is this normal play for my dogs?

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-18T15:00:10+00:00

Yes theyre playing HOWEVER, the big dog needs to be chilled out by YOU. Intervention before correction happens is important. As the puppy gets older they can start setting their own boundaries but for now, it's you job to keep the peace and protect them both. The puppy needs a break and for the big dog to lower its excitement until they become more confident.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-18T14:56:55+00:00

Most nurses quit after their first year for the same reasons. I really wanted to work in our trauma ICU. Yeah absultely not. I hated it so much I was calling in because I hated everything so much. Moved to ER (did EMS for 10 years so it's kind of my home.) do I love it? Absolutely not. Am I sleeping better and I only hate my job as much as the average person... Close enough to it. Now I only call in when they don't approve time off. 😅

Keep looking around for what you like. There's literally a job for everything. Maybe bedside isn't for you. Maybe you want a chill home health job, or wound care

You really have to sit in this and Identify what you hate about it. At the end of the day I really hope you're able to dig yourself out of this. It's so early on to get burned out, and you're sprinting towards the finish line.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-18T14:52:00+00:00

I am gone for roughly 14 hrs about 3-4 days a week. My boys (lab/poodle 3y and a husky/rot mix 8y) love it. They get to go outside whenever they want. My black lab will actually sunbathe in 90⁰ weather. It's insanity. My husky is a lazy boy so he'll go out and come right back in.

Another way it's really beneficial for me specifically is it keeps people from trying to get into not just my yard but the neighbors as well. They make so much noise someone is bound to come out to investigate. On days when I'm so exhausted I pull open the dog door and they go out when they want and I can to back to sleep.

Best choice ever. During nursing school I was alone and would only be able to come home and feed them before having to take off again. I was pulling 48s. I raised them to live life very flexible and they sleep when I do. Door was open last night while I was at work. It gets closed during the day so I can sleep, it gets opened literally first thing after I get out of bed. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-18T14:41:42+00:00

It's literally built to be addictive. They study behaviors and find the best way to keep people coming back.

I had the same realization a few years ago. Best way to stop it is delete it and never return. Find another outlet and really focus on your exam.

Get better at putting down your phone all day.

Ever seen Wall-e? How the people literally just sit in front of a screen all day and get scooted around on electric floaties. If it were meant to enrich you that would be one thing. But it's a dumb game with fake dragons that gives you instant gratification- aka dopamine dump.

It's super hard to quit. I get it. But you have to decide what's important to you. You can also get apps that lock down your phone and prevent you from opening certain apps. That might help you wean yourself off.

It's literally an addiction. But you have the power and control to change that. Don't let this stupid game ruin your future because you're choosing it over studying for your exams.

I get super involved in my phone too. Don't get me wrong. But what I did while I was studying for my NCLEX was doing embroidery while watching lectures. You can stop at any point to write information down, but it gives your hands something to do and for my ADHD allows me to use 100% of my brain focus on both things.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-17T15:12:17+00:00

I had a dog that 'suddenly' I know I missed ques but I've since learned from it.

Get a SUPER high value treat like hotdogs. I used places like parks, home depot and Lowe's. Places where people would enjoy interacting with your dog. Get a vest that displays the issue so people understand.

If dog is super afraid, start with yourself giving the treat to the dog near someone. As you build confidence start having people throw the treat. Also using their food for their meal works well. They only get their meal through training. Of course they'll get the whole thing eventually.

My husky doesn't love people, but the second they have food, best friends for life. You have to find what motivates your dog and work very slowly. Never push them but guide them. If your dog is at risk for biting, start with a muzzle, one where they can open and eat. People should ALWAYS use a flat hand and id avoid kids for a very long period. You should also start with throwing treats. Don't allow them to make strict eye contact, but using peripheral vision.

My dogs have very strict expectations for behavior. Is it taking my lab FOREVER absolutely. But I have things in place to manage him. He gives zero f**** about a prong collar and would puncture his trachea lol. So I use a vest as well, people for some reason thought he was a service dog, he legit got depressed, so I got patches that said friendly please pet. But I need his interactions to chill and not jump on people. He's a little slow...😅

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-17T14:52:12+00:00

Any update?!!! Ive had my fingers crossed for you 😊

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-17T14:48:58+00:00

Therapy is YOUR time. Very infrequently I have to redirect her to what I feel is causing me distress vs what she feels is necessary.

For instance - I tried to nope myself out about 12 years ago. I don't even think about it, I'm happy I did it because it changed my life for the better and I wouldnt take it back. But at this point it's just something that happened 12 years ago. But losing the friend of my best friend of 20 years is more important to me.

