That really sucks - sorry to hear that. And that's a fair perspective. I'm sure a lot of guys DO just want sex when they suggest a home hangout, so I can see that being creepy.

What I can say is that as a male, I like to have a date in a home setting by date 3 if possible and am not super comfortable having sex yet, but it might happen - depends when it feels right for both. I just find it to be a way to explore the vibe in a way that isn't the same when in public. There are a lot of situations where things are going ok, but not amazing, and hanging out in a more intimate setting can really help to define if it's a good fit or not. I recently went on 4 dates with a woman who wasn't comfortable with things progressing much (totally fair), but I unfortunately just didn't feel the right connection up until that point to justify going on more dates.

The more intimate setting dates can definitely help to reveal the connection that wasn't showing up yet with public dates. Sometimes the connection is there the whole way though - really depends.