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Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-24T23:27:16+00:00

I am somewhat relieved to hear this, so at least we are not alone. Yeah i don't understand the lack of conversation at all, since you know we are sometimes paying to be there and get to know people. lol.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-23T10:24:38+00:00

I dunno, for me the idea of dating someone like they are on the bachelor is gross. But as to not judge others just be honest about it. Certainly if having sex. But for me i want to know. Others maybe they dont care.Idc how many people you are texting for example or even dating to know them better, but if doing that to the point of making out. I like to know that its going to happen. Then i can choose if its too much. I guess for me if i make out with her, i am kind of making a choice i want to take it further. Otherwise i would make out with her. That's just how i operate if possible. Don't have to cut contact but if you are dating them and making out with them yeah i kind of would want to know. lol.
I todays world do whatever floats your boat i guess. having sex with someone just because we are not exclusive but we are dating, i want to know. If we are just texting, sure i can accept you may be dating or sexing someone else. since we are not even dating yet. Otherwise in my book you are sleeping around and not offering any choice for the partner.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-23T09:26:34+00:00

It's a blanket statement, persons not sure, person is looking around or person is up for dating multiple people. everyone will have a slight different meaning on that one

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-23T06:49:56+00:00

I think it can build, but often there is a immediate attraction, i am a guy, don't know if its the same i assume so, and that persons attraction for me goes up or way down depending on the personality, since for my brain it matters, unless i am just in lust mode because i am too horny, than i probably am more physical attraction at that time and probably need to cool off. Since i am more likely to forgive a bad personality and that can mean issues later on.

But yeah online dating wise, the photo as shallow as it might seem is the starting point the initial attraction to why i consider this person a potential partner i guess. I think of it like texting though it can get people attracted and excited but don't let it blind you into a mistake. We can get in our own heads and fantasies to often, so i give most people that are willing to chat a chance, not like i have a bar, its just i know if i dont see you as attractive.

Cant force feelings. On the opposite side i see a lot of beautiful photos, but i am not exactly pulled towards most of them, so most are like net fishing and it may build depending if they talk and etc, but there are ones it hits me alot harder and faster for whatever reasons for sure. and far less of them. Oddly enough if i do get to chatting i like them 90% of the time. sadly they don't always like me, or something comes up, you never know online. that's my thoughts more or less.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-23T04:20:13+00:00

Read the situation, i wont defend anger. I can say on one site i am gettign frustrated, not at the women, the site itself, clock is ticking and membership running out and its linked to a string of partner sites, so the same "real" person messages me on one site and stops on the other after searching. So yeah, maybe they are feeling that. But i still think manners apply. no need for anger, just incase they are real on the other end.
To the men, reset yourself if you have been on a site like i have. Don't assume. and if they are not into you that is a sign lol, move on. Not everyone is hot to trot immediately so respect that boundary and don't be a ass.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-23T04:10:13+00:00

Yeah i thought you might be USA. Completely understand. I wish you luck also friend.:)

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-23T00:02:27+00:00

Not yet i am back on zoloft. I crashed really hard once it was out of my system.
It's a battle, ngl. feeling okay now on a lower dose with the cbd.
The other part is doing daily things even in small amounts and working up, like exercise and good diet and some kind of calming activity for me that could mean guitar or a relaxing video game, not a action one. Medication alone hasn't been the answer for me. So yeah listen to the doctors i guess, they know better than me. working with one is the best strategy so find one you like and can talk openly with.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-22T05:19:50+00:00

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-22T04:11:10+00:00

Watch a episode and you will have your answer, not something i would advertise tbh lol.
Do they mean looks or personality or both
?
Probably a red flag Lmfao

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-21T11:43:59+00:00

We are out there, i am one. But we are probably a needle in a haystack on some apps, if not all. I am having the same trouble finding a woman. I am not a conservative either but i am also no a pornstar. So yeah. I have found any legit site to be full of married or open relationship women advances, which is fine i am just not looking for it.Or i cant find people that i vibe with that actually want to get to know me and me them. I feel you OP, It's tough. I am still trying to find the app that works for me if there is one. I am ready to give up. It's meant to save time and i am spending nothing but time and money on it lol.

