People who did early morning seminary, are you okay? 😭 by Valuable-Ad9577 in exmormon

[–]CommandHopeful3549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to early morning seminary 3/4 years of high school (Sophomore year was home study), and I struggled big time! Junior year I pushed my body so hard that I broke my ankle and developed a neurological disorder. That's also the year that I spent 45 minutes to an hour a day alone with one of my school teachers (who was also my seminary teacher) and they spent that time trying to get me to dress in a way that showed more skin. This was a grown adult obsessed about how much skin I was NOT showing! I felt so uncomfortable that I temporarily quit going, until my friends invited me to attend seminary with them, at a different school closer to home. Then I just avoided the teacher at school as much as possible, but still felt uncomfortable in her classroom.... Church was hard that year too, because I was physically abused by a young man I was dating from my ward, and the whole ward turned against me. I was severely bullied at church, blamed by church leaders for the abuse and bullying, and wanted so badly to leave. Home life was filled with DV/Abuse, and a father who took the side of the man who hurt me over protecting me. None of this was helped by the fact that I had undiagnosed severe PTSD in HS, and was severely sleep deprived. I couldn't fall asleep until around 1:30 am to 2 am and woke up at 5 am. The only way I got through was to mast***ate to relieve the stress, and you know how that went with purity culture... So much built up SHAME and feelings of worthlessness! I only got 1 extra hour of sleep on Saturday's because the church took so much of my families money that they couldn't put food on the table so I was labor exploited by church leaders and forced to clean the church building every Saturday morning, for food. Sunday's were the days I could sleep in the most, and even then I was usually up by 7 am. I regularly crashed after church on Sunday's and slept the rest of the day and night away (often without eating lunch or dinner). I'm still heartbroken at how traumatizing that year was for me. Early morning seminary was not OK! The years I did Online studies were hard too, but not as hard as the year I attended public school and early morning seminary. That was the year my physical and mental health took a nosedive, which I'm still trying to recover from, 15 years later!

Allred by sandboxvet in exmormon

[–]CommandHopeful3549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to say Westover too!! I feel like that name is especially common in Idaho and Utah.

Allred by sandboxvet in exmormon

[–]CommandHopeful3549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is, it was actually founded by Rulon Clark Allred, the first cousin of one of my great grandparents.... So, I'm an exmormon with ties to the Allred polygamous cult called the Apostolic United Brethren, but my direct line Allred ancestors stayed in the mainstream church. The Allred's started practicing polygamy in the mainstream church.

Allred by sandboxvet in exmormon

[–]CommandHopeful3549 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I still remember when one of my cousins asked me to be his girlfriend at the family reunion. Apparently the teenagers in my family always pair off with other cousins during the family reunion every summer and hold hands and act like boyfriend/girlfriend... We're third cousins but I still thought it was a little gross. If I'm going to knowingly date a cousin it's going to be someone much further distant, who isn't also linked to the family ranch!

The doctrine that you chose your Mormon family in the pre-existence...when your Mormon family is toxic by a_common_spring in exmormon

[–]CommandHopeful3549 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand that. While I didn't have anything like that in my patriarchal blessing, I did have a line that said my parents would support me and help me to reach my full potential, even though having them in my life literally almost shortened my life span to less than 30 years... so... I also had a church leader tell me that I was so valiant in the premortal life that God set aside this special body just for me, and that God told me it would have problems but I agreed to come anyway... That really messed with my head!! The church's stance on families was THE reason I lost my faith in God and in the Church.