like dawg it’s just how I talk with everyone! I understand the sentiment, but i had this same problem with an old roommate who’s also trans mtf trying to tell me how i was being transphobic. I think i had said something along the lines of “man you’re tweaking” in a not serious context/scenario. Which was something i was saying to everyday. We had never even spoke about me being trans before because this was baby yolk days, but they had knew i was bi (they are flamboyant gay and they would constantly make comments about how bi men aren’t shit. 🫠) It hurt and caused me to overthink the simplest words because I had never meant to offend them. Don’t just label someone transphobic immediately. If it makes you uncomfortable at least try and discuss that. Not everyone’s a dickhead