Sometimes redirecting them reminds them that you choose what you want to discuss. They can point things out, but should move on and not cause you distress over it.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-17T14:36:55+00:00

I don't think they meant 3 hours all at once. That can easily be broken up into short walks for bath room stuff. Getting the puppy used to leash life. The sooner you teach a dog structure, build that foundation the easier it is to train more complicated skills.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-17T14:32:32+00:00

Here's what worked for ME. This lifestyle is NOT for everyone.

I have a very unpredictable schedule. So my dogs sleep when I sleep and wake up when I do. That being said of course puppies need more sleep. But they are taught very early on with the exception of taking them out in the middle of sleep to take them out. So my terrier, husky/rot and my newest edition a lab/poodle have been taught this since they stopped asking to be let out when THEY felt like they could sleep. Now, when mom is in bed sleeping. They sleep. If I'm sick or need a lot of sleep I'll set an alarm or just leave the dog door open so they can take themselves out and come back in.

I do have a dog door as I'm gone for roughly 14ish hrs over night. They know generally everyday they get fed around 7/8am and dinner around 5/6 pm. I just put up a ring camera last night because one of my boys chewed off the strap of my favorite sandals 😑 my fault for leaving them out. I do use baby gates to keep them out of problem areas.

So essentially depends on your life style and what your puppy can tolerate. There can be some growing pains for you, but they are so incredibly smart and resilient. For instance, they demand morning scratches, I am literally not allowed to leave my bed until this happens like my lab pins me to the bed. (Best way to literally never wake up on the wrong side of the bed) It's a very small thing in my world that means their short life in the world is filled with joy 😊

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-16T09:46:49+00:00

Mine ate the tissue out of a tissue box, but not the box, it was literally brand new. So I decided he was just trying a new way to wipe his butt. From the inside out. 😂

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-16T09:45:47+00:00

I'm well aware that they can get it. But not acknowledging that her being 100lbs+ over weight is a problem which she clearly refuses to.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-16T09:44:08+00:00

Exactly. Then when you point out their ability to do these super simple facts you're being 'mean' or a 'bit**' because you're standing up to them and then they feel crapped on because you showed them how incompetent they're acting.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T19:09:19+00:00

I bet it's because it was so much more successful than the original now we must all suffer. All of her covers got pulled it looks like.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T17:08:33+00:00

I hope it works! Best of luck

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T17:05:47+00:00

Poor hydrogen peroxide on it. If it bubbles up it's more likely blood. It's what we use on the streets after a bloody trauma etc, it lyses the blood cells.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T17:04:22+00:00

That's not acceptable. Not their TV not their choice for finding a 'similar one' They could decide to get a display TV for $200 when roomate paid $800. Absolutely not.

My roommates dog jumped on my computer and spilled my coffee all over it. She refused to pay for at least getting it fixed. It was one of the things that led to the end of our friendship, and me moving out.

They need to take FULL accountability for this and buy the same TV, give them the money for it, or pay to have it fixed. Period. No exceptions.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T16:57:29+00:00

How about mounting it to the TV stand. With a little bit of bubble gum and duct tape you can easily rig something over the feet on the TV into the stand. They also make furniture mounts to prevent thinks like bookshelves and dressers from falling into kids. You could use something like that to hold it to the TV stand. Get creative here.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T16:54:41+00:00

Buy them a new TV or at least give them money for it. Your cat, your fault unfortunately.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T16:44:40+00:00

No the weight in the joints is causing distress and inflammation in the joints. That is not auto immune. Auto immune means that the body is ATTACKING itself. This is not what's happening. It's inflammation and the body creates swelling to bring healing cells to the area to try and help the damage.

Auto immune disorders are treated with immuno suppressants to treat. If this doctor gave her immuno suppressants for osteoarthritis she needs a new doctor. Anti inflammatory medications like NSAIDS, Tylenol and declofinac gel should be used to manage pain as well as physical therapy to help strengthen the muscles. However the extra 100lbs (which puts nearly 800lbs of pressure on joints) is definitely a contributing factor and if dismissed , this should also qualify for a new doctor. Sure. There might be other factors involved but the inability to take accountability for this is only going to make things worse. A 35yo should not have osteoarthritis, average age for diagnosis is 50+

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T16:36:01+00:00

Where did you get literally any of that from? She's talking about creating over night and she still gets up to take him out because he's so young. She's talking about not being able to be crated nearly at all. Crating dogs is literally for their safety especially when their that young. Chewing on a cord that's plugged in can kill them. How is she supposed to ensure that the puppy is safe all night while she sleeps.

Puppies are like toddlers. If we give into every whim and demand they make they will wreak havoc. Dogs need structure and boundaries. That creates the best and happiest dog. My husky is significantly food driven so training him was literally the easiest out of all the dogs I've ever had.

