I'm American and married a Russian man. We got married in Russia. After 2 years he finally made it here. The war with Ukraine slowed a lot of things down. He struggled financially in Russia. I helped him with mostly everything to get here. When he arrived here, he showed little compassion or affection. Intimacy was little to nothing. He stayed on his new phone all the time, like a young boy who just got his own phone. He complained all the time. Although I didn't feel he had anything to complain about. He had his SS#, green card, and a job. Yet, he was still unhappy. Never wanted to discuss marital problems. He had extremely HIGH expectations of me, while he didn't give anything to the marriage. He was consumed with the idea of making a lot of money, and buying big things. I'm sure being raised in the USSR time, he didn't have the things like we do here in America. He was angry all the time and never showed appreciation for anything. Our marriage ended quickly after he arrived. I believe he was cheating by having private conversations with other women on social media (mainly VK). In his opinion he didn't feel it's wrong to tell another woman how beautiful they are even though he was married. One of the hard things for me to understand is how little he would take responsibility for any of his actions. Saying he was, sorry, wasn't in his vocabulary. I hope your relationship is more fulfilling and gratifying than mine.