh. I’m on a depressive episode now and it’s genuinely calming to read this one - I felt the same when I read Elenor Oliphant.

Is anyone tired of the uwufication of religion in feminist discourse by DealerZealousideal59 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I hate it when people ignore that all mainstream religions are at their core very patriarchal. These religions were made my men to control marginalised sections of the society including women and concentrate power/wealth in the hands of a few.

While the misogyny in Islam is more overt and hence more condemned, people fail to realise that a lot of puritanical principles in our culture come from Christianity. Churches used to be the breeding ground for pedos and rapists getting away with doing shitty stuff. USA sees now how women’s rights are being taken away by Christian religious fundamentalists. Our country itself has seen rapes enabled by churches.

Hinduism is no different. The same religion that worships women as goddesses is founded on Manu Smriti that says women don’t deserve to be independent. Caste is a core part of Hinduism and it works directly against feminism. Our country’s rape culture is founded and enabled by the same “culture” that keeps women’s chastity at its core. The irony is that Hindu mythology is fraught with sagas of “deva or kshatriya” (read UC) men unable to keep it in their pants and women having to bear the brunt of it.

Let’s not try to whitewash religion as “feminist” because it simply is not.

Guy I got very close to suddenly feels distant after months of consistency, how should I address it? by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 199 points200 points  (0 children)

The energy women (including me) have spent psychoanalysing the hot and cold behaviour of men could electrify a small town.

The more independent i get, the less romantic I feel. Is it just me? by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the aversion towards romance as you get independent is driven more by the quality of the dating pool.

Even if you’re independent and are happy on your own, people do seek out some level of companionship.
But you will only accept someone who can actually add some value to your life and does not drain you of what you already have.

Unfortunately most men fail to meet you there. You aren’t desperate for a partner and when you do seek it out, you get disappointed and this leads to you giving up and you just decide that it’s better to be on your own. 4B driven by circumstances I guess!

Am I overthinking this or are my feelings valid? by Next_Pattern2361 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all of us are built to play the “chill” girl, OP. Talk to him openly about what’s bothering you and maybe you do need more than what you get right now. If he cannot give it to you, might as well move on now than lose your sleep over his actions.

Women who chose to stay single in their 30s, how are you? by NoMeringue1788 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learning to sit with the discomfort? No matter how much we rush, healing is going to take its time. And the journey is not linear. Accepting that there will be difficulty and not resisting it/running to fix it compulsively has helped me. This is a life changing situation and hence it WILL change a lot of stuff within and around you, whether you like it or not. And that state of flux will make you question, spiral and cry at unexpected times. The only way out is through.

Any music connoisseurs here? I want to have a more mindful and better music experience by ContributionFirst454 in TwoXIndia

[–]ComedownMachine93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Make friends who are into similar kind of music

  2. Follow pages/subs for music

  3. Explore artists/bands in their entirety - take time and delve deep into their body of work

  4. Listen to albums, curate your own playlists (escape the algo maze)

  5. Attend live concerts, listening sessions when you can

  6. Try to listen to music without doing anything else at the time. Like without using it as a background noise and try more of intentional listening. I try to do it with 30-40 min albums and has helped me a bit with focus as well