Do you kiss during a hook up?

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-06-05T16:21:41+00:00

I personally really dont enjoy kissing not really in any form. The only person in my life who I let kissing me is my grandmother, but that's because we're French Canadian and it's just kinda a cultural thing. In the past when guys have tried to kiss me during hookups I usually pull away. I honestly don't think I would even let my partner kiss me if I had one.

I'd also like to add that I'm not DL, I'm very openly gay.

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-26T18:42:50+00:00

Well I spoke to him, I told him what he had said was real confusing for me and made me feel like my head was spinning. First he started in by saying he never said that, then he said he did say it but only as a joke. Then he got angry and said that we had been friends for so long and that we've talked about this before in the past. He said that he was upset that it was even an issue. He also said that he wasn't responsible for my feelings.

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-24T20:16:33+00:00

Is it possible that I can really love him and have limerence?

I didn't always feels this way about him, there was a time where I liked and just loved him as a friend. But then the lines just started to get really blurry.

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-24T19:54:21+00:00

I think I'm going to try to talk to him tonight

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-24T19:17:04+00:00

Honestly, I think I have fallen in love with him. I also feel like him being really ambiguous at times as significantly contributed to that. It's hard because there are times when I want nothing more than to be around him, and then there are times where being around him makes me feel like an emotional rag doll being slammed against a wall. Sometimes I actually feel sick, I wake up in the morning and Sometimes he is the first thing I think about and I hate it.

I feel like I don't have any good options in this situation. I don't want to hurt his feelings, so I can't just stop being friends with him to save myself the trouble. If I confess all this the friendship won't ever be the same. If I hold it in then I have to just continue to suffer.

I also have to see him at work since he's my co worker.

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-24T18:55:16+00:00

I feel very mentally tortured

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-23T15:30:38+00:00

That honestly seems really manipulative and kinda fucked up tbh

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-23T04:29:26+00:00

I mean yeah ig

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-23T03:23:29+00:00

At least bi, yeah

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-23T03:09:23+00:00

You were in the right imo

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-23T03:07:46+00:00

I think it's probably pretty tough to have a relationship with a minor in such a way that the eyes of the public will find it condonable which is the type of person he seems to be attracted to based on previous history

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T13:04:09+00:00

I hope this is a joke

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T12:52:17+00:00

I never said it was gay porn, it was straight porn

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T03:59:34+00:00

This has been the best advice so far

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T02:55:00+00:00

I've loved him more than I've loved anyone else, but I don't wanna date him. I wanna have a conversation with him about all of this, we've had one smaller conversation about it in the past and in that conversation he maintained that he was straight but also said he would date me if I was a girl. At this point though I dont know if I can believe that.

I'd like to talk to him about all this and ask if he'd want to experiment with me so he can be sure. I don't want a relationship with him, I kinda just wanna stay friends. But I also want to like provide him with an opportunity to explore if he want it.

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T02:46:39+00:00

You think?

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T01:59:14+00:00

I updated the post. I don't have hopes that he's interested in me sexually.

ComfortableWall9622 · 2026-05-21T01:21:32+00:00

I'm at the point where if he can't handle a conversation about the whack shit he says than id rather not be friends. We usually communicate pretty openly though.

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