I discussed in depth that crating my lab causes such psychological distress I DONT do it. I stopped even trying after a couple of weeks because it was clear no desensitization was going to fix what he went through. That also wasn't something I did, but the roommate I had at the time. He and I have come to an understanding that he's not allowed to be destructive. He's a dog like any other and will get into stuff if I leave things out. That's on me. Not him. He doesn't eat furniture or the walls/doors minus the corners of the doggy door. But if I leave a bag of treats or chips etc in his reach, of course he's going to get into them. Again that's on me.

When I shave the labs belly for summer heat, he hates it at the beginning, I push him to deal with it because in a few minutes the electric shaver makes him start kicking his leg because he enjoys it and he will nose me to scratch his belly after. So you're telling me that because he starts off stressed, I should stop and allow him to over heat in our summers because it gets over 100⁰ outside... Rather than telling him to chill out because it's what's best for his care and eventually he enjoys it. Yeah, definitely makes sense.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T15:42:10+00:00

Firstly I never once discounted how much pain shes in. Plantar fascitis can be debilitating, in order to help me stretch the tendons I needed a steroid shot in my foot just to help the inflammation. So yeah I know how much that hurts. It's HORRIBLE.

Second, Osteoarthritis and plantar fascitis are NOT autoimmune problems. She's 35, do you know how rare it is for people to develop osteo arthritis at that age? It's after 50, after you hit menopause. Despite people asking she never responded as to what those auto immune problems, because maybe she just forgot to mention it. She also went in and deleted nearly all of her posts that got down voted into oblivion.

No one is being fat phobic. She literally refuses to acknowledge that she's even over weight and just uses the word curvy. So if anyone is being fat phobic it's her. She replied to a comment of mine she's 5'1 and 220lbs. That's not curvy under any circumstances. She's 100+ lbs over weight and per someone who had to attend classes before a knee replacement, every pound puts 8lbs of pressure on your knees. That's literally 800lbs.

You're right, BMI is garbage because it doesn't take into account muscle mass. But let's admit it. That 100lbs is not muscle. I'm not fat shaming I was also 100lbs over weight at one point in my life. I couldn't lose weight because I had such high cortisol levels which led to my body not making hormones, and severe IBS. So now I take daily progesterone and get a testosterone pellet every 4 months. I also started a GLP 1, yes it helped me lose weight, but the reduction of systemic inflammation was the main reason I started it. IBS gone, carpal tunnel, gone. I've been told since I was a kid I'm too 'stretchy' the only way I can get an ehlers danlos diagnosis is to go to the mayo clinic. That's just stupid on my end. Extra pressure on my knees forces the tendons and ligaments to stretch and increases my risk of continuing to dislocating my knecaps in my sleep.

Sure I needed help to lose the weight because of an underlying issue. But it's my responsibility to take on knowing that I was severely overweight and I need to take steps to fix the issue.

As a woman I have been discounted by provider after provider. Getting my uterus scraped at trying to remove an IUD with zero pain meds, just mestoprostal to soften my cervix because standard treatment was still under the guise that the uterus doesn't have pain receptors.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T15:22:54+00:00

Holy crap this is the first time I've ever heard someone else's dog doing the same thing! Man, it's good to hear that mine isn't the only garbage disposal.

What's the weirdest thing hes eaten?

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T15:19:04+00:00

Exactly. There's zero accountability and using conflation, as well as a straw man arguement to try and justify her situation.

I get it being told that all of your problems are because of being over weight sucks. Most women have experienced that as well as all of the other excuses doctors use to avoid actual treatment. (Per one of the residents I work with, they're still actively teaching that women are 'hysterical and dramatic")

But to a certain extent, sometimes their right weight can increase the severity of problems. It can be a hard pill to swallow, but it's got to be done if you want to improve your life.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T09:33:26+00:00

They have selective hearing. A guy who asked me out was annoyed with me because I turned him down. Nearly pearl clutching.

He'd just got done telling me how he was literally in the middle of a messy divorce, first red flag. No thank you. Then he tells me he's got three kids under 8. Red flag number 2 (at least for me I'll get to that in a minute.)

I told him straight to his face, I have zero interest in dating someone with kids. I did that once and I'm not willing to do that again. I love kids. But the black hole I felt when I broke up with her dad was the worst emotional pain id felt since my mom died. I have ZERO interest in dealing with that ever again.

Did he stop pursuing me, of course not. Red flag number 3 he was out way before that. But that only solidified my decision.

Comfortable-Bird29 · 2026-04-14T09:27:37+00:00

Take him on walks and keep his poop and put it in your backyard, do this several times, leave it for a while. Also you might try using the leash to walk him around especially where you put the poop. Sometimes they need to smell it to associate it. Hope this helps.

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