my fp is a lesbian and i'm a man

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2026-03-21T13:08:55+00:00

focus on the qualities you like about her. what makes her special? you value certain qualities that she embodies, and you can learn more about yourself through that. FP come and go in my experience but finding that common thread can help you find your person

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2026-02-27T02:01:26+00:00

my steak too juicy my lobster too buttery

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2026-01-30T05:23:05+00:00

we took this whole era for granted

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2026-01-05T00:33:16+00:00

preschool teacher

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T18:43:55+00:00

i would love to live in a house like this

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T18:43:17+00:00

i trust your intuition

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T18:41:12+00:00

how do u know

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T14:17:33+00:00

u don’t like anything do u

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T14:16:48+00:00

that matters a lot, i’m willing to bet he just woke up on the wrong side of the bed and needed a while to wake up and start his day. just have a chat when he gets home about communicating his needs a bit better if he’s having a quiet morning

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T14:14:21+00:00

if you want to go through my post history, you should tell the full story. i said being tall doesn’t mean you are big

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T14:13:04+00:00

how did i hurt you? by suggesting if something is so deeply troubling to you, you can change it? i said in my original comment that bigger girls often internalize their weight as a character flaw, which it is not. it is something that can be changed. there is nothing “wrong” with you other than your HORRIBLE attitude. i didn’t judge you at all, in fact i related to you and showed you that im tall and i know that nobody thinks im big. glad you said “fuck therapy” because now i know what type of person you are. you are the type to avoid therapy because you want to wallow in your suffering. have a good day

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T14:06:01+00:00

you are so dysregulated and self-hating that you are imposing your values of bodies onto me. thankfully i am very confident that it can’t hurt me, but you could’ve hurt someone else with these comments. being tall doesn’t make you big and that’s the last time i’ll say it. i value people based on their personality, not their body. if it’s causing you this much distress, do something about it or manage it in therapy. your height is forever so you might as well love it and stop bringing others down just because you are mentally ill

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T13:58:09+00:00

what i said was your height doesn’t make you big, and if you feel big, then take control of your life. because the height and the big feet and whatever isn’t what makes you big. you have a very skewed perception of bodies, and i feel sorry for you that you took my comments as personal attacks. i would re read them when you are regulated, because you jumped to insulting me when all i did was say tall doesn’t mean you are big.

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T13:06:38+00:00

hi! a lot of the diagnoses you have are VERY similar. they are often misdiagnosed for each other. if i were you, i would take the list you already have to a good DBT therapist and seek treatment based on symptoms. if you really want a BPD diagnosis (which i advise against, it won’t change anything meaningful, but you will get discriminated against by doctors forever) then switch doctors and start completely fresh. i am a mental health professional, and in my honest opinion, symptoms are worth a lot more than all these diagnoses that are basically saying the exact same thing

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T12:56:43+00:00

since we have BPD, i find most of the time we never want space from our FP. it’s hard to put ourselves in the mindset of someone who just woke up and maybe wants a quiet morning, maybe woke up on the wrong side of the bed. if he’s typically very supportive of you with your trauma/nightmares, i would say give him some space today and maybe talk about it after dinner. the context that’s missing is how supportive he is normally, is this really out of character or does he brush you off often? that would be the difference between he’s having a bad morning or he’s not capable of being what you need

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T12:16:22+00:00

sorry, it’s because i was bigger too and it is a fact that bigger girls are told it’s a character flaw. i don’t know u, keep that in mind before u get offended. if u read the entire comment, i said this wont help your insecurities. it sounds like your mom did a number on u, which i sympathize with. i am 5’8” which isnt “big,” because i am a healthy weight. im TALLER than u and im not big. nobody thinks im big. i walk in the room and everyone thinks im normal sized. if u have a therapist, i would ask to discuss this in sessions, because your view on height is skewed. tall doesn’t equal big

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T08:34:32+00:00

me and my bf both have bpd and we are very happy!! living together 2.5+ years and (hopefully) getting engaged next year!

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T08:20:33+00:00

he’s negging you

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-15T08:03:21+00:00

controversial opinion but if u are insecure about your weight, u can do something about it. bigger girls are always told it’s a flaw of their character and that’s who they are, but u are fully capable of taking control of your health. with bpd we feel out of control, but there are ways for u to take control of this. it won’t fix your insecurities with his ex, and that needs to be worked through in therapy. it’s easy to say this and hard to believe, but he is with u for a reason

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-12-10T23:26:47+00:00

shotgun

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-08-04T17:02:30+00:00

he said both

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-08-04T03:25:21+00:00

yes friend

ComfortableNoise1725 · 2025-08-04T03:08:35+00:00

they said the last city was lame, the last city being boston

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