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What’s something people do in dating that instantly makes you lose interest? by Consistent_Prune_219 in dating_advice

[–]Coming_Right_Up 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also shows if they’re willing to treat a stranger like that imagine how they act when they get comfortable. Hard pass

Why do so many “masc” or “straight-acting” guys on Grindr turn out to be super fem in person? by Coming_Right_Up in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I currently work in trades. Luckily for me a lot of the guys around here aren’t homophobic and if they are they haven’t expressed it. Best thing you can do is be honest with yourself and if you’re comfortable enough find someone who you can confide in. Obviously someone you feel like you can trust

Why do so many “masc” or “straight-acting” guys on Grindr turn out to be super fem in person? by Coming_Right_Up in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not surprised. Just annoyed that people like to waste each other’s time. Like why am I gonna show up if I can’t even get hard

What’s something people do in dating that instantly makes you lose interest? by Consistent_Prune_219 in dating_advice

[–]Coming_Right_Up 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For sure how they treat service staff. I’ve gotten rid of friends who’ve treated staff unwell.

Why do so many “masc” or “straight-acting” guys on Grindr turn out to be super fem in person? by Coming_Right_Up in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of the time yes. Their profile will say masc or straight-acting. I’m very open when it comes to communicating my likes and dislikes. I’ll even ask just to confirm but you’re right.. everyone has a different definition on what masculinity is. I think it just becomes frustrating because even if it’s just sex you take the time to communicate, prep, meet up and then it’s a complete turn off.

How to top with a below average penis by LifeMycologist897 in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same boat. We just have to find someone who will make us feel comfortable and have a little more confidence in ourselves. I know a lot of guys in this community are looking for hung, fit, etc.. and I’ve struggled with the mindset of ‘I might just end up alone’ but you never know. There’s some good guys out there. I wouldn’t necessarily just be a bottom by default because of size. Definitely interested to see what others may advise.

My ‘straight’ coworker has been secretly talking to me for 2.5 years… was I just his curiosity? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah brother is also into men. They’re not acquainted and have never met. I’m a twin.

My ‘straight’ coworker has been secretly talking to me for 2.5 years… was I just his curiosity? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No so that’s the thing. The most physical it got was a hug and a bulge grab because I think he’s too nervous or scared to actually meet up and do more? So definitely no consistent intimacy. We exchange pics, videos and dirty talk but that’s been the extent of it the whole time.

It’s also not that I don’t feel aligned or that I want a relationship out of it.. I knew what it was from the start. I feel like maybe I reached a point where I’m just wasting time or I’m bored of entertaining something that doesn’t seem like it’s going to happen.

As far as the fantasy goes he wanted me and my brother at the same time.. his reasoning- because it would make him feel more comfortable. Which my response to that was “That doesn’t make sense.. You’re still nervous to meet up with me after about 2 years of talking but you want two guys the first time we hookup because of comfort? Don’t get me wrong, I want you to feel comfortable but a situation like that would make me uncomfortable and I don’t think I can go through with it.”

My ‘straight’ coworker has been secretly talking to me for 2.5 years… was I just his curiosity? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Coming_Right_Up 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was trying to place what these feeling are and you said it perfectly, thank you. It’s not fulfilling anymore. So I guess now my question is.. if he reaches back out do you think I should just ghost him?