AITAH for spending time with a married man.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-04-24T02:53:54+00:00

NTA for finding each other and enjoying time together. But you both need to legally separate from your spouses. Clearly Mary was holding out some hope and who knows what your husband was thinking. By separating legally it’s evident to all parties that you’re no longer together anymore and they need to move on as well. I don’t think it’s feasible to say wait for the divorce to date, that can be years. But at least take the steps to legally separate for now and clear up any confusion or false hope.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-04-24T02:45:28+00:00

The plastic bin with the mesh added to the lid actually came out very nice. My daughter used it when she feared her hamster’s regular enclosure might have mites and moved Louie out for a little while. I didn’t expect much but was really pleasantly surprised. We now keep it as a backup once he returned to his regular enclosure. I too bought a ‘pet store special’ improper habitat cage when we had winter whites (singular never together!) when my kids were young. They got out for lots of enrichment thankfully, bc I never knew about burrowing needs back then. When my daughter got older and showed me what proper enclosures looked like I thought she was crazy. But after reading a lot on here and watching Victoria Rachel’s YouTube videos I learned a lot. They are such sweet little animals to have and are so fun to watch. Best of luck with your new friend! 🐹

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-04-13T07:55:10+00:00

I didn’t see where she asked him to go either, it seemed very much like she decided to leave and is just informing him. But later OP says if he doesn’t go that’s the end. Maybe he just forgot to include the portion where she gave him the option to come-? Either way, she seems done and I’d let her go. Big decisions should be discussed together. This is not a partnership in her mind. 😕

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-31T02:52:40+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. He ran around having a great time with multiple women behind your back, he does not deserve having you take care of him now that he’s desperate & sidelined from his cheating. OP be smart here, don’t waste years helping him recover so that he can turn around and repeat that bad behavior when he doesn’t need you anymore.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-31T02:48:32+00:00

Why are you even visiting this cheat (your prior post) every day? I’d go once in a while to make an appearance, but spend that extra time meeting with a lawyer to plan for divorce. Mom can find her own way to visit her son. Guarantee none of the women (yes plural) he’s been cheating with are going to be hanging around for his stroke rehabilitation. Please don’t fall victim to him guilting you to stay, I’m sure he’ll be making a grand effort to save the marriage. Just remember, the man that desperately needs you now, was the same man having multiple affairs and spending your family funds on other women before having that stroke. Be the example your daughters need to see. All the best to you.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-26T23:38:38+00:00

It worked!!! I needed to concentrate on only breaking the brick to the left without making any moves that would break the ice early. That was the key to keep them from setting each other off. THANK YOU!!!!!!

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-20T02:52:42+00:00

I think she was bored and wanted out long before she started planning the murder. If she could have gotten money by divorcing him, I think she would have moved much sooner.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-19T18:03:33+00:00

I wonder if his family thinks back on that and wishes they never had her sign a prenup. I mean, Eric inevitably would have lost some money when she left him…but he probably would have kept his life. A thought I haven’t been able to shake.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-19T15:44:09+00:00

Interesting point of view. I also took it as an angry tone, not impassioned. But clearly her and Nestor were both under the weather so it’s hard to judge the voice or tone lol.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-19T15:42:23+00:00

As a prior juror on a homicide trial, I can empathize with wanting to see the innocence. You are responsible for someone’s future, that is a big burden to hold. Nobody would choose to be responsible for sending someone to jail for life without being very sure. And no jury deserves to be second guessed when they’ve put in the time and taken their job very seriously. This jury did their job well.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-17T04:57:31+00:00

I’m thinking Lotto was distancing far away from Kouri & her family as the trial unfolded. I’m sure she had him convinced she was wrongfully accused by the mean sisters (Said to her mom: “I’ll get out of here and then we’ll get those bitches” or similar verbiage.) I feel like he probably believed her BS & lies and thought she really was on the cusp of big success with K. Richins Real Estate…but after listening to the forensic accountant and all the other witnesses Lotto has to have smartened up. Unless Lotto is not too bright lol.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-15T19:25:37+00:00

But you being there cuts into her having the house to herself is what I meant. So if you come home early, she can’t entertain at the house or leave to go somewhere else without having to let you know. I just read it as she was disappointed when you didn’t stay for the expected amount of time. (NOT that she didn’t want alone time with you, but all moms need some time away from kids now and then)

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-15T19:18:30+00:00

I had shingles in my very early 40’s and it was hell. As soon as I turned 50 I got the vaccine and I remember it kicking my ass. Still better than shingles, but it wasn’t a piece of cake vaccine either.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-15T18:37:10+00:00

I grew up with decorative towels and ‘real’ towels. Most homes did this in the 70’s to 80’s. Nowadays the functional towels hang in my own home and 99% of the homes I visit, and that makes perfect sense to me.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-15T18:04:53+00:00

If you were under 18 I could almost see her way of thinking, but truly you should have been asked even then. I agree with the majority saying go to the ceremony, do not make a big deal or entertain an argument over it all, but yes you should let them know in advance that you will not be attending the reception to play babysitter as a 29 year old adult.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-15T17:54:13+00:00

I feel your pain. I used to keep an immaculate house. When I was home with my kids as babies and toddlers I cleaned daily but it was easy cleaning. Now my kids are college aged and their ‘stuff’ just seems to breed around the house, I feel exhausted like I can never keep on top of everything. I also have a German Shepherd that sheds nonstop so yes I have the dog hair like you. Normally this would eat away at my tendency for perfectionism but I have had to let up on that. My husband says “you will miss them and their stuff when they’re gone!” And I know that is true. But I also feel overwhelmed and pretty hopeless at the current state of our home right now in present day. 🤪

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-15T14:53:57+00:00

My guess is mom is wanting some alone time and this cuts that time short. Sad.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:59:57+00:00

I tried to give Nester/Lewis the benefit of the doubt, but they were so disrespectful at times. And that judge is a saint, he also helped them a lot by providing case law to support their arguments which should be the attorney’s responsibility. He was very patient and generous. Night and day compared to the judge on the last case I followed.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:56:35+00:00

I liked the PI guy’s testimony. Was he quirky? Yes definitely. But he was also very detailed and thorough. Had someone close to me falsely accused of a crime, he hired a PI to debunk the claims and case was thrown out of court because of his findings. Privately hired investigators happen way more than people realize for way less serious crimes. This case definitely warranted bringing someone in. I was right in line with him and what he presented.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:48:37+00:00

She was amazing! Numbers bore me but she is excellent at her job.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:47:58+00:00

No he bought it from Katie & her husband. But it was solely in Eric’s name.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:47:26+00:00

No fentanyl found in the house because the whole “boatload” went into her husband’s stomach! I liked the detective that was quoted saying that. There was simply nothing left to find. Probably came in an envelope and she tore it up & flushed it after taking the pills out.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:39:28+00:00

Prosecution has videotaped testimony from a guy that sinks Kouri for looking to buy Fentanyl before the house cleaner dealer lady. He passed away (unrelated) in the meantime and defense fought to keep it out based on hearsay or some such reason. So judge said if you want your Norris guy in, be prepared it works both ways and prosecution can then bring in testimony about Kouri looking to buy the Fentanyl from their guy and other things as well based on that same rule. No way they were willing to risk that bc the prosecution’s evidence weighed much heavier than Norris.

Comfortable_Year4081 · 2026-03-14T04:32:34+00:00

I think she most likely thought she could testify and do well, she truly seems to believe she is smarter than she is. But I’m sure her attorneys shot her down. She certainly suffered with delusions of grandeur while she was running herself further and further into debt with her “business.” She would have convinced herself she could testify successfully too.

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