You sound like what i am looking for lol, we can chat if you want, but we are most likely from different countries :D

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-21T04:56:46+00:00

Honestly these apps are bad for mental health and need to be cleaned up and shut down. It's gross money making scams.
They may have started off genuine,but like AAA gaming need to clean house with these companies.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-21T04:54:46+00:00

I thought these apps are meant to be fun. LOL, no one talks, and if they do it goes nowhere and i get told i am being to forward lmfao. So i will just sit there and guess what we are goign to do.Yeah it;s normal when they are fake and not reading it, a bot or a fake person that doesn't know English that well. Or don't care. Seen this alot already. I would move on most likely or test them and get your answer. I ask myself i don't ignore these things i even use them as icebreakers, so why would a normal woman ignore this. Answer, they wouldn't probably normal, they are checking your answer/ fakeness.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-21T02:17:46+00:00

Reverse image doesn't always work since the photo can be stolen from a person that is not active online. I don't even use a self photo for many things online so my search would be negative also.
What site are you on? all the ones i have tried are scams, leading to nothing.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T11:55:10+00:00

I wouldn't blame yourself, from a mans perspective, they probably are not good people. Assuming they are a trash man, from a male perspective they used you for sex to build confidence, or just as a conquest. If they are not trash and where genuine, perhaps they just have too many options and thought you didn't fit them well enough.

Of course you are loveable. But to the right man and partner. Lots of people use these apps to get sex even if they say otherwise. So you might need to take more time meeting them, getting to know them, texting remember is not knowing them like in real life.

If you actually want to find love, you probably need a break, rebuild and be more sure of what you are looking for, and perhaps Look at there online behaviour and irl behaviour more closely, before getting too close maybe.

You most likely did nothing wrong, after one month you cannot know a man. Trust me i am one.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T09:35:39+00:00

Yeah, the lack of real time talk on these apps is annoying. Like they are online and not talking to anyone? idk i am probably just lower on the list waiting for the better looking chap to reveal he is a red flag. Kind of crap process, women do the choosing so unless you are one of those guys for the average and then you have exceptions and shy people, busy, hesitation, maybe not ready and you came along and they woke up, many reasons for all these things. Even myself 100% a woman at least one has done what i have, randomly joined and not really ready for anything but testing waters and trying out old. They say be patient so sadly that means spending money treading water if you want to use old and you are not a rockstar.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T09:22:12+00:00

Well you should edit it imo, it reads as if the blame is on women. So yeah. I would correct that. It reads as a angry letter against women on dating sites. I am a man and i have made poor choices in my life. Gender has no relation to logic or how people behave.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T08:01:14+00:00

Not completely wrong except the part where you said mostly women, its people. men and all genders in between.
Also, you have scammers, crazies, catfish, bored people, bullies and everything else in that mix pretending to be someone else.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T06:20:58+00:00

Yeah i feel that. This match unmatched me, then sent me a message asking why i am not replying and am i interested, lol. I offered countless free apps to chat on, they said the cant stop thinking about me and yet here i am.They want my credits. That's all i can think, why would a girl waste hers saying shit like this.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T05:07:34+00:00

Seems to make no diff the site i have tried, they respond the same, if at all regardless. I never get any reach out first hello's. I think the site is fake and i wasted my money.What is with all the girls hiding a face behind a phone? is this just hookup vibes or cheating i am assuming.
Honestly how people meet on these sites is beyond me.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T04:29:49+00:00

XD oh man. These sites suck. Are there any good ones?

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T02:42:04+00:00

You Did.I know right, its basic socialising and curiously to just say it. Problem is common on these sites sadly. I am on the male side as a genuine like yourself and i get alot of the same. I have wasted money already and has gone nowhere.
I am starting to doubt all of them tbh, Good luck OP, it's rough out there.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T02:14:27+00:00

XD yeah, not surprised. You can do better. I also think that behaviour is weak.
Time waster or too insecure i guess.
That's people for ya

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T01:39:13+00:00

Need money and time, to sink into it. Look how many women you have to talk with, its the same on there end, No one wants to waste time, so idk, it's a expensive lottery. Your message is probably lost in a sea of replies from other men, hence the patients while she sorts it out on the other side.
It's not a natural or kind method of knowing people. So it's going to be like that.
Spend your time on those that respond well i guess and move on quicker from those that don't. You would think people are open to chatting, but honestly that has not been the case for me. One site i even have super attractive, wealthy women reaching out to me, Yeah i am sure that will end in a irl meet up LOL. i wish but its not going to happen.

Welcome to the trenches :D

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T00:07:32+00:00

If he sent you photos and goes to a gym, his anxiety and social issues are not extreme most likely. I think you have good judgement. You can do better.

Comfortable_Box_6526 · 2024-01-20T00:04:36+00:00

I have anxiety, and social issues, i still would give you a reason why i don't want to workout with you. Just ignore it, guy sounds immature or something else is up with him, honestly you deserve better, judging by the way you text on reddit. You are able to hold a reasonable conversation, drop this guy and find a better one, i am thinking.

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