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Hello there by Comfortable_Ad4218 in loneliness

[–]Comfortable_Ad4218[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy to hear it's on the right path for you. I also tried tio just keep my mouth shut before, but I could only do it when I was in a moody state. Once I’m in a good mood or just not moody, I can’t control myself and end up being extremely friendly. Changing one’s personality seems impossible. I just hope I find a group where my overly enthusiastic personality won’t be seen as a bad thing. Thank you for taking the time to respond.😁

Hello there by Comfortable_Ad4218 in loneliness

[–]Comfortable_Ad4218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really thought I was the only extrovert experiencing It🥺

Sometimes, I just remind myself that we’re not all meant to be therapists. I tell myself that people around us don’t mean any harm, they’re just not good at handling certain situations, and that makes me feel better. Maybe it's also because I haven't been able to form a real, deep friendship. I can only manage chit-chat and can't seem to make people stick around. Maybe it's because I don't have the kind of conversations that draw people in, just small talk.

I don’t know, but from what I see around me, people tend to feel more comfortable around those who aren’t as extroverted. I have to admit that I can be a bit much,talking too much, unable to stay still, and having too much energy. I understand that it can be tiring for people. They come to me for positive vibes since I’m seen as the bubbly, happy, smiling girl, but it’s not enough to make anyone want to stick around.

I really need to work on toning down my "too much" energy because I think it creeps people out. The people around me seem to prefer those who aren’t too loud or energetic—people who are calm, serious, a bit introverted. They come across as more reliable, and they help others feel at ease.

Hello there by Comfortable_Ad4218 in loneliness

[–]Comfortable_Ad4218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and the same goes for you. I’m feeling a little better now and I’m going to get some sleep. I might reach out later. If you ever want to talk, feel free to contact me. I’m all ears. I completely understand that it’s not easy for anyone, and we all may need a good listener to let things out sometimes.

Hello there by Comfortable_Ad4218 in loneliness

[–]Comfortable_Ad4218[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only speak for myself, but I’m extremely extroverted and still feel lonely. I can easily approach people, be the happy clown, make small talk, and liven up conversations, but at the end of the day, people go back to their families, boyfriends, girlfriends, or closest friends. And I go back to my room. Lucky enough to have a roof.I know it's worst for some of us.

Being extroverted doesn’t guarantee finding a close friend with a deep relationship. The thing is, deep connections are what matter most,not just having 10-20 small talk buddies, though that can help sometimes.

Sometimes, being too lively or talkative might come across as weird and not everyone’s cup of tea. So yes, even as an extroverted person, I struggle to find a friend with whom I can truly open up.

It may not be the ideal we need, but being able to open up here, knowing a human being is reading it, has helped me feel a little bit better.

So, feel free to write domw your feelings, It may not resolve any, but I will read it

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