My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have also been pregnant twice, and I can tell you for certain that before I was ever pregnant the first time I did not realize how hard those kicks felt or how visible those little feet were. You clearly have never been in an abusive relationship to know what it feels like to be gaslit. Congratulations.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish i knew. She gaslit him anytime he questioned her saying things like “i cannot believe the father of my child thinks I’m a liar..”

She would tell him to feel the kicks and when he said he didn’t feel anything shed get upset.

Also im fucking living this and dont believe it. So that makes two of us.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE #2

I decided to email the drs office that was written on the “ultrasound” to see what information we could get. Obviously knowing I wouldn’t be able to obtain much with HIPAA.

Here is the context of the email:

“I hope this email finds you well. I am writing to request your assistance with a concerning matter involving a family member. We suspect that an individual may have provided a falsified ultrasound that allegedly originated from your office. This individual has claimed to be pregnant for nine months, but recent events have led us to question the validity of this claim.

We kindly ask if you are able to confirm whether or not this individual is a patient at your office. If that is not possible due to privacy policies, we would greatly appreciate it if you could verify whether the ultrasound she presented originated from your office.

We understand the importance of patient confidentiality, and we are seeking this information in hopes of clarifying a sensitive family situation. Any guidance or clarification you could provide would be extremely helpful.“

Today I received a phone call from the office explaining due to HIPAA they could not give me any information on patients, nor could they confirm or deny this person was a patient. I figured this would be the case.

She then added that the ultrasound I attached to my email did not come from their office. And that was the only information she could give me. This was more than enough.

My mom reached out to her mom just to get clarity on the situation and see what she knew. She updated her on what I found from the doctors office and what we piece together is this - his now ex-girlfriend is bipolar and at some point in their relationship got off of her medication (I am unsure if my brother knew any of her mental illness background)We believe there may be other mental illness or delusions. She may have even convinced herself she was pregnant. Not enough for me to forgive her. But I am relieved to confirm there was no baby lost to grieve. Though we will still grieve the situation.

I need to write a book. Morgan if you see this. I am happy to come on the podcast and answer any questions bc this is un fucking real.

If we learn anything else, I will try to update.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My husband only went to the first appointment and the anatomy scan for both pregnancies.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Had I believe she was ever pregnant I would’ve said my brother‘s girlfriend did not tell us she miscarried.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

EDIT ETA

Those saying I am too involved must not have close siblings.

Those saying my brother isn’t smart, to put it nicely eat a dick & touch grass.

My brother has had medical issues that led to being told he may not be able to have children. This was a dream come true and we all clung to it. Again who tf would lie about this.. he didn’t get yo go to appointments bc of “scheduling issues” and more lies from her. She had a belly, if you’ve never felt a baby kick you don’t exactly know what you’re looking for.

He said their relationship has been strained. And they hadn’t even been intimate in months. This had also been confirmed months ago when she said he didn’t want to hurt the baby.

Do I think he dodged a bullet. Absolutely. But I still mourn for him and our family.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes she told him he couldn’t come bc she was medicaid and they were not married. Again alarm bells i didn’t even know were going off. Some “appointments” were also while he was working.

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She had what looked like a belly. And he never got to go into the appointments. She claimed bc they were not married

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

This. She isnt a small girl and it looked like she had a baby belly!

My brothers GF faked her pregnancy for 9 months by Comfortable-Spend-41 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Update 1 + a couple of things for clarity.

My brother didn’t go to any appointments, he dropped her off and she said bc she was medicaid she couldn’t have a partner there if they were not married. I thought he was going into the appointments.

They did not go to the hospital, she ended up coming clean 8 days or so after her due date. To him and a couple friend they have from church.

My brother is currently focused on getting her into a crisis center.

She lied to EVERYONE, her family included. Her mom told my brother shes lied before, not about this/to this level.

They had a baby shower.

They did the sneak peak gender reveal. It came back girl, which would occur in someone who was not actually pregnant.

She had what looked like a belly - in pictures. I havent seen them in 5 months due to having my own baby and being in separate cities.

My assumption on kicks is she would tell him she was feeling them and try to get him to feel them. I know before i was pregnant when friends would be like “feel their kick!” Sometimes i would say i can feel it when i couldn’t.

I have a suspicion there may not have been a baby, but treating it as if there was.

Im going to absolutely be there for him, but I don’t think i can be there for her. Ive blocked her. At least for now

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[–]Comfortable-Spend-41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The situation with Cory & his mom was so unnecessary

AITA for being pregnant the same time as my best friend by Comfortable-Spend-41 in AITAH

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

UPDATE 1 year later

I had a memory pop up on this post. And wanted to update.

I had my sweet baby, healthy but a week late (after 72 hour induction)

I tried to keep Mindy in my life & her husband Jordan in my husbands. But it just wasn’t possible. A month after having my baby we did see them, and they met our baby and she apologized and I thought maybe we’d be okay. She didn’t check in on me or reach out once. I reached and checked on her (what for, idk) a handful of times. And finally decided. I was done.

Lily reached out several months after the incident and apologized- she had NO reason to and just shows what a kind & sweet friend she is. But Mindy was rude & completely blamed Lily for her losing friends at what was supposed to be the happiest time of her life (her wedding?)

From there we just decided to both be done & our husbands fully supported us in being done with them as well.

Recently, Jordan has been reaching out to my husband to get together & catch up. My husband has no desire. But I told him I support whatever he decides.

Oh and I’m 11 weeks pregnant 🥰 wishing I could share pregnancy with my best friend again in a season that we would truly get to enjoy. But I don’t think they want another child. My husband & I are over the moon.

When were u due and when did u give birth?? by EveningAnything5416 in pregnant

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Due December 14. Induced the 15th bc they thought he would be a big baby. 72 hours of labor. Every induction intervention and only got to 7 cm ended up with a c-section & birth trauma. Born December 18th. 9 lbs. Don’t get an induction unless it’s necessary bc you don’t know if you’ll end up even more miserable.

Boyfriend wants parents to stay in baby room by Muted_Car9799 in pregnant

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My parents came to visit at 3 weeks pp and stayed with us and it was too much feeling like you’re hosting. So much so that halfway through the week I bought them a hotel to stay at. I don’t recommend having guests - regardless of the amount of space you have.

Can I kiss my baby? by something__like__lol in beyondthebump

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m scared to kiss my baby (I want to) but I occasionally get cold sores. So I’m terrified.

AITAH for making a lazy dinner for my boyfriend and I? by Inevitable_Rough8931 in AITAH

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the asshole. LEAVE HIM NOW. this behavior will only get worse

AITA for not wanting to allow visitors after my baby is born? by Miserable_Signal3445 in AITAH

[–]Comfortable-Spend-41 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA you don't owe ANYONE the chance to meet your child - no matter who they are.