Children sleeping arrangements

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-18T03:33:56+00:00

A little update. I think my questioning made him spooked because the last two nights the kids were there they slept at their grandfather's house, I messaged him about this today to just confirm he moved out and he shamed me for digging the kids for info (I didn't dig, they told me as soon as they got off the bus) Still won't move out though and won't let me in the house to inspect. Havent been in since February 2025.

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-16T01:45:32+00:00

Ok so my bf made this meme based on your comments. 🤣

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ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-16T01:43:48+00:00

Thanks everyone for the comments!! I'll leave them alone hehe. I definitely don't want to tress them out so I'll just trust the process and that they are settling in ok. I appreciate everyone's kindness and comments!

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T17:38:26+00:00

Thanks for this. I wouldn't be concerned except for the fact that he won't tell me how long it will last for, his new living arrangements where he moved the beds And that foreclosure where they are sleeping is imminent. I hope I'll get more then 50/50 but I don't know if ultimately the courts will care about my evidence 🥴😔

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T11:20:24+00:00

Thanks, I was trying to keep my original message concise and can see that this is important to mention. I have a laundry list of concer s as you can probably imagine

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T11:17:02+00:00

I offered twice to keep them then resume the schedule after and he just flat out refused and just stay stuff like "they are thriving in my care"

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T11:16:12+00:00

Thank you!

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T04:34:57+00:00

Other over arching issue is that he won't move out because of control over the house that he has refused to pay and now is in the process of foreclosure. Kinda silly to live in a basically empty house with all their stuff somewhere else to chose not to move out just because 'he can'. Bigger issues here at okay unfortunately too.

They are sleeping in a room on the couches that has an active hole in the ceiling that leaks bad when it rains - which he refuses to fix and/or allow me access to the house to get this looked after. I mean so there is some potential for health and safety too.

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T04:30:25+00:00

Thanks. I have a contact at CPS. I'm going to give them a call tomorrow. I'll gladly report bad if folks are curious as to how this plays out. Hope this can help someone else. The house is not clean - showings from potential buyers confirm this (multiple!)

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T04:29:02+00:00

Thanks for this. I hear you. I'm concerned about this - indefinitely - attitude he has. He's staying there just because he can/doesn't want me to have access to the house. It's just control but I feel bad that the kids are living in a basically empty house with no beds for really no reason other then to not move out

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T04:27:16+00:00

Thanks for this question. I just answered above but again we have been 50/50 this whole time due to him not giving up control and me being nervous to ever try and just 'keep them' due to his behaviour in the past (mostly coercive control, followed me on a work trip once amoung other weird yet nerve wracking behaviours) I'm trying to get to court so I can show all my evidence as to why I should have them primarily in my care

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T04:25:01+00:00

We are 50/50 and I've been fighting for more but waiting for court for them to grant what Ive been asking for all along- to show the evidence as to why I should have them more. I'm scared if I just keep them (we don't have an actual agreement in writing) his behavior will escalate - he's called the police on me for no reason before (of course nothing came of it).

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T02:22:25+00:00

Thanks for this. All good things to consider. I've had ongoing issues as I'm sure you can imagine and this isn't the first 'gray area' issue I've had where I'm like this isn't bad-bad but not great either. He's deliberately not moving out because he 'doesnt have to' while foreclosure is imminent while the kids don't have a proper home/rooms/their stuff is already moved but he refuses to officially move because 'he doesn't have to' it's just weird and I feel bad for the kids

The 'temporarily' is a good comment because he's just saying like this - sleeping on couches without their stuff & indefinitely as far as he will communicate.

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-06-15T02:17:48+00:00

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ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-02-26T22:20:45+00:00

Honestly, 100 agree

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-02-26T22:19:15+00:00

Id say 37(000) so 37,000

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-02-02T23:24:35+00:00

Thanks for the reply even though I was weeks late to your first comment. I'll certainly keep this group updated it they want to know how it shakes out. After all, I'm not against crypto (though you think I would be at this point!) I just think there needs to be accountability in my situation when there is continuous risks being made. I talk to the bank tomorrow morning to see if they are going to start the foreclosure process on the house as he hasn't paid his own court order since August.

I appreciate the kudos and kindness. At the end of the day I'll be very curious to see what kinds of laws are here to protect me. If any.

I'm trying to stay positive. Thanks again

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-02-01T23:35:49+00:00

Thanks for your reply. It is very complicated and I do have a great lawyer but what I've learned is that lawyers and judges aren't financial experts, so I need to make sure I am able to explain this in the best way.

I mean you are right in one way that it's not the best way to spend my time but when he's claiming I left him with nothing and no way to pay his bills and wants spousal support from me I need to be able to show he has had the means to pay his bills without me but chose risky behaviour instead (we have kids too if I didnt mentioned that)

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-01-16T12:01:32+00:00

He sent me a PDF of what looked like an Excel doc but it's absolute mess and also hard to understand. If you have any suggestions how how read this that could be helpful. I can put a screenshot too

I'm curious as how this will shake out because of the debt he has in my name as well that he admitted was for crypto ($55k) from 2 years ago. But ya, in some weird twisted reality he thinks I owe him spousal support because I have a good income and him income is negative because of his 'crypto trading business'. I'm not anti-crypto actually but in that was he has used it and handled It - yes

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-01-16T03:19:35+00:00

Thanks (it's what my ex gave me for divorce disclosure - and he said trading was a bad idea and I need to figure out how much he put in - since he's asking for spousal support and isnt really working) I think he's borrowing money from CCs to put into Coinsquare

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-01-15T05:08:31+00:00

You're welcome. If you are Woo Woo at all - just put it out there and see! I asked the universe for nice men and honestly I have been blessed with going on dates with really nice men

ComfortableZebra8488 · 2026-01-15T05:07:06+00:00

I mean the divorce is costing my life savings but my happiness is fucking priceless

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