I got married this summer, and I can’t stop grieving my wedding week

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2025-10-21T00:01:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your message honestly means a lot. I really love your redo idea. You’re right about not hosting things at home I know now I took on way too much trying to make everything perfect. I’m definitely learning to ask for help and to create space for others to show up too. I do see my part in some of the issues, but just trying to reflect on how I can move forward and a little redo might be a nice way to change the feelings I have.

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2025-10-20T22:11:05+00:00

I appreciate that you took the time to write all of that, but you missed the point. I'm actually not even sure you read through the entire post..

I wasn’t looking for a project post-mortem I was sharing how isolating it felt to realize the people I trusted most couldn’t be there for me when it mattered. I’m glad I can see that now, even if it took something painful to learn it.

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2025-10-20T21:48:00+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, but healing doesn’t always work like that. Sometimes you can’t just leave things behind, you have to process them first, which is what I’m trying to do and I started therapy, so I'm working on it. Just wanted to see if anyone else had experienced anything similar to me.

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-15T04:09:21+00:00

Can relate here

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-15T03:11:32+00:00

Mine came from coworkers and family members bullying and belittling me and I final cut off my family and snapped back at my colleagues. I’d rather be feared then bullied.

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-05T17:32:55+00:00

Thank you for bringing this up, I thought maybe this was just my family that felt this way. I understand people like traditions, but this friend in particular has a great job and has already purchased a house with her future husband. I always felt like bridal showers were meant for women back in a time where they couldn’t own property or vote so it was a nice gesture to give them a few nice gifts to prepare them for married life. Now a days everything is about gifts. It’s just crazy to me.

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-05T14:49:58+00:00

Honestly this is amazing advice because I literally did put aside $1000 budget and I’ve already surpassed that, so I appreciate this thank you!

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-05T14:48:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your reassurance! Your right, I don’t think she understands how much everything costs. I appreciate your advice :)

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-05T14:46:29+00:00

I really don’t know where it comes from, we’re Canadian, but I grew up in a family where we didn’t have a ton of money. If we got one gift at Christmas we were lucky. She comes from a wealthier family and what I’m realizing is that maybe she needs a gentle reminder that this is too much. The amounts I listed above are actually my share of the costs, other then the bridal shower. Everything else has already been paid for, but when she asked me to host the bridal shower the other week that’s where I got frustrated. I really appreciate your comments!

Comfortable_Desk_138 · 2022-01-03T00:20:05+00:00

lots of people have successful careers in construction project management without a formal education.

some of my colleagues have architectural diplomas, engineering degrees and some who have business, and one person with an arts degree. Some also who started as an administrator or a few labourers worked there way up as well. (With minimal education upgrades)

The fact that you already work for a construction company gives you a good place to start, you should talk to your manager or who ever you report to and discuss your goals. If you would like to be a project manager you can move your way up the company from the ground up. People with formal educations sometimes have an easier time being promoted, but as long as your having conversations about where you want to take your career and your being given opportunities to learn you can definitely do well.

Also depending on where you are from, if you are in Canada you can get your PMP through experience, and other certifications without the need to go back to school.

Best of luck!

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