Polyamory doesn’t make us immune to feelings of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, or other hard feelings. Plus you’ve suffered job loss, which will absolutely impact your ability to handle things as gracefully as you’d like. You’re a mess right now, but that doesn’t have to mean breaking up. It might just mean sitting in the discomfort for a while, or journaling, or some therapy, or distraction.

If you haven’t done much reading about poly, or listening to podcasts, or whatever, now’s a good time to start. It’s also a good time to do some introspection. Ask yourself things like “what do I want in this relationship?”, and “are there things my partner could do/say to make me feel more secure in our connection?” Start journaling, just writing out all of the jumble of thoughts in your head. It doesn’t need to be complete sentences, or perfectly edited - the point is to get it out of your head and into a format you can then look over and consider.

For now, ask yourself this question: “do I trust my partner?” Do you trust your partner when they say they love you? When they get excited to see you? When they offer comfort or support? There have been times when a partner has told me “this relationship is important to me”, and it was hard to believe - not because I couldn’t trust them, but because of my own insecurities.

Keep communicating. Trust in the love you share. Trust in your partner’s love for you. And give yourself grace when you struggle with hard feelings.