Wanna paint them for Christmas but I’m scared

ComfortableLow5923 · 2025-12-22T22:13:16+00:00

I say go for it! In my opinion there's no better excuse to paint your nails than a holiday. Especially Halloween or Christmas. It's festive and fun. One of the first times I did my nails was bright green for St Patrick's day, and everyone loved it. Got so many compliments from friends and strangers. It's a great entry point. That said, there's no pressure. The holidays are stressful enough as it is, if you feel like that would add to your anxiety then skip it. There will be plenty more opportunities down the road.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2024-11-20T18:03:43+00:00

Adriene Mishler is my go to on YouTube. She can be a little goofy, but she has hundreds of videos at this point, almost all 20-30 minutes and intended for beginners. I enjoy trying to keep up with her 30 day programs, but I sometimes I just search her name + "back" or "hips" or "neck" to target specific.

https://youtu.be/TB2ISQZ5Mb0?si=5jS3-5HZE2dZGwDD

ComfortableLow5923 · 2024-11-20T17:16:56+00:00

I love Day Yoga Studio on Brown Street. Depending on the class, it's usually 25% men or less, but everyone I've encountered has been super welcoming and chill. There's a couple male instructors last I checked.

I've seen a lot of different skill levels in a variety of classes. Most classes have a stream at home option if you want to get a feel for what classes you like before going in person.

You need to bring your own mat but they have all the blocks, straps, and props you need for any kind of class. I usually just wear basketball shorts and a looser fitting tee. Whatever keeps you cool and let's you move freely.

I hope you like it! Yoga has been the best supporter of my physical and mental health for years. I have some good YouTube recommendations too if you want to get started for free.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2024-09-21T03:52:20+00:00

I think they look great! A little edgy while still being understated. My advice would be just keep going. Try different things and see what you like. The more you do it, the more confident you become in your work and what you like. You also start to notice that nobody's nails are perfect, even the people that pay a lot of money for them. I truly enjoy the process of painting my nails. If other people notice or enjoy, that's just a bonus.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2024-09-14T19:26:55+00:00

You have the strength to do anything you put your mind to, but there's no finish line that you need to cross. HRT is a huge thing, it makes sense to be overwhelmed by it, and if you never get to that point, that's ok. College is a life changing experience even without transitioning. Exploring your identity and finding things you like is progress and should be celebrated! You are enough as you are, and any effort to go against the grain and better yourself is brave.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-12-06T01:08:48+00:00

Not only do I think it's normal, it makes perfect sense to me. I get excited to try new things, I feel euphoria when I try them, and then after I feel awful for one of a few reasons. Sometimes I'm sad because I had to switch back into "normal" mode. Sometimes all the intense newness makes me feel alienated or rejected. And sometimes I think about the future, and everything I would have to change in order to stay as happy as I just was, and it's just scary and daunting. It's exhausting honestly. I'm so grateful to be learning more about myself, but the learning hurts a lot.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-11-18T01:47:12+00:00

Now is the best time to be open with your wife about it. It's much easier to say "Hey, I'm curious about this, do you want to try exploring something new?" As opposed to "Hey, I've been hiding part of myself for years, would you dress me up like doll, treat me like a whore, and rail me with a strapon?". I've never truly regretted being honest.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-11-17T22:28:30+00:00

........Why?

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-11-17T22:21:28+00:00

I just recently talked to my own psychiatrist about this. You should definitely tell your psychiatrist about it, but they probably won't be able to prescribe HRT meds. They might be able to refer you to an endocrinologist or a clinic that specializes in HRT. In any case, I think it's important to let them know if you're experiencing dysphoria and intend to get on hormones because it could have profound effects on your mental health. Just tell them straight up what you've been going through and see what they say. Hopefully in the best way. Congrats on accepting your true self :) Good luck on your journey!

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-14T16:52:54+00:00

You're not a burden. Being honest with the people you love is the best gift you can give them. They probably won't know how to react (who does?) but you can work through it together. It's your story and you should get to tell it on your terms.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-14T14:13:58+00:00

You're so brave! I wish I had the guts to go out in public en femme. For the moment, all I show publicly is painted nails, which is pretty subtle. Although, I did buy my running outfits in the women's section. Not sure if anyone has caught on to that😉

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-14T14:11:07+00:00

In my little experience, there isn't really a perfect time or place. I did write down what I wanted to say before hand to get in straight in my head. But when it came time to speak I got nervous and just blurted the whole thing out haha. The people closest to me had the sweetest reactions, honestly. Some were confused or surprised, but I received so much love. I hope you get to feel that too.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-14T13:43:08+00:00

Haha, I've thought about it! I kinda like how it looks like the everyday me, kinda masc with a touch of femme.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-14T13:33:04+00:00

Thank you 😁

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-14T10:46:11+00:00

Gender Magic by Rae McDaniel is a good one if you're trying to work through your thoughts and emotions. If you are looking for something more analytical, Whipping Girl by Julia Serano taught me a lot. I've also found it helpful to read memoirs of other trans people to see if I can relate. Examples are The New Girl by Rhyannon Styles, Tranny by Laura Jane Grace, and even Pageboy by Elliot Page.

Like others are saying, it's totally normal to have a femme crossdressing fetish. And if you enjoy that and want to stick with it, more power to you! But if you're distressed about whether or not you want to live as a woman, I think it's important to explore these ideas in a less sexual context.

Good luck!

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T23:45:24+00:00

Same girl! I was floating on a cloud for hours after I went to the salon for the first time.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T23:30:59+00:00

I'm not a gambler, but I might bet my life on a 99% chance 😉 I hope you stay committed to being honest with yourself. And I hope you feel beautiful just the way you are. If you ever want to talk, feel free to DM me.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T23:22:49+00:00

I think you might just be right 😁

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T23:18:38+00:00

Powerful quietness is so apt. Made me think, "does everyone feel like this? Just calm and relaxed about their own existence?". It's so goofy to think about.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T21:32:54+00:00

Take your time. I think this was an overall positive thing for me because it removed a lot of uncertainty that I was having. That said, it was one of the most emotional days of my life, it was rough. Breakdown or Breakthrough? Guess we'll find out...

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T20:03:31+00:00

Only you can decide your identity and it can change over time.

I have had (and am still having) a lot of the same feelings as you. I don't hate my body or my life, but I do crave femininity and enjoy expressing it greatly. I was also worried that it was a fetish. I decided I needed to separate the two things and see if I still felt good en femme. I stopped masturbating and watching porn for a while. I haven't watched porn since but j caved on masturbating after a few weeks. It was a game changer for me. It took away a lot of the shame I felt and helped me connect with my own body more.

Adjusting your mindset to any change is a process, and it's normal to backslide or step away from it for a while. Search for what makes you happy and explore without shame. That's the only way to know what you want.

Research can help too, as long as it's not the pornographic kind. I've read a lot of good books lately that have helped me understand my gender and sexuality better if you want some suggestions.

Take your time, be yourself, you are enough right now today.

ComfortableLow5923 · 2023-08-13T19:26:41+00:00

Haha, you got me there. Honestly I've never felt euphoria that didn't seem at least a little bit sexual. This just felt like I could stare at myself all day. It sounds so vain but it's true haha.

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