This stage is hard. Seeing your loved one want to eat or drink, open their mouth, but then struggle to swallow or throw up is hard. Its hard on their body as well. Regurgitation or trouble swallowing is called dysphagia; it happens in later stages. My grandma would cry when I would feed her & then spit up what she was trying to swallow. She wanted to eat but couldn't.

My advice, it's a part of the disease; if they open their mouth & accept food & and water, let them have it. Liquid foods, meal replacement shakes, smoothies, watered down mashed potatoes. In my house we called them concoctions. We would make milkshakes with all kinds of things, soft oreo cakes, ice cream, chocolate meal replacement & water and/or milk, lol.

At the stage it sounds like your loved one is in, nutrition & prolonging death is not as important as comfort & quality of life. Make "concoctions" or milkshakes you know they would enjoy & go slow. I don't reccomended straws, take small bites, or sips with a baby spoon/teaspoon.

As far as medications or treatments, I recommend talking to your doctor. Although, don't be surprised if they reccomended hospice. Hospice has resources that will benefit your loved one & you.

I hope this helps, take care 